LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Transitioning > In Search Of...

How to initiate?


In Search Of... Having a hard time forming friendships or finding companions, lovers, or associates? Is someone pursuing an unwelcome relationship with you? Talk about your experiences here.

Like Tree1Likes
 
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 24th February 2019, 12:15 PM   #1
Established Member
 
crispytoast's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2019
Posts: 186
How to initiate?

I have issues with initiating past cordial friendship. There is often women in class or at work that chat me up a lot. Work is off limits for personal professional reason but class? I am generally good looking man, well groomed, good hygeine, and have things going for me in life. And when I actually have build intimate connection women in past have loved dating me. But since I end last serious relationship I don't know how to initiate to get a number or a date. I usually just brush it off and focus on life but i do want someone to share my life with. Help!
crispytoast is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th February 2019, 12:20 PM   #2
Established Member
 
alphamale's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Detroit, MI :lmao:
Posts: 35,860
ask the ladies that show the most interest, that you would like to take them out and that you'll need their #
__________________
"Every form of refuge has its price"

- The Eagles
alphamale is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 24th February 2019, 1:12 PM   #3
Established Member
 
crispytoast's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2019
Posts: 186
Well to be fair the number part is not so difficult. I tend to f*ck up in the texting communication phase more because I communicate much with face and body language. I am old fashioned, I prefer to call but I guess lots of women don't like this, something about pressure?? So I don't anymore. But with text so much gets lost in translation, same reason I do not so well on dating apps.. I can get matches easy, and if they actually meet up, more dates is almost a guarantee, but the in between match and meet is hard for me. Plus last girl I meet through dating app had herpes so I don't use them anymore. And yes I choose to not have sex with her

Also it's to be noted I live in a somewhat rough city, there's more crazy people than sane people here, secret tweakers, corrupt police, missing people, assaults/murders, and there is a history of young out of town women (which is 90% of the college) getting kidnapped to sex slavery. Women are very distrustful of men and rightfully so. I never had so much trouble getting women to meet up with me outside of our usual environment as since I moved here. I understand why but it really sucks. Honestly cannot wait to move but that's not for at least 6 more months.

So I guess the better question is how do I communicate via text? Usually if I ask "hey when are you free" or "when is a good time for you" they will set date but then ghost me. Obviously something I do is wrong? Would love some input from the women here, how do you like it how when a man text message with you?

Last edited by crispytoast; 24th February 2019 at 1:20 PM..
crispytoast is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th February 2019, 1:43 PM   #4
Established Member
 
alphamale's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Detroit, MI :lmao:
Posts: 35,860
remember, crispytoast, that women are all different and have various styles of texting. keep texting short and casual, no talking about politics or religion or trump...most people have the same problems you are having when it comes to texting so just relax

great name by the way
alphamale is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 24th February 2019, 4:20 PM   #5
Established Member
 
crispytoast's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2019
Posts: 186
Thanks man


Yeah I don't talk those topics or really much at all. I try to keep it to setting up a date. Personally it feels desperate or insecure to me for someone to trying to maintain a text conversation with someone that I'm not intimately involved with already.
crispytoast is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th February 2019, 5:18 PM   #6
Established Member
 
preraph's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2013
Posts: 24,989
If someone feels pressure because you call, they aren't interested, period. Plus they have social problems!
__________________
"I care not much for a man's religion whose dog and cat are not better for it." -- Abraham Lincoln
"The greatness of a nation & its moral progress can be judged by the way in its animals are treated." -Gandhi
preraph is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th February 2019, 8:30 PM   #7
Established Member
 
crispytoast's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2019
Posts: 186
Maybe about the social problems. But it was a lady friend of mine that said she hated when she gave a guy her number if he calls her, because she doesn't necessarily want to talk to him on the spot (might be at work or busy with something else). And if he had texted instead she can reply when it's comfortable for her or when she's in a more flirtatious mood. Also that rejecting the call makes her less attracted in general.
crispytoast is offline   Reply With Quote
 

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Urgent!!! Must end my "no contact" game and initiate the contact Ganderson Breaks and Breaking Up 3 20th April 2004 6:49 PM
Why did my friend initiate sex when he already knew how much I like him? Daffy Friends and Lovers 8 10th April 2004 10:23 PM
Breaking the "No Contact Rule" and initiate the contact Ganderson Breaks and Breaking Up 11 11th March 2004 3:52 AM
Initiate vs wait boomerang Archive 2 2nd June 2001 10:49 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 10:19 AM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2018 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.