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Old 2nd March 2019, 2:28 PM   #31
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Hey,
Looking for some thoughts on this.
I am a late 30s guy who has sampled online dating over the past few years.
I have met perhaps 15 ladies in this time (and still searching for the right person although I have made friendships with 3!!)


What has generally surprised me with the online dating is how confident, articulate, well travelled and high achievers the ladies are.


I suppose my perception initially was that ladies on online dating sites might be a little bit less confident, less achievers etc.


Why do you think women on online dating sites are so confident?


I feel like I am a decent guy , however my personality is best suited to a girl who is somewhat less of an achiever, a little more vulnerable and so on.


and where are the less confident, more down to earth women, or where can one meet them?
I just posted a thread about the opposite thing. Why can’t confident accomplished women get a chance with you? What do you mean by down to earth?
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Old 2nd March 2019, 2:31 PM   #32
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The more educated and accomplished a woman is, the harder time she has finding a suitable partner in general, as most women don't find men who are less accomplished than they are desirable for romance. So online dating is a typical route for these women to search from a wider pool.

Also, accomplished women are usually better marketers, know how to take and showcase those attention-grabbing photos that reel in prospective dating site dates.

For the less accomplished women you're seeking, you'll need to look under the radar. Filter to women with only a high school education or some college. Look at the profiles with pics that are less glam, more average.

In the wild, chat with women in service occupations - waitress, barista, store cashier, cleaning lady.
I wish I read this before I posted my thread! Great post. Thanks
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Old 4th March 2019, 4:36 PM   #33
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The more educated and accomplished a woman is, the harder time she has finding a suitable partner in general, as most women don't find men who are less accomplished than they are desirable for romance. So online dating is a typical route for these women to search from a wider pool.

Also, accomplished women are usually better marketers, know how to take and showcase those attention-grabbing photos that reel in prospective dating site dates.

For the less accomplished women you're seeking, you'll need to look under the radar. Filter to women with only a high school education or some college. Look at the profiles with pics that are less glam, more average.

In the wild, chat with women in service occupations - waitress, barista, store cashier, cleaning lady.
I think this is great advice, particular those filters might be useful as well.

The funny part is, when I was dating men my OLD experience was often quite poor and also, I found it difficult to find men who I felt had similar education, career, lifestyle etc as me. When I started dating women this changed drastically! I found that it was actually a lot easier for me to find that. So I think from my anecdotal experience, the pool of women who were impressive were a lot more than the men.
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Old 14th March 2019, 9:25 AM   #34
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I can easily say that in 35+ age group, there is about 10 accomplished women to 1 accomplished man. It's possibly less than that even, I remember browsing through 50 or so profiles and not finding anyone with similar education/career/lifestyle.


And that 1 accomplished man is chasing unemployed 23 year olds . That's why I gave up dating.
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Old 14th March 2019, 9:48 AM   #35
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And that 1 accomplished man is chasing unemployed 23 year olds . That's why I gave up dating.
What is the logic here? Is it necessary to be with that one accomplished man? And in the end of the day, what does it even mean to be accomplished? If you're successful you don't need his money anyway.
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Old 16th March 2019, 5:00 PM   #36
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This is a terrible attitude. You are good enough for these women.

This is why quality women are single. Men aren't confident enough to up their game.
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