mortensorchid Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 I am not the first person who has ever made a post like this at this time of year, to be sure, but I am going to try again. I am putting profiles up and I am going to try again to find a good relationship, one that may lead to a LTR and possibly something good. And I will approach it with a good attitude and hope. Life is hard but I will try again. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 I think having a carefree positive attitude is a good start. Giving off that kind of vibe is appealing. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 have a prosperous 2019 mortensorchid 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nospam99 Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 Life is hard but I will try again. Good luck to you. (Us) guys are azzholes so I don't have as much sympathy for male dating woes as female (or maybe I'm just a closeted 'white knight' ). But in any case I have a lot of hopes and good wishes for the LS ladies who are still searching for their SOs - and you are one of them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
edgygirl Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 Go for personality (rather than looks, social position or so) and all will work out. I've been getting much more compatible matches since I started picking by intelligence and sense of humor. I am also trying to be more positive and not bitter and it helps. Can be hard given the OLD challenges but not impossible Good luck!!! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 I will wish you "good luck." But, I will also remind you that while a happy relationship is worth searching for, happiness can also be found without a partner. The key is to find your own happiness, while you are searching... That way, when you find the right person they will simply be adding to what is already, a happy and fullfilling life. Best wishes! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Geraltt Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 Good luck, mortensorchid. I was about to offer all sorts of advice, but you've probably heard them all before anyway. I'll just wish you well and leave it at that. (By the way, is your username connected to the flower found in Rwanda, lapadis harketii? Just curious...) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 I'd like to add my "well wishes", as well. Crossing my fingers you find happiness in 2019!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
greymatter Posted December 30, 2018 Share Posted December 30, 2018 I certainly wish you well and will think positive thoughts for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 I wish you well in 2019! It WILL be an unforgettable year! Think positive and positive things will come back to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Fair Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 I'm thinking you and I have similar struggles in this area. I certainly hope 2019 is the year in which we both find love and happiness at last. Peace. Link to post Share on other sites
rightondude Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 new day new year new possibilities. go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 Good for you Morgan here's to a great 19. ps, when my daughter was little she had 4 cats but they all kept dying or disappearing. It was really sad and a very big deal . We thought ok no more cats it's just too hard on her. But l was telling another dad about it and he said no no keep trying cats can be hard especially on small acreage blocks but sooner or later you get a win. So we got her one more kitten, at last, a win , she grew up with him and had him for 9years. Link to post Share on other sites
I'veseenbetterlol Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 I am not the first person who has ever made a post like this at this time of year, to be sure, but I am going to try again. I am putting profiles up and I am going to try again to find a good relationship, one that may lead to a LTR and possibly something good. And I will approach it with a good attitude and hope. Life is hard but I will try again. I wish you lots of luck! Dating is difficult, but worth the trouble. Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 I will wish you "good luck." But, I will also remind you that while a happy relationship is worth searching for, happiness can also be found without a partner. The key is to find your own happiness, while you are searching... That way, when you find the right person they will simply be adding to what is already, a happy and fullfilling life. Best wishes! To me, a life that is missing a key component, a partner, isn't a fully happy life. A lot of people don't agree with me. A lot don't see it that way. But I have always felt an emptiness, something missing, a gaping emotional hole just waiting for the love and affection of another partner, not because I'm needy or because I'm co-dependent, or because I was neglected as a child -- I wasn't -- but because I want to share my life with another person. I want to see the smile on her face when we experience something amazing and for my heart to go, this is a great feeling. And what is one's own happiness? Each person finds happiness differently. Send me on a globe trotting tour where I can experience the most amazing experiences, enjoy delicious food, luxurious accommodations, tantalizing drinks, mouth watering vistas, luxurious sports cars, with my best friends, and I would still feel loneliness and an emptiness. Or maybe happiness is something that counts as a successful and rewarding career or a promotion or a $750K salary; I would still feel an emptiness and the need to have a significant other standing with me. So, what is happiness? To me, there's no replacement for the chemical changes that take place in the human brain when a person is in a romantic relationship, with everything that comes with that. Even studies have shown that relationships increase life expectancy and mental health, especially romantic relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 Even studies have shown that relationships increase life expectancy and mental health, especially romantic relationships. I would think the studies show a decrease in life expectancy and mental health due to romantic relationships Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 I would think the studies show a decrease in life expectancy and mental health due to romantic relationships Hahaaaa , what a classic. Actually l know a few that would for sure , no studies needed. Link to post Share on other sites
Geraltt Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 I would think the studies show a decrease in life expectancy and mental health due to romantic relationships Stats say that married men live longer than unmarried men. That might be because their wives get them to actually go to the doctor and otherwise pay attention to their health. Alas, married men are much more willing to die... Link to post Share on other sites
Wallysbears Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
I'veseenbetterlol Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 To me, a life that is missing a key component, a partner, isn't a fully happy life. Even studies have shown that relationships increase life expectancy and mental health, especially romantic relationships. I agree with you. In life I was never neglected, but I have found happiness w/a partner who cares for me. Everyone always talks about how great a single life is (to each their own) and I don't find anything special in that. There is something different living life together with another person. Link to post Share on other sites
fieldoflavender Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 Good luck to everyone and I think there has to be some comfort with being alone. There is no guarantee if you will find a partner or not, and at the end of the day, we have to be kind of ourselves. Link to post Share on other sites
fieldoflavender Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 I agree with you. In life I was never neglected' date=' but I have found happiness w/a partner who cares for me. Everyone always talks about how great a single life is (to each their own) and I don't find anything special in that. There is something different living life together with another person.[/quote'] Being happy with a partner > single. But single > being in an unhappy relationship. Anyone who's been in that boat would agree. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rightondude Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 A wise (and drunk) man once told me, "it's better to want what you don't have, than to have what you don't want." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Insoc Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 I am not the first person who has ever made a post like this at this time of year, to be sure, but I am going to try again. I am putting profiles up and I am going to try again to find a good relationship, one that may lead to a LTR and possibly something good. And I will approach it with a good attitude and hope. Life is hard but I will try again. Good luck, I don't do New Year's resolutions anymore, but 2019 is going to be a big one for me, my Divorce will be final in a few months, then I can start to move on with my life. IF you are on one of the dating sites, be prepared for some disappointments and lot's of fake people (Catfish) on there. I'm on Match, it hasn't been too bad but you got to know how to filter people and make sure they are real, I tend to only deal with people in a 50 mile radius, can verify they are real. I did learn one thing over the past 3 months of being on there, most of the Women I have met in my age range (40 to 50 or so) and went on a dates with, have really bad taste in Men they met on their prior and got serious with, along with many of their Ex-husbands, the stories these Women told me are unbelievable, one actually met a guy on Match, got serious, she bought a house they moved in together with both having kids from a previous marriage. After a few months, she found out he was a closet alcoholic and later he cheated on her. Another dated a guy from Match for a year, one day told him that she "Loved Him" at a social gathering, He grabbed her and pulled her into an empty room and said "Look, I like you, but I don't Love You". So when these two woman blew me off, likely because I was still separated, I don't feel bad because I don't think I'd feel great being with someone like that. Granted people are duped, but when I tell them my story and marriage, it's bad but nothing like that. lol It's sucks being 50 and trying to date, they say mid-life is the worst time to meet people because the baggage is bigger, if you are 30 or less, enjoy it now lol. Link to post Share on other sites
I'veseenbetterlol Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Being happy with a partner > single. But single > being in an unhappy relationship. Anyone who's been in that boat would agree. I never said a dysfunctional relationship.... Link to post Share on other sites
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