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Old 11th March 2019, 5:40 AM   #1
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How rare are girls like this

I started a new job a couple months back where there's this Latino guy who looks 20 but is actually 30 and is ripped but he's kinda short (I'd say 5'7-5'8). Very friendly and funny guy. He seems happy all the time, and we started to hang out and I found out that he has this red head fiance who is smokin' hot. She's 22 and lives with him. She's built like a P*rn Star/Playboy bunny with natural curves and looks like a younger, healthier, more attractive version of Gianna Michaels. I couldn't believe it.. we work for a bank call center that gives bonuses and raises and even though I'm making $14 an hour, since he's been there for 5 or so years, he's making closer to $20 an hour.

Anyways I told him, wow you're super lucky, in which he said he knows. We talked about it, and I told him that I'm testing the waters myself, and asked how he found her.. He said he's been with her for 3 years and admitted things were a bit rushed. This girl hit him up online on one of those dating sites and she admitted that he looked a lot younger than what he says he was, but she thought he was really cute. They started going out and less than 3 weeks she was living with him. He told me that her mom was abusive growing up and that before he got with her, she was living with her sister who was going to leave the area and move to a different state (part of the reason why things were a bit rushed).

He told me he knows he is going to sound a bit bad, but because of the pacing, and noticing she was IG Model hot, he set a lot of ground rules and had her delete various social media accounts where she had thousands of friends, in order to recreate them and add close female friends and family.. which she obliged. He didn't have her work for close to a year and had her more like a maid/house wife for quite some time because he was very insecure and worried that she would be using him and might be seeing other men/boys behind his back. Well he said that she more than proved herself by always being loyal and he has her password to everything as well as a monitoring app installed on her phone, and he helped her get a part time job because they both agreed that their household would be ran traditionally and that he'd have a nice hot meal waiting for him and their small house cleaned when he got home. He also admitted to knowing where she's at all times because he set a curfew for her, and has home security with a cam that alerts him when she comes home which she never broke once. He said he isn't bad since he takes care of yard work, on his days off, would cook and clean with her, and usually treats her out on nice dates and adventures and on special occasions, get her gifts.

The few times he's had me over, his place was truly spotless, this foxy red head was super nice to me and to his friends and would always have snacks and drinks ready when we would play video games, watch sports, tv shows, movies or random sh*t on YT. This girl comes off a little clingy though, in which she kisses him a lot, gives him a lot of hugs, and wanted to know when it was her turn to have all of his undivided attention.. I've more than once caught her checking him out and totally ogling him, and when we eat lunch together at work, his lunch usually comes with little love notes that she'd write out and his phone would constantly buzz from messages from her checking up on him. I know where this girl works (part time at a grocery store), and I've seen a couple times guys hitting on her or asking her for her number, which she'd never reciprocate or brush off by saying they're happily taken. Well my friend/coworker admitted that he sometimes wished she was older, since he always pictured himself with someone closer to his age, but because he has a baby face and isn't all that tall, he's had a number of one nighters, short term girls, and 1 previous long term relationship and it's because he feels loved by this girl, she meets all his needs, and she has no kids, he feels that she's the one he wants to marry...

Anyways, I want to know what my chances are in finding an attractive, loyal, honest woman with no kids like this? I'd do anything to have a woman like that eventually but I really want to know are these women/girls rare? I'd love to find a girl who would look at me like this girl does to this guy and never entertain other men by being a bit conservative and not flirtatious. It seems like a lot of my female friends think it's ok to post on FB, hot actors, or meme's with hot guys, but this guy, this chick doesn't.. she treats him like a freakin' God, to the likes of Adonis. I just want to find someone eventually who would give it their all like I would, and love me just as hard and have the attraction equally mutual. Also where would I have the best chances of finding someone like this?
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Old 11th March 2019, 6:24 AM   #2
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Do you want a girlfriend, or a daughter-wife?

This dude has the latter, and the dynamic more than likely isn't as rosy as they both pretend. In other words, it probably won't last and what you see is a mere front.

Sounds tremendously unhealthy.
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Old 11th March 2019, 6:42 AM   #3
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You want a hot women who you can control. Start by searching for someone who has low self esteem.
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Old 11th March 2019, 7:05 AM   #4
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It sounds to me that he wants a hot woman who will love the ground he walks on. What man doesn't want that?
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Old 11th March 2019, 7:46 AM   #5
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OP, it's rare. Check out Donovan Sharpe from the Red Man Group. He and his girl have the same deal with social media.

Most women are feminists. Come to think of it, most men are too...or are at least conditioned to accept feminists ideals. To find a woman that values a her man to the point that she is completely opting out of hypergamy? I mean, he works at a call center. That's not really the epitome of the American dream or anything. He has to maintain a masculine frame at all times, or there is no way she would feel safe to give up her social media (her outlet for hypergamy).
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Old 11th March 2019, 8:13 AM   #6
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She's 22, she's vulnerable due to previous abuse and has clung on to this older guy who frankly is also abusive with his paranoid demands and his controlling and stalking behaviour.

One day she will grow up, wake up, realise the world is her oyster, and kick him to the curb and he will be "heartbroken", his dreams shattered.
I used to feel sorry for these young women, but nine times out of ten it is the older guy that gets the raw deal eventually.
He sees young sexy wife and ends up besotted with her, she sees filler relationship and a place to stay for a while until she finds someone better...
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Old 11th March 2019, 8:15 AM   #7
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Your friend sounds like a jerk. He didn't ALLOW her to work for a year? He has home monitoring and a curfew for her? One day, hopefully, she'll realize that she jumped from one abusive home to another and leave him.
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Old 11th March 2019, 8:16 AM   #8
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I see a lot of women who try to please their guy at the detriment to themselves....

