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Old 8th March 2019, 6:43 PM   #31
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Gretchen gives good advice. You need to just sit back and stop stressing if he likes you or not just because you didnít get a kiss good night.

With some men itís all theyíre after. Seeing that he hasnít tried anything yet seems like he may see you as somebody he could have a good relationship with and doesnít want to ruin it by rushing things too soon.

It could just be itís a sign of respect.
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Old 8th March 2019, 9:41 PM   #32
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Gretchen gives good advice. You need to just sit back and stop stressing if he likes you or not just because you didnít get a kiss good night.
Yeah.
Concur.
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Old 8th March 2019, 9:50 PM   #33
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You’re right smiley1. i thought about that - on dates I didn’t like a man I couldn’t wait to get out of there. The fact he asked to go for a second coffee round after the date made me think he at least enjoyed my company — which made me happy as I also didn’t want to leave Gosh I feel like silly a teenager * eye roll * Let’s see though if it’s potential love or friendship.

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If he wasn’t interested then he would have not offered coffee so he could get away quicker. Whether it’s friendship or romantic interest, really have to see how it plays out.
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Old 8th March 2019, 10:51 PM   #34
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Youíre right smiley1. i thought about that - on dates I didnít like a man I couldnít wait to get out of there. The fact he asked to go for a second coffee round after the date made me think he at least enjoyed my company ó which made me happy as I also didnít want to leave Gosh I feel like silly a teenager * eye roll * Letís see though if itís potential love or friendship.

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well *of course* he enjoyed your company edgy....who wouldn't?
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well *of course* he enjoyed your company edgy....who wouldn't?
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Old 9th March 2019, 12:46 AM   #36
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Can't second guess him but eh , for a start only 12 mths out of a 20yr marriage , and another relationship that turned to shyt in between, if he's got any brains he's not about to go rushing back in until he's satisfied it's with someone he really sees something with.

So l'm thinking it's a wait and see l'm afraid. lf he contacts you again or shows any romantic interest next time if he does.
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Old 9th March 2019, 1:23 PM   #37
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I agree chillii. He actually said as much. That he will only commit to someone again if he feels that “pull” towards her. That he agreed to commit with this woman he was with, but realized he didn’t feel that for her. He said that until and when he feels that about someone, he prefers to be monogamously (sex-wise etc) non-committed to someone. He kinda pre-warned me on his current feelings about all this before we met when we were talking about our past and current interests - which I really appreciated, I think honesty might be my fave quality in someone. I bet his too, given what his ex wife did.

If I’m honest, I also prefer to be single than to be with someone I’m half hearted about... so I think he and I are on the same page in some way. I told him though that due to being single for a while now, I probably crave monogamy more than he does. I find it so refreshing and crazy that we could be so honest with each other. All this talk happened before we met though, and usually things change after you meet someone. Let’s see how it goes. It’ll be fine either way.

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