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Old 3rd March 2019, 2:00 PM   #46
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I didn't message that many successful women on OLD because I didn't meet their requirements. Many of them required men to have equal or better income, so that eliminated a lot for me. Others required equal education level, which I also did not meet. Out of several hundred "successful" female profiles I saw and found attractive, I probably messaged less than twenty.
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Old 3rd March 2019, 2:22 PM   #47
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I didn't message that many successful women on OLD because I didn't meet their requirements. Many of them required men to have equal or better income, so that eliminated a lot for me. Others required equal education level, which I also did not meet. Out of several hundred "successful" female profiles I saw and found attractive, I probably messaged less than twenty.
If these women didn’t have all those requirements and you found them attractive would you have messaged?

If a woman had more resources than you would it make any difference if you found them attractive and they were also a pleasing person?
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Old 3rd March 2019, 2:58 PM   #48
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My observation is that all else being equal, generally 'normal' people who don't have lofty expectations or a somewhat distorted image of themselves go in and out of relationships without too much trouble whatever their social or financial status.

As I said in my previous post, those who are actively looking and still not finding anyone after a long time (ie years) are either not that bothered about finding anyone or self-sabotaging in some way.
I have noticed that women who slip in and out of relationships quickly and frequently often have personalities that I would describe as outgoing, friendly, and likable. More extraverted than introverted. More bubbly (not in an annoying way, but just easy to talk to and "nice"). And considering this "personality" aspect, I haven't noticed a difference between the less and more successful types, TBH.

The only common denominator has always been the personality thing, and of course, the way they look. Pretty girl next door type, or those in designer clothes equally. Even those who run around in yoga pants and sneakers or flip-flops on a daily basis, with hair up in a bun. As long as they are sufficiently outgoing and friendly, and friendly-looking, women have few issues making dating a "success" (whichever way you want to define it).

It applies to bank executives with super-high salaries, as well as teachers or administrative assistants with lower incomes. In my experience, men in general don't care about education and profession and money that much, as long as she's easy to get along with. And if they do, it's more the other way around: if you have two equally friendly, easy to-get-along-with females, nice and kind, and decent looking, those with the maxed out credit cards and no college degree lose against those with a stable career and a stable 401K.
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Old 3rd March 2019, 2:59 PM   #49
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The majority of men would hands down choose an executive with a good personality who doesn't hate men and knows how to have a good and healthy relationship with a man over a hateful and bitter unemployed woman who only knows how to have an antagonistic relationship with a man. Self described strong and independent women are similar to nice guys.
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Old 3rd March 2019, 3:10 PM   #50
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If these women didn’t have all those requirements and you found them attractive would you have messaged?
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If a woman had more resources than you would it make any difference if you found them attractive and they were also a pleasing person?
I've dated a few women with more resources than me. It's not a factor in my decision making process.
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Old 3rd March 2019, 3:15 PM   #51
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Almost certainly.I've dated a few women with more resources than me. It's not a factor in my decision making process.
I hope to find a man like you
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I married a woman with a degree from Princeton who does very well for herself but she has the kind of personality that makes a man want to build a life with her. She actually wants an equal relationship instead of an adversarial one and she knows the difference. When a woman can make a man feel like life is better with her and she truly has his back she could president of the United States and will still be attractive. If my wife ever ran for president I would happily be first dude.
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Old 3rd March 2019, 3:40 PM   #53
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OP, other than the teacher do you think you have had men decide against you because of your income/position? If not, I would just look at it as that particular man's views and a sure sign he wasn't a good match for you.
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The only common denominator has always been the personality thing, and of course, the way they look.
Yes, I agree that personality / character (and approachability I guess) is the main factor along with a healthy outlook on life, at least past a certain age.

Like everything, 'success' is in the eye of the beholder anyway.
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Old 3rd March 2019, 4:04 PM   #55
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OP, other than the teacher do you think you have had men decide against you because of your income/position? If not, I would just look at it as that particular man's views and a sure sign he wasn't a good match for you.
I haven’t been dating long I’m pretty recently single. I get initial attention because I have been told I’m attractive but I’ve been told 3 times I am a “high flyer” “out of their league” “just want an average woman”.

