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Old 5th February 2018, 9:24 PM   #1
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Should I Tell A Girl I'm A Virgin?

I'm 23 years old, never kissed a girl, never had sex, never even touched boobs. As you can see, when it comes to dating, i'm pretty much a noob. There's a high chance I will be apart of the virgin club at 25 years old, possibly even older.

The problem is, when I start dating, I don't know whether I should tell a girl i'm a virgin or not.

If I tell a girl i'm a virgin, she might understand and realize i'm going to suck at first. But she might be turned off at the fact that i'm a total noob and not want to continue dating me. But if I go ahead and keep my virginity a secret and try faking my skillz, she might realize I suck and have no idea what i'm doing and dump me anyways.


Should I tell a girl i'm a virgin or not?
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Old 5th February 2018, 9:36 PM   #2
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IMO, No.... read this for background
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Old 5th February 2018, 10:14 PM   #3
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Donít lie. Be proud of your virginity and make her feel special for going where no woman has gone before!
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Old 5th February 2018, 10:32 PM   #4
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She will know you've never kissed a girl before and it's not too much to extrapolate the rest from that. Don't try to hide it because you won't be able to.

This will sound weird but do you have a close female friend who would be willing to teach you how to kiss? Many or most might say no, but there are some who would do it to help you out and thereby do a service to future women in your life.

Much more classy than going to a prostitute which some guys in your situation do to get their first experience over with.

If you kiss well, decent women your age would be very understanding of your virginity and might actually enjoy the process of helping you learn.
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OP, you can do a lot of 'stuff' without having sex. I did all that when dating. Dancing, physical affection, kissing, enjoying the wonderous mechanism of brassieres, you name it. Just nothing involving genitals. In my generation/demographic, however, such was often too 'slow' for the ladies so I got dumped. They were used to having sex a lot faster. Women choose. If a man snoozes, he loses. Did that a lot, not because I was sleeping but because I felt the intimacy was insufficient to meet my standards for sex.

For you it'll be easy. You have no inhibitions about the progression of sex. Start with the easy stuff and just let it happen. That's really all it is. Letting it happen. In fact, these days the work is to not let it happen.

Lastly, no woman ever asked me if I was a virgin. Not one. If one had, I wouldn't have lied. However, I never volunteered it. No need, from my perspective. I did kinda laugh (to myself) because the period when I did become sexually active was right during AIDS and STD tests were standard and yup I got a panel of them and a report even though, duh
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Old 5th February 2018, 11:02 PM   #6
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This will sound weird but do you have a close female friend who would be willing to teach you how to kiss? Many or most might say no, but there are some who would do it to help you out and thereby do a service to future women in your life.

Great idea, i'll ask my sister...
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Great idea, i'll ask my sister...
Please don't learn to kiss with your sister. I think he was suggesting you actually allow someone to teach you through kissing you...

Maybe you're going to ask your sister to explain the technique. But, you'd be better off kissing a close friend a few times with the understanding it's a lesson, nsa.
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Great idea, i'll ask my sister...
No. Just no.
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Old 5th February 2018, 11:21 PM   #9
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Mission Unsuccesful: Sister said "ewwwwwww nooooo, you some sort of creep?"


Oh well...

I always have my pillow
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Mission Unsuccesful: Sister said "ewwwwwww nooooo, you some sort of creep?"


Oh well...

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You have a sense of humor!

Maybe your sister could set you up with someone.

My daughter set my son up with his first girlfriend.
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Old 5th February 2018, 11:25 PM   #11
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You have a sense of humor!

Maybe your sister could set you up with someone.

My daughter set my son up with his first girlfriend.

Well my sister works with a bunch of hot sorority girls. Maybe i'll go in to where she works, walk up to one of her coworkers and be like ayyy gurl, i'm her cool and totally awesome brother, wanna go out sometime?
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I'm 23 years old, never kissed a girl, never had sex, never even touched boobs. As you can see, when it comes to dating, i'm pretty much a noob. There's a high chance I will be apart of the virgin club at 25 years old, possibly even older.

The problem is, when I start dating, I don't know whether I should tell a girl i'm a virgin or not.

If I tell a girl i'm a virgin, she might understand and realize i'm going to suck at first. But she might be turned off at the fact that i'm a total noob and not want to continue dating me. But if I go ahead and keep my virginity a secret and try faking my skillz, she might realize I suck and have no idea what i'm doing and dump me anyways.


Should I tell a girl i'm a virgin or not?


Older but in the same boat and like you I have asked myself this question. I think if you don't there will be issues and if you do there will be issues so my advice throw a coin and then decide.
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Old 6th February 2018, 4:57 AM   #13
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If she asks, yes. Or if things don’t go smoothly during the first time then mention it. Otherwise be confident and take things as they come.. no need to declare it until or unless relevant.
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Old 6th February 2018, 5:10 AM   #14
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Being a virgin doesn't have to mean you are clueless or you'll suck. If you learn the general idea of how to please a woman it will get you headed in the right direction. Of course no two women are exactly alike, however they all have the same buttons, learn those button then it's just a matter of which ones to push at what time and how long. One proven way to somewhat insure you aren't bad is understand sex for women starts long before you ever touch her.

As far as telling, well I don't think you should say "hello my name is virgin" but it should be fairly early in the process.
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Old 6th February 2018, 5:38 AM   #15
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I am a woman but was an older virgin until recently (at 32) purely out of circumstantial reasons. So, that being said, I didn't rush into confessions with my boyfriend. I told him when he asked about being exclusive because I felt he had the right to know, but before that I just flowed with the dates and enjoyed getting to know him in a light-hearted way. And against some of my close friends' advice and my sister's advice, I knew I wasn't going to hide it from him.

I wasn't completely sexually inexperienced (I had had boyfriends when I dated in high school and freshman year of college), but I did have older male friends who were virgins. One was 28 before he lost his virginity--and he was exceptionally socially inept, so no explanation needed there (now married)--and another one of my friends was deployed in war for many years on multiple deployments. He is now engaged to the woman that he lost his virginity to in his 30s. So, know you're not alone--and that there are women that will not only take your virginity, but be grateful for it and possibly even marry you.

I had always desired men with less sexual experience even when I was in my late teens and early 20s. I gave up on that hope as I got older since I knew it was unrealistic. I had a couple of other friends who felt the same way.

So, my advice to you is to enjoy getting to know the women. Tell them when it feels right to you or if they ask. But don't rush to offer the information on the first date and don't rush on the physical aspect if you're not comfortable. Some women will find it endearing--don't assume this means you suck and that all women universally find lack of experience to be a negative thing, because that simply isn't true. You're still in your early 20s and even though that may feel like a weight on your shoulders, when I was the same age I knew many other guys in your situation, not just a handful.
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