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We see in the movies that most men are paried with younger women. If its the opposite. For some reason its a bigger deal.

 

I am 47. So what should my age range be in dating. Is 21 to young or is 67 to old. I don't want to have kids, but if the woman and I are great together. I could see having one child together.

 

Is a big age gap really to be considered. I have a group that i go to. On couple have to be at least 20 yrs apart. The man looks 70 the woman 48.

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Everyone is different.

 

My ex-husband was 7 years older than me. My current bf is 10 years younger. I'm in my 40's, and he is in his 30's. I look pretty young for my age...no one believes I am in my 40's when they meet me. So, we don't look like we're different ages when seen together.

 

I used to only be attracted to older guys when I was in my 20's. Now, I'm only attracted to younger men (but no younger than early 30's).

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As we age. I don't know what it means to be this age and that age. When I look at the movies. Even though Bogart and Bacall were about 24 yrs age difference. I would still put them together in real life and on screen.

 

We socialize with different people of all age ranges. At work the age range is 20 to 60 something. I don't feel a real age difference. Some physical looks things, but nothing jaring.

 

Being 47. I always get late 20's. In the last 7 yrs I have gotten as low as 24 and as high as 36. Being Black my skin may be a factor.

 

My Aunt and Uncle were 16 yrs apart and stayed together from 1969 to 2012.

 

Age is a funny thing. I think the decades sort of blend together. I think the 40/50 blend. 60/70, 80/90, 00/10's. They just blend together.

 

 

For me if I could control age. I would say for me. 30 +. A woman in her 20's. Unless she is done exploring men in all sorts of ways. Why bother settling down with any man. I think both sexes that 27 would be the prime time to settle down.

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I did the age range math of half your age + 7. So for me at 47. I would need to be with a woman that is 30 yrs and 5 months old. So that means a woman that was born in 1987.

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I once date a much older woman, I was 20 and she was 36, big mistake but learned a lot from it, but definitely could have done without the experience.

My current guideline (if I was single) would be twice the tens place in my age (so +- 6 years now, in my 30s) but its really up to the individual.

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Possible insight: I do my 'hunting' primarily on match.com. Every user, male or female, pretty much has to specify the age range they are seeking. I'm 64 and my search is set up for 54-67. But what I observe is: a) Most of the women that I see in my search results have a similar range to mine i.e. they only want to go 2 or 3 years older than their own age. This pretty much cuts out for me interest from a large proportion of women younger than 62 (doesn't stop me from messaging them if a lot of the other 'ducks line up'. b) I get quite of bit of profile views and interests from 'older women' - (just checking ... not counting any of the older 60-somethings, my profile was viewed by a 71 three days ago, 70 four days ago, 70 and 72 six days ago, two 73s nine days ago, 74 eleven days ago, 75 and 74 thirteen days ago, 73, 70 and 75 fourteen days ago, that's enough :D ). c) The youngest woman who has agreed to meet me is 56.

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Traditionally, it is supposed to be 10 years younger, at the most, or a few years older. But powerful, rich, and celebrities are different of course.

 

 

Forget the movies! Older male actors want to be seen with much younger ladies, as in the movie Café Society.

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I did the age range math of half your age + 7. So for me at 47. I would need to be with a woman that is 30 yrs and 5 months old. So that means a woman that was born in 1987.

 

 

I think under that particular rule, 30 is the bare minimum for you, not a target.

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When I was dating I had a 10 year rule.. my thinking is that if you grew up watching different cartoons then you have nothing in common and have too much age between you to actually fully understand the needs of each other.

 

10 years...

 

so for a 47 year old, 37 and 57

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When I was dating I had a 10 year rule.. my thinking is that if you grew up watching different cartoons then you have nothing in common and have too much age between you to actually fully understand the needs of each other.

 

 

"I could never be with someone who doesn't know where Wiley Coyote buys all of his anvils and rockets and stuff. It's not you, it's me".

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"I could never be with someone who doesn't know where Wiley Coyote buys all of his anvils and rockets and stuff. It's not you, it's me".

 

 

I told you is was Acme not Acne, we're done..... :laugh:

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Can never believe anyone takes any notice of the movies or actors la la land but l see them mentioned a lot in forums . l suppose because most of the forums are US and most of that crap is US but real life is nothing like movies or actors.

 

Depends on the individual, some guys are of the older type some much much younger for their age, some really active and in great shape some not.

Me l'm much younger for my age but l've still always thought up to 10 or 11 yrs younger than me max and it works well for me.

But there's 100 reasons personally l'd be just wasting my time going for anyone older than me or even my age.

 

lt's all a very individual thing.

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First two ex's were just a few months or a year older than me. They were immature asses. Right now I'm dating someone that's 11 years old (10 was my limit when I was searching, but then he turned 11 years older recently! haha). He looks like he's in his low 30s, though, and is an established mature guy!

