Rejected

[mortensorchid]

I am feeling very rejected these days. Not just in the dating world but in general. I had a lot of dreams and they didn't happen as I wanted them to. I tried to have an acting career and no one will take the chance on me. I have tried so many things and I feel like I have failed. Friendships have moved on but I say with them that if they are going to rip me to pieces or forget about me, they were not good friends to begin with. Fall down 1000 times get up 1001. Is that all it's about anymore?

[Mysterio]

Is all about getting up and I think our personal expectations of our own lives has to be tempered.

[Happy Lemming]

You have a roof over your head, a warm meal in your stomach and clothes on your back. All of which you secured through hard work at a job.

 

YOU HAVE NOT FAILED!!

[Simple Logic]

You do realize it’s winter, you live in NE Ohio, the sun doesn’t shine enough, and getting depressed is an easy event?

[Wallysbears]

Maybe it is time to count your blessings and realign your expectations?

 

Making it in a career like acting...if your aspiration is “Hollywood” is practically impossible. Working with independent film writers or local community theatre is realistic.

 

Nothing in life is a failure if you learn something from it and make better choices the next time.

[alphamale]

chin up mortensorchid

[basil67]

I too haven't done a lot of things I hoped I would. But what it really comes down to is lack of effort on my own part. Have you put in sufficient effort and have the drive to make your goals happen?

 

With the acting, have you done a drama degree or done years at a drama school? Completed voice and singing coaching? Have an agent? I have a handful of actor friends and they've all done this. A couple ended up as household names while others struggled to find work despite all the hard work that went into other careers. It's such an incredibly difficult profession to be successful at.

 

Keep your goals realistic and work hard to make them real. And remember that nobody owes you a chance. It's tough, but it's all back to you.

[RecentChange]

I am quite curious, what drew you to acting and what was your goal?

 

I have some thoughts on the subject, but they may be completely off base.

 

Very curious to hear your response.

[mortensorchid]

I am quite curious, what drew you to acting and what was your goal?

 

I have some thoughts on the subject, but they may be completely off base.

 

Very curious to hear your response.

 

I was involved with a theater company for many years. Once I thought I was actually capable of doing it I started auditioning for parts. And I never got any of them. There were other issues going on within the company in the last few years which eventually lead me to say goodbye to it but it planted a seed in me that I wanted to act and I could do it. The goal was never Hollywood to be sure but I think they could have at least given me a shot at something. That now has me in a bad place rather bitter and feeling like I will never get anywhere. What pushed me out were a variety of bad decisions behind the scenes, an attitude developing there that has pushed me and a lot of other dedicated people out, and one gal leaning into ke over a Facebook post on the #metoo movement. I can safely say that her chewing me out over it is more part of the problem than the solution. But I was offended that she would be so nasty to someone who worked so hard to out her on the stage. I bet she doesn't notice that I am gone. She just keeps chewing others out. But I digress on that issue... That's where I got the motivation and want to try it. Hey, Shirley Temple could do it when she was 3.

[chillii]

Yep chin up , and someone said it's winter there, curl up in front of that heater and enjoy some wine and music.

 

To want and dream and try things is a gamble, that's why the norm don't do too much of it. But at least you tried things, be proud of that.

And acting , l'd say there'd be another 50million people out there with the same disappointment. Of all the billions of people out there there's only just a handful names in that business, so our not alone.

l get the getting back up, done a lot of that myself. But about 5yrs ago l thought and where did it get me this trying hard stuff, since then hands went in the air and l thought to hell with it, And you know what , it felt good and life's been damn nice since.

Some times we try too hard, yaknow, it's like the old when ya stop looking thing.

 

 

Good luck, and try hanging up the guns for awhile and just living , worked wonders for me.

Edited January 17, 2019 by chillii

[hotpotato]

Maybe it is time to count your blessings and realign your expectations?

 

Making it in a career like acting...if your aspiration is “Hollywood” is practically impossible. Working with independent film writers or local community theatre is realistic.

