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Old 7th March 2019, 1:41 PM   #1
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Girl I had a major falling out with added me on Snapchat

This is odd.

Last year I had a very close friend I spent a ton of time with. I fell for her hard. She knew I liked her.

Then on the end of October through text she told me that she started dating somebody. I totally freaked out and sent her lets say unattractive messages. For a few months I tried to contact her through text, email and Facebook, basically told her I loved her and other dumb crap. She never responded to anything. I deleted her number in at the end of the year.

A few weeks ago I installed Snapchat and somehow she was in my suggested list, along with lots of other people I haven't talked to in a long time who aren't in my phone. For the hell of it I add her and send a message, "Hey you were in my suggested list, how you been?"

Yesterday I get a notification that she added me on Snap and sent me a clip of two dogs playing. I sent her a message a few hours later asking if she got a dog and if she ended up moving. She hasn't replied.

That may be the end of our re-connection and it's random. I have no clue what she's thinking.

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Old 8th March 2019, 2:01 AM   #2
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I installed Snapchat ... she was in my suggested list, along with lots of other people ... I add her and send a message ... she added me on Snap and sent me a clip of two dogs playing. I sent her a message a few hours later asking if she got a dog and if she ended up moving. She hasn't replied. ... I have no clue what she's thinking.
Hi T-Rexus, the title of this post really should be "Girl accepted my Snapchat invitation". You want to know what she's thinking, but we can only speculate. Most people probably accept invitations of people they know. It probably doesn't mean any more than that. I suspect that you want it to mean something more, but it probably doesn't. Keep in mind that she didn't reach out to you. She accepted your invitation, but that's what people do.

With that said, is there something you are hoping to accomplish? Are you wanting to discover her relationship status, and possibly become her boyfriend?
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Old 8th March 2019, 2:47 AM   #3
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Sheís trying to be friendly or polite without getting to close that you blow up at her again. What if your goal? Iím not sure this type of thing can be salvaged. Trust is broken
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Old 8th March 2019, 7:44 PM   #4
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Up until now she's completely ignored me for four months. So it just strikes me as really odd. It's past the point of just being friendly or polite. She let the invitation sit for two or three weeks.

Another odd thing is that about an hour ago I got a notification that she was typing. I checked about 30 minutes later but there was no message so I guess she wanted to send me something but changed her mind.

And no, I never blew up at her, I told her that I was hurt and frustrated. I said that I felt she led me on, which can probably be interpreted as blowing up at her. Then I confessed everything to her, though I assume she blocked me and didn't read anything I said.

Still it's a little annoying getting these tidbits from her because I want so much more.
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Old 8th March 2019, 9:39 PM   #5
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And no, I never blew up at her, I told her that I was hurt and frustrated. I said that I felt she led me on, which can probably be interpreted as blowing up at her.
Ok, then whatever you call this:

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Then on the end of October through text she told me that she started dating somebody. I totally freaked out and sent her lets say unattractive messages. For a few months I tried to contact her through text, email and Facebook, basically told her I loved her and other dumb crap.
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Up until now she's completely ignored me for four months. So it just strikes me as really odd. It's past the point of just being friendly or polite.
It's not odd. She did not add you to snapchat out of nowhere. As shydad said, the title is 'girl accepted my snapchat invitation' and sent a photo of her dogs.

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Still it's a little annoying getting these tidbits from her because I want so much more.
.... it's a dog video.

You were friends. She didn't lead you on, from what you've posted here.
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Old 8th March 2019, 11:52 PM   #6
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The leading me on was from when we were spending time together last year. She knew I liked her and we kept doing couple like activities.


I just think it's weird she even accepted the invitation and then almost sent me something today.


Either way I probably won't hear from her again.
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Old 9th March 2019, 12:02 AM   #7
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She was probably going to have a chat with you but didn't want to risk being accused of leading you on again. So she felt it was safer to stay away
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Still it's a little annoying getting these tidbits from her because I want so much more.
You might want to reign in your desires for now. I don't see your wants being met here. Realistically, what you have here is a rare second chance at communication. If you can send a single message, and then wait for her reply, even if it takes days, you might rebuild her confidence that it's ok to message you without you getting pushy and talking about your feelings for her (which she does not appear to share). If you show good self control, possibly you can have normal communication. If that happens, and she sees you're not acting the way you did before, maybe she'd even consider hanging out together again. Having realistic expectations will be important.
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If that happens, and she sees you're not acting the way you did before, maybe she'd even consider hanging out together again.
Potentially hanging out together as friends only. She's not interested in you romantically.
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Old 10th March 2019, 2:06 PM   #10
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Being honest, while I miss her to death, I don't want to spend time with her just as friends. That mistake was a the main reason why I'm in this mess now.



Also she's the kind of person who has no problems being close friends with guys who are crazy about her.



I wish things turned out differently for us and it's frustrating that I'm getting little bits from her. I rather it lead to something or just no contact.
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She was probably going to have a chat with you but didn't want to risk being accused of leading you on again. So she felt it was safer to stay away
That probably is it. She was going to start talking and then remembered how things ended. We were best friends for many months but it ended poorly.
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Old 10th March 2019, 4:50 PM   #12
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Being honest, while I miss her to death, I don't want to spend time with her just as friends. That mistake was a the main reason why I'm in this mess now.

Also she's the kind of person who has no problems being close friends with guys who are crazy about her.
Sounds like you were fully aware that you were just friends. It was really up to you to choose whether you walk away and reuse to settle for less than romance, or to pursue a GENUINE friendship. Genuine means youíre not spending time with her under false pretences, hoping she will change her mind, or dreaming about her and fantasising and adoring her. For her, the friendship is simple because she is not interested in more. This is for your own benefit more than anything, to have some self respect and donít hang on waiting which will cause more pain. She chose someone else, and you canít make someone fancy you. You donít want friendship and more isnít an option, so stop trying to make contact and move on with your life and chase a girl who wants you.
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Old 10th March 2019, 4:58 PM   #13
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Human life is hard enough to figure out without adding what someone does on snapchat to the pile. I would disregard anything that doesn't involve real interaction.
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