Epythamus Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 So, the past day, my crush left me on seen and I just kind of feel lost as to why she did (I'm 100% positive that i didn't say anything offending). This brought me to wonder how other people act when they get left on seen or ignored by the people they like or crush on. What do you usually do? Do you freak out? Act careless? Wait for them to initiate the next conversation? Do some investigations as to why they did that? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 In a previous thread, you asked about how to talk to someone you are crushing on without them feeling like they are in an interrogation. Could it be that you're reaching out too much and/or asking too many questions? If so, it would be why she ignored you. If this is worth continuing, you'd expect her to be reaching out to you too. If she's not doing this, then she's not into you and you need to let it go. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Epythamus Posted November 10, 2018 Author Share Posted November 10, 2018 In a previous thread, you asked about how to talk to someone you are crushing on without them feeling like they are in an interrogation. Could it be that you're reaching out too much and/or asking too many questions? If so, it would be why she ignored you. If this is worth continuing, you'd expect her to be reaching out to you too. If she's not doing this, then she's not into you and you need to let it go. No, I wasn't showering her with questions and I'm 100% certain I didn't say anything that would offend her because I choose my words carefully. She does reach out to me, but not always because as I said in my very first thread about my current crush is that she said she's not a social media kind of person. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 10, 2018 Share Posted November 10, 2018 I assume they are not interested and forget about them Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 She's just not interested in you and there's nothing you can do to change that. Sorry. You tried. Good for you. But she's not interested, so now you just leave her alone or accept being just friendly acquaintances. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 No, I wasn't showering her with questions and I'm 100% certain I didn't say anything that would offend her because I choose my words carefully. She does reach out to me, but not always because as I said in my very first thread about my current crush is that she said she's not a social media kind of person. In that case, you're simply lower on her priority list than other things she's doing. Link to post Share on other sites
Garcon1986 Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 This unfortunately is an innate risk of dating just as much as an innate risk of driving is meeting a crazy driver who cuts you off. Sadly the risk of dating going sour is much higher. But it comes with the territory. Link to post Share on other sites
Gretchen12 Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 How long has your message been left on seen before you posted this thread? Two days or two hours? Really a huge difference that. For impatient people, a few hours amounts to a long agony. I wouldn't get upset and make conclusion until about three days later. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Epythamus Posted November 11, 2018 Author Share Posted November 11, 2018 How long has your message been left on seen before you posted this thread? Two days or two hours? Really a huge difference that. For impatient people, a few hours amounts to a long agony. I wouldn't get upset and make conclusion until about three days later. I posted this about 4 or 5 hours after being left on seen. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted November 11, 2018 Share Posted November 11, 2018 It stings for maybe 5-10 mins but I'll forget about it after that and find something to do. Crushes come and go, you get used to it. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 12, 2018 Share Posted November 12, 2018 Yeah, same here, get that cold feeling, used to dwell on it awhile when young, maybe a couple of days, then it passes. Older, that cold feeling rarely comes, rather just chuckle at life, then next. As life passed, strangers became less important. Friends perhaps a bit more so. Quickest way to deal with crushes is ask them on dates. Don't worry about relationship status, not your problem. If a 'no', that's a clear rejection. Hurts, sure, if you're a normal human and like/are attracted to someone, but life goes on. Myself, after my mid-20's or so, I never went back to being friends with anyone I became interested in romantically and was rejected by. Business stuff, no problem. YMMV on that. Just not my cuppa. Link to post Share on other sites
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