Not in a hurry to find someone but it would be nice to have happen at some point.
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Old 3rd March 2019, 4:08 PM   #56
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I married a woman with a degree from Princeton who does very well for herself but she has the kind of personality that makes a man want to build a life with her. She actually wants an equal relationship instead of an adversarial one and she knows the difference. When a woman can make a man feel like life is better with her and she truly has his back she could president of the United States and will still be attractive. If my wife ever ran for president I would happily be first dude.
How come I got the impression you’re a good guy, not someone who would sexually harass an intern
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Old 3rd March 2019, 5:11 PM   #57
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The thought that guys sit around saying...."nah...don't want that one, she's the CEO of XYZ company and makes too much money....no thanks"...Its just ludicrous on any level...The only guys that may not want those types of woman are maybe low achieving career losers....So what, they aren't in that woman's sights anyway.,..


Another thing to consider...

After a certain age (probably 40-45), it starts to matter less anyway...People at that age aren't looking to build lives, buy houses, have kids, etc...Most of the people that I know that have paired up at that age really didn't pay too much attention to any resumes or careers...If they align on the important criteria, and get along well, its great...At this point in life its usually "what's mine is mine and whats yours is yours" anyway...

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Old 3rd March 2019, 5:43 PM   #58
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OK..I should have given a more elaborate answer...

This is a common woe of the unsuccessful(in dating) women who now think that it can't possibly be that they are either physically unappealing or have a personality that doesn't appeal to most men.....so it must be because they have a good job/career...….Well....total nonsense..

Let me dispel a couple of ideas that are commonly bandied about...

"Guys are intimidated by successful women"...forget that...No guy I know of would ever admit to that, in fact most guys welcome that....I mean, just because a woman knows another woman that is an idiot and landed a good catch doesn't mean anything...

"Alpha type guys don't prefer Alpha type women, they will butt heads all the time"...Another ridiculous notion...In fact the opposite is true...Alpha male and Alpha female energy aren't typically the same anyway...Most Alpha men I know have women that are pretty high on the alpha scale themselves...They become a unified force and often create awesome lives for themselves...Know plenty...

"Guys need to be needed by a woman",,, Are we all 3 year olds? ...C'mon...this is just completely ludicrous.. No guy worth a shyt will care that he doesn't have a woman that needs him to be a typical donkey...Most guys welcome the fact that their woman is independent and isn't reliant on them for everything...

Here is the only issue that I see...

Some women have been "hardened" or even "masculinized" by the corporate experience...So busy trying to one up their male colleagues that they lose some of what attracts men to women...The looks, the warmth, the femininity, the style, etc. etc….Sure, that will certainly kill off the appeal for a lot of guys.. But that has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not a woman is successful...There are tons of successful women that understand this and don't lose that part of themselves.. They don't struggle to find men, either..

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Yep , spot on.Everything TF explained here is the very core of where it's all at.
And a lot of women do go round sprouting all the bs to themselves, their friends, but those types have usually lost the very essence of being a woman. The truly smart woman realizes she doesn't even need to be any of those things to be successful.
ln fact being that way is just throwing her most natural asset, out the window to the dogs.
Any guy whether business or just life , enjoys dealing or working with a warm and feminine woman , 1000% more than the cold hard ass l'm so clever chip on her shoulder.
And to top it off he's even less likely to do the wrong by her or be too cut throat , than the B2tchy hard ass.
You see this stuff in some female Priministers , bank CEO's , they've held onto still being a woman.

That's always been a huge thing about my brothers w, her mother is exactly the same. She's still such a warm and feminine down to earth woman, l actually enjoy talking to her 10 fold more than most woman and it's no surprise at all my bro seems to love her more than ever even after 35yrs.

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Yep , spot on.Everything TF explained here is the very core of where it's all at.
And a lot of women do go round sprouting all the bs to themselves, their friends, but those types have usually lost the very essence of being a woman. The truly smart woman realizes she doesn't even need to be any of those things to be successful.
ln fact being that way is just throwing her most natural asset, out the window to the dogs.
Any guy whether business or just life , enjoys dealing or working with a warm and feminine woman , 1000% more than the cold hard ass l'm so clever chip on her shoulder.
And to top it off he's even less likely to do the wrong by her or be too cut throat , than the B2tchy hard ass.
You see this stuff in some female Priministers , bank CEO's , they've held onto still being a woman.

That's always been a huge thing about my brothers w, her mother is exactly the same. She's still such a warm and feminine down to earth woman, l actually enjoy talking to her 10 fold more than most woman and it's no surprise at all my bro seems to love her more than ever even after 35yrs.
Not all successful women like doctors and CEO’s are cold hard ass*s. That’s a stereotype I don’t subscribe to.
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Not all successful women like doctors and CEO’s are cold hard ass*s. That’s a stereotype I don’t subscribe to.

Yeah exactly , sort of what l was trying to say actually.
And it's very obvious that you don't either , matter of fact you seem like a very warm person, so nice to see.
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