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Old 20th February 2019, 8:16 AM   #16
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If they were really about anything they wouldn't be on dating sites/apps...

Over inflated sense of worth due to the attention that in most cases isn't even real..

Its like judging your worth by Facebook likes...

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Old 20th February 2019, 1:44 PM   #17
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I canít be the only one whose hoping that meadowflower and foxhall live in reasonable close proximity to each other?

Problem solved op.
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Old 20th February 2019, 1:55 PM   #18
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I think these confident women ... have basically learned the lesson that if you want guys to treat you with respect ... and if they want to set high standards (and not let a guy walk all over them) they have to really project confidence and certainty--from the git-go.

Some of these women, I imagine, put up with lots of nonsense from guys in previous relationships. They're "correcting" to signal this time that they don't want to put up with nonsense. And they're signaling high standards not just to guys ... but to themselves.

There's also the possibility that you are just sensing deep confidence in a way that you wouldn't if you read the profile of a man touting his virtues. Not a criticism. I don't know.

But yeah, I think people are still figuring out how to find the right voice and tone on dating sites ... how to be confident but not arrogant ... confident and impressive but not unapproachable ... serious ... and yet fun and real. People are still figuring out how to find that balance.
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Old 20th February 2019, 1:58 PM   #19
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What I find ironic is that I am a reasonably successful woman with an impressive education & licensure. Being on OLD was one of the worst, most depressing things I ever did. There was so much rejection & negativity. It was demoralizing.
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Old 20th February 2019, 3:35 PM   #20
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Curious...it sounds like you're saying you want someone with low self-esteem.

Why would you want that?
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Old 20th February 2019, 4:32 PM   #21
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I would say he's looking for someone who is submissive, but in a feminine way. Let's the man take the lead, and be protective of her, her being a little more dependent on him. Not all guys like the new age independent woman.
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Old 22nd February 2019, 4:55 AM   #22
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I canít be the only one whose hoping that meadowflower and foxhall live in reasonable close proximity to each other?

Problem solved op.
Not overly likely.
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Old 23rd February 2019, 4:34 AM   #23
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@Foxhall you can message me if you like, when you are able to by Loveshack.
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Old 23rd February 2019, 5:41 AM   #24
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I think the Confident women are putting themselves out there dating and I'm not very confident and I have tried online dating the confident girls make a move and put themselves out there the less confident ones are waiting for a guy to make a move on them I wasn't expecting anyone to like me but a guy just started chatting with me then asked me out
look for them they won't be looking for you
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Old 23rd February 2019, 6:44 PM   #25
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Hey,


Firstly just to say appreciate all the replies, good to get the different perspectives on it!




Meadowflower, thank you for the message, cool I would like to message you.


I will check with loveshack people.


Obviously I am reluctant to put up a contact e mail or anything in public but we will figure out a way!
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Old 23rd February 2019, 7:03 PM   #26
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Meadowflower, thank you for the message, cool I would like to message you.


I will check with loveshack people.


Obviously I am reluctant to put up a contact e mail or anything in public but we will figure out a way!
You don't need to check with them, it's something that happens automatically. Once you have posted a certain number of times on LS and I think been a member a certain amount of time, your LS 'status' will change and then you are able to message other LS members (dependant on their LS 'status').
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Old 24th February 2019, 5:08 PM   #27
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You don't need to check with them, it's something that happens automatically. Once you have posted a certain number of times on LS and I think been a member a certain amount of time, your LS 'status' will change and then you are able to message other LS members (dependant on their LS 'status').

I see. I better make some more posts so!


well I look forward to making contact with you.


can be a true saying I suppose, meet new people from unlikely sources or when least expect too!
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Old 24th February 2019, 10:46 PM   #28
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It's such a conundrum. Even if you do choose to not use apps and find a date in public, the other person is in swipe-land and not worried about the public connection working out as much because they are in the freaking bathroom of the restaurant when you are out on your date, probably swiping on the toilet before your date is even finished! Know what I'm saying y'all? It's a total crap-fest of obscurity in the new-age dating world. It can get frustrating at times.
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Old 25th February 2019, 12:13 AM   #29
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What I find ironic is that I am a reasonably successful woman with an impressive education & licensure. Being on OLD was one of the worst, most depressing things I ever did. There was so much rejection & negativity. It was demoralizing.
Yep I feel you it's the same for me as a male but tinder not OLD (what is OLD btw). I know my self-worth.. it was kinda sh*tty going on a date with a woman and realizing she has nothing going for her and can't relate to what it's like to truly dedicate yourself to a degree or career. Thought at least the sex would be nice but even that I felt sh*tty about when the morning came. Had to delete the app after a few dates.
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Old 25th February 2019, 9:40 AM   #30
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(what is OLD btw). .
OLD = on line dating

It's a generic acronym for all dating that goes through a computer or phone app: Tinder, Bumble, match, OK Cupid, Plenty of Fish, Christian Mingle, Single Farmers etc.
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