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No it's not looks, it's not having a nice butt and big breasts, it's not having a perfect face, or having a bangin body. Don't get me wrong, those stuff are important to many guys, but there is something that men want in a woman they like, that many men secretly want but won't admit.

 

The #1 thing that men want is to feel wanted and desired by the women that they like. Men want to feel like they are acknowledged by their crush, they want to know that the woman they want feels the same way, that the women they like not only wants them back but desires them. If you want to win a man over, make him feel wanted and desired.

 

What turns a man on is feeling desired by a woman whom he is attracted to. So many men are lonely after having been rejected by women in their life. Many feel that women could never love them or be attracted to them. So to have a woman show him interest, it feels very good.

 

And even if he isn't attracted to you or he is taken, I guarantee that you will make him feel better about himself.

 

Here are some ways you can make a man feel desired:

 

- Instead of acting aloof and playing hard to get, how about you actually talk to him and act interested?

- Instead of letting him do all of the initiating, how about you initiate with him?

- Instead of him always texting you first, how about you start texting him first?

- How about you start asking questions about his life and get to know him?

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It is sort of true. I admit that when I overheard my wife telling a friend what a great sex life we had I felt like I was the best thing in the world. To be desired by a woman you desire is probably the biggest thing men want in relationships or even dating.

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I just got rejected by a girl in my class today so it's probably why i'm writing this post.

 

My whole life, I have felt unwanted by women.

 

So for me, I wanted to feel wanted.

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Yeah, once you get used to getting brutalized that way, it gets easier. The younger the better. No illusions. It's more difficult if one doesn't have the constitution to dish it out. Tougher.

 

Oh, another #1, sanity. Sounds redundant, I know ;)

 

Sane and dedicated. I'm in.

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- Instead of acting aloof and playing hard to get, how about you actually talk to him and act interested?

- Instead of letting him do all of the initiating, how about you initiate with him?

- Instead of him always texting you first, how about you start texting him first?

- How about you start asking questions about his life and get to know him?

 

I agree with this. And if you add being sexy and knowing how to flirt to the list, it worked very well for me back in the day.

 

We see post after post from women behave all cool and aloof, who wait for men to initiate everything and they can't figure out why they can't find a man. And I'm thinking "well duh, of course you're not getting a man"

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I just got rejected by a girl in my class today so it's probably why i'm writing this post.

 

My whole life, I have felt unwanted by women.

 

So for me, I wanted to feel wanted.

 

Sorry to hear that. Had she indicated that she was interested in you romantically?

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Guitarguy, women won't make you feel desirable. Being desirable starts in yourself and then you show that desireability via flirting. And a bit of innuendo thrown into conversation never goes astray either. Don't over do it though or you'll come off as juvenile.

 

And of course, have a ready smile, be friendly and attend lots of college events. Get yourself onto the SRC if you're not already.

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For a relationship to work a woman must desire and respect you. If those components are not there it is doomed.

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A woman who is into you WILL make you feel desired. I've always held out for a relationship where I feel desired and appreciated, and it has served me very, very well.

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A woman who is into you WILL make you feel desired. I've always held out for a relationship where I feel desired and appreciated, and it has served me very, very well.

 

Couldn’t agree more. Actually I think it’s pretty gender neutral: men and women want to feel desired by those they are into, and they will make you feel desired when they are into you. However, you can’t be upset if you don’t feel desired by someone — it can’t be forced.

 

OP: The girl is just not interested in you romantically, and of course she can’t make you feel desired.