So I don't think that's hard to find....

Take a play book from any abuser/narc/f boy/selfish and controlling person

You find a girl You like physically, pursue her and woo her, and when she falls in love or at the least really like you then you see if she does what you want by making requests, if she doesn't because she is at the least has self respect and wants a partnership not be under a dictatorship or at the most selfish and only cares about herself breakup with her and rinse and repeat until you find someone who does what you want. Pretty much it. Plenty of girls with low self esteem to go around or at the least have low value moments when they fall for a guy

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Old 11th March 2019, 8:24 AM   #9
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For what its worth, my husband treats me like gold. And in return, I treat him like the king of our castle. He has a nice home, meals prepared for him, typically clothes laid out for him when he is in his busy seasons at work.

I do that because I love and appreciate him and he appreciates the gestures.

But in no way, shape or form does he in any way attempt to "control" me or feel the need to "monitor" me and check up on me. He has laid zero 'ground rules' and doesn't TELL me to do these things. He's a grown man who actually isn't an insecure little boy. And we trust each other.

People, like your friend, who resort to "monitoring" the person they are with and set ground rules are insecure weak people.
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Old 11th March 2019, 8:48 AM   #10
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For what its worth, my husband treats me like gold. And in return, I treat him like the king of our castle. He has a nice home, meals prepared for him, typically clothes laid out for him when he is in his busy seasons at work.

I do that because I love and appreciate him and he appreciates the gestures.
See people who care about another person gives. If you like someone AND want to be in a relationship with someone AND have the mindset of making a relationship work more than likely your going to be giving. Your going to do things to try to make the other person happy. That's what relationship oriented people do.

Unfortunately what happens is that people with this mindset end up with people who don't share the same motives. They end up with people who just want to take. Both men and women do this. They get into relationships for whatever attracted them and when the person they are with clearly show they are not as giving they don't leave because they really like/love/is too invested. That damn like bias and one-itus gets ya everytime.

Selfish people are really good at choosing people who would do for them. Relationship oriented people really should be the same way. Not be selfish and take take take but I mean be adamant at looking for people who are givers too so they can enter into relationships where it's safe to be that giving.
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Old 11th March 2019, 10:40 AM   #11
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He probably makes sure she comes first in bed and she is very satisfied. She probably knows men like this are not as abundant as one might think and is happy to follow her alpha's rules because he knows how to really please her. If he isn't good in bed she wouldn't put up with the rules.
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Old 11th March 2019, 10:51 AM   #12
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Anyways, I want to know what my chances are in finding an attractive, loyal, honest woman with no kids like this?
There are lots of attractive, honest, loyal women in the world. In my world, I did not know many people who had kids but your social demographic may be different.

I'd start looking at Church. Get involved in your church -- go to Bible study, get involved in a ministry that speaks to you. Basically roll up your sleeves & help out. Even if your dream girl isn't another volunteer, she may the daughter or niece of the people you meet.

Another option in in the pursuit of higher education. Take a class somewhere.

You can also try looking through volunteer organizations. The world needs to be changed. Find a cause you care about & work to make a difference. You will meet like minded idealists.

Get a few anachronistic ideas out of your head. You are unlikely to find a model who is built like a porn star who will be fulfilled cleaning your house. It's a brave new world. Everybody who lives in the house is responsible for pitching it with domestic responsibilities
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Old 11th March 2019, 11:15 AM   #13
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No one knows what is really going on behind closed doors... I'll bet dollars to donuts that what he's got is messy a.f.---he's just good at hiding it from you and telling you what you want to hear.
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Old 11th March 2019, 11:30 AM   #14
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She's 22, she's vulnerable due to previous abuse and has clung on to this older guy who frankly is also abusive with his paranoid demands and his controlling and stalking behaviour.

One day she will grow up, wake up, realise the world is her oyster, and kick him to the curb and he will be "heartbroken", his dreams shattered.

He sees young sexy wife and ends up besotted with her, she sees filler relationship and a place to stay for a while until she finds someone better...
Agree with this. There's a very good chance she doesn't really love him as much as he thinks or he would be more secure and wouldn't feel the need to control everything. She's just running away from her past situation and sees this as an escape...for now. He seems to have issues as well. It's going to crash and burn.

As I say a lot, I work in a counseling center and see this exact scenario once a week
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I couldn't imagine myself telling a girl she had a curfew or installing security cameras outside my home to make sure she was back by her appointed curfew time. That just seems a tad too controlling to me.

As for your odds in finding a girl like that? Probably somewhere around 1 in a million. I think the reason he has what he has for her is because he kinda rescued her from the crappy life she had. He is very likely a hero to her and she treats him like one.

If you want to find a girl like that for yourself, you might need to do what he did. I do want to warn you though, I spent my entire young adulthood rescuing different girls and it didn't work out so well for me, so there is that. Many people simply cannot be rescued and even if you do manage it, that doesn't mean things will work out for you. You could also hunt for ultra-conservative/ultra-traditional type women. Or, dare I say it, find a foreign bride. My buddy with his Asian wife has a similar situation, but his wife isn't hot, just average. Still, she really takes care of my buddy.
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