 

Nothing in life is a failure if you learn something from it and make better choices the next time.

 

Agreed! One doesn't need to be in Hollywood to be a success. I know of someone who does gigs singing, and does very well. She has a 3 story house, fancy cars, etc. There are some great opportunities in mid level entertainment.

[SevenCity]

You have a roof over your head, a warm meal in your stomach and clothes on your back. All of which you secured through hard work at a job.

 

YOU HAVE NOT FAILED!!

 

This is very important not to lose sight of.

 

I would imagine there are no less than 10.000 men who would gladly slit my throat to take over my life.

 

It may not seem that great to you, but to many less fortunate, our lives are the things dreams are made of.

 

Just think, we can go on a website to complain about our problems in our comfortable homes and millions are not sure where their next meal is coming from.

[hotpotato]

I am feeling very rejected these days. Not just in the dating world but in general. I had a lot of dreams and they didn't happen as I wanted them to. I tried to have an acting career and no one will take the chance on me. I have tried so many things and I feel like I have failed. Friendships have moved on but I say with them that if they are going to rip me to pieces or forget about me, they were not good friends to begin with. Fall down 1000 times get up 1001. Is that all it's about anymore?

 

Cheer up! Some people get their breaks later in life.

Being a dreamer is difficult. Failure is inevitable l, esp when we have high hopes. We can stay down or get back up.

 

I read a post on ig by Michelle kwan in which she said she literally fell over 80,000x!

 

When we see successful people, we don't usually see all their failures and setbacks. Maybe your fav actor got rejected a lot at first.

[mortensorchid]

Yes it is a combination of things that has lead me to feeling so bad. It's winter, it's depressing in general. I have also thought about how others have been very nasty to ke and how it's been one failure after another in the dating world. As well as the strife of trying to survive. Job is hard and I am trying to juggle it back and forth (I just closed the book on subbing for this outfit in my city and feel good about my leaving it yet depressed at the same time if that makes any sense). I am trying to get someone to sign my teaching license and doing the waiting game on it. It's been hard trying to manage 70 kids in one building. Hard some rocky days and very rough patches with staff and students alike. But we are in a better place with that. I just hope that I am doing things right at all times. And it's hard but I am surviving it somehow. Just want some happiness. I am going back to my shrink in another 2 weeks.

[alphamale]

have faith in God and believe in yourself

[elaine567]

Buy a SAD lamp from Amazon...

[chillii]

Has the shrink ever helped , they've messed a few people l know up even more.

 

 

Anyway ok so your in the thick of it right now and can't hang up anything.

Maybe you can lighten the load and think about a 12 mth plan to get yourself out of this and for life to be a bit more how you like it,

Give up the dating bs for 12mths for a atart, won't kill anyone the world won't disappear, that alone must be big stress for ya, take a break walk away.

And who knows , maybe you bump into mr right anyway somewhere else just minding your own business.

[LuckyM]

Your age matters here. About how old are you? Loads of people start over after age 40 or even 50. Depending on your goals and careers and hobbies. Acting shoud ideally begin when you are young.. After a certain age, directors will not pick you, unless you are perfect for the role. You can play roles 5-10 years older than youare. For women it is harder. I once took acting classes but I was too old for my peers and for almost all parts then. In NE Ohio, few opportunities anyway.

 

I have had a few missed career goals because I chose jobs with very high competition in desirable areas. I was probably too picky with women. People with careers and who choose a partner that is non competitive are better off.

 

Rejection is very distressing but you learn from it. No consolation.

[edgygirl]

The acting world seems to be one of the cruelest and hardest ones.

 

Can you use your experience teaching others about theater and acting? Maybe you can re-purpose what you learned, I'm sure people just starting would be very grateful to learn about that world from you.

 

I know how you feel though, we imagine our life will turn out in a specific way, that by a certain age we will have x and y, and when it doesn't happen that way, it's extremely disappointing and hard not to feel rejected.