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Well I'm pretty sure if a woman likes you and is dating you, she almost always makes you feel like and desired. I am pretty sure you're talking about some woman you have a crush on who isn't interested in you and you're trying to guilt women into wanting you back when they are not interested. Two completely different things completely different things she completely different things

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I am curious about something...If she had responded to your approach, how long would you have been willing to wait for physical intimacy from her? Liking someone is about more than wanting physical contact-its about getting to know a person based on more than their looks-its actually all about everything but looks. If you only like a person because of their looks, that is called lust, not like. Two completely different mindsets. One is a kind of obsessive sickness with outward appearances (maybe projecting onto a woman bcuz of childhood issues) and the other is a normal, heartfelt realization that you could possibly care for another individual, no matter what they look like or how much sexual attraction to them you may feel. But, if that is what you are looking for-to have the outside matter to you on a woman before the inside-then that is your prerogative and I cannot judge your heartfelt desire to do better for yourself and take new chances.

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I'm not usually a fan of massive generalizations, but I'll say that this is true for many of the relationship-seeking men I know, with slight variations. For the guys who haven't had much trouble attracting women, it's not "desire" specifically that they value most, but rather love, loyalty and acceptance.

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Each Person is different. My Ex wants a child. After 5 yr or so of dating. She has decided to have a child on her own and in vitro has worked.

 

So now its being a single mom, because she does not have the time to invest in a relationship. Where as I am the opposite. I want a adult relationship. We build our lives together, before there is any child in the picture for us. To me that spending time together having interesting conversations and laughs. We do a couple of shared recreational activities and there is lots of hugs/kisses/making out/making love, before any children/marriage occur. So thats at least 2 yrs of being with each other.

 

Not having kids in month 5 of being together.

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Each Person is different. My Ex wants a child. After 5 yr or so of dating. She has decided to have a child on her own and in vitro has worked.

 

So now its being a single mom, because she does not have the time to invest in a relationship. Where as I am the opposite. I want a adult relationship. We build our lives together, before there is any child in the picture for us. To me that spending time together having interesting conversations and laughs. We do a couple of shared recreational activities and there is lots of hugs/kisses/making out/making love, before any children/marriage occur. So thats at least 2 yrs of being with each other.

 

Not having kids in month 5 of being together.

 

This woman wants a child but not with you because you are not relationship material to her.

You're her friend. No more.

 

Back to topic:

Men and women both need to feel desired and respected.

A relationship is unlikely in any long term sense without both.

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OK, 32 posts 41 posts of somewhat to wildly off-topic content deleted, hopefully everyone who participated in the threadjack was notified individually and I'll be monitoring the posts of the member who took the thread off-topic for awhile.

 

If men wish to share the number one thing they want in a woman they like, this is the thread. Thanks for your on-topic responses!

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Dating is like this to me in my head. As a man. I see a woman. I am attracted to her look. When I try to get to know her better. This is what happens for me.

 

She is. Drumroll..........

 

Married/Has a BF/Fiancee/Divorced/Separated thats just in real life. If she is single, which is rare. There is some sort of blockage on her part to get together.

 

I am super low key. I don't phone/txt every day. All I want to do is get together have fun and interesting conversations and laughs, and not have any woman flake on me. It should be easy. Most I could see happening is Dinner and I usually pay.

 

When I look at my male friends. None of them were ladies men/players. The women came to them and dropped in their laps. They all seem well matched. In my mind the way my life is going. I think that the universe has a better match for me, than who I choose to go after.

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Gemma. I just wanted to state this. My ex and I met in June of 2012 and broke up in Nov 2012. We remained friends. So when I say she dated for 5 yrs. I mean she dated other men for 5 yrs. She now is pregnant from invitro from what I gather, as she was looking into that. Unless she is with someone. I don't think she is. Since there is nothing on her FB page to indicate and she has not said anything to me.

 

Back on topic. The #1 thing for me Mysterio that I want as a woman is this. Playful and happy towards me. Physically affectionate towards me with a big hug and kiss. We enjoy each others company. We part with a hug/kiss. Make out and make love 3-4 times a week. We have interesting conversations and laughs. The 1 or 2 recreation activities that we share together. Go for walks/bike rides. We take our time to know each other, beyond being lovey dovey with each other. Thats what I want and I am open to being married in the future after being couple for 2 yrs or so.

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