 

For me, I always told myself I'd limit myself to someone 10 years older mainly because I'm not attracted to men much older than me and I don't want the creep factor of dating someone aged close to my parents, who had me pretty young I might add!

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When I was dating I had a 10 year rule.. my thinking is that if you grew up watching different cartoons then you have nothing in common and have too much age between you to actually fully understand the needs of each other.

 

10 years...

 

so for a 47 year old, 37 and 57

 

Yes, this has also been my general rule of dating.

 

A while back, I did try to date someone who was 15 years younger than me and it was a disaster. I was 37 she was 22, I felt like I was her babysitter. She was actually divorced, so I thought maybe she was a mature for her age (having been through a marriage and the divorce process), but that was not the case. So I went back to the 10 year rule... 10 years older or 10 years younger. Seems to work for me.

 

Best of Luck!!

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When I was dating I had a 10 year rule.. my thinking is that if you grew up watching different cartoons then you have nothing in common and have too much age between you to actually fully understand the needs of each other.

 

10 years...

 

so for a 47 year old, 37 and 57

 

I have that same rule for 5 years.

 

I'm 23 so up to 28 and until 18 because I cant really go any lower lol.

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This is my current lifestyle.

 

I work at a hospital as a Transporter. I work out 5 times a week. I go to a lot of Music venues on the week end Fri/Sat if I am not working in the Eve/Night. I go for long walks/Bike when weather permits. I do watch my tv shows, but I have DVR and can catch up any time.

 

I see my family/friends/Play with my cat. No kids. Never been married. Last GF was 2012. Dated in 2013/2015. Made a dating atempt in 2017.

 

I just asked what peoples age range were. I wonder if 20 yrs is really that big a deal. I think the generations of when people were born are different today. I was born in the early 70's. We have some co -workers born in the early 90's. I don't feel that major difference with them age wise. Except that I look more like I am in my 30's. They look 20 something.

 

I think its about lifestyle as well. My buddy DT-42 turning 43 soon, is heavy set and indulges in a lot of digital entertainment. My buddy MT is 48 turning 49 at the end of Oct and does a lot of sports. Side by side. I think that DT comes off as the older one.

 

Age and energy. Even in the movies. When I see Boggie and Bacall. Even though they are about 24 yrs apart. They don't look like father/daughter. They look like a love match. Although I would say they look about 10 yrs apart. Just like Han and Leia from Star Wars.

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I have that same rule for 5 years.

 

I'm 23 so up to 28 and until 18 because I cant really go any lower lol.

 

One of my female friends says the five rule thing as well. I don't know. Some people click and you can't say why two people are the same age, and they don't click and then put them with people of the same age and they do.

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really , it's all just about the two personalities and attraction, when you mesh with someone you just do, and it's the coolest thing ever , your just into each other.

 

When that truly happens , there's no lines or rules, it just is.

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I don't have a range. Seems pretty silly to rule out something that's just right because the person doesn't fit into a random mathematical formula.

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I once date a much older woman, I was 20 and she was 36, big mistake but learned a lot from it, but definitely could have done without the experience.

My current guideline (if I was single) would be twice the tens place in my age (so +- 6 years now, in my 30s) but its really up to the individual.

 

and so? people date horrible women that are their age or younger all the time, I don't see how this one woman can set the rules for all other women who can be older than you!

Mistakes happen all the time and you were really young anyway, 20 is way too young to date seriously!

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I think, at the end of the day, you can put a date range all you want, but if you can't attract many girls, you gotta accept whatever the sky gives you haha.

 

I mean even if she is younger or older, who says it is gonna work anyway?

 

But to answer your question:

 

+ - 10

 

Your date range if from 37 to 57

 

and the best match gonna be women who are in their early 40's as they are the closest to your age range, they lived through the same generations, experience the same things.

 

Know the movies you watched and when it was out

know the bands you listened to because they listened to as well!

Can understand your jokes and your slangs!

 

and if you ever want kids, you can always adopt kids!

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I had a really great time with guys over 20 years older than me, and I didn't feel the age gap at all. But I realized that by their age they really didn't want any children else they would have had them after living almost 50 years, and I also thought that when I became their age I would wake up to an old man. So I grew to resent them because how dare they be 50+ still getting young women, yet when I become 50+ I'd wake up to an old man.

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I think age gaps become less of a big deal in one's 30s and beyond. My dad has been dating someone 19 years younger than him for a few years and she's a better match for him than my mother ever was. (My mother is great too, but wow did this situation teach me a thing or 3 about compatibility!) Age gap can present a problem with compatibility in that life experiences and ideals can be very different... but if you can make it work, does it really matter?

 

The old saying is half your age plus 7 as the lower end... which for me is 20. And that feels about right as a lower limit now. If the upper limit just applies the same rule in reverse, then my upper limit would be 40... which at first seems way too high, but I've met a lot of women in their late 30s that behave like early 20s... if I was single and they wanted to have some fun I wouldn't refuse if they were attractive... and some of them are!

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