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Old 28th January 2018, 5:43 AM   #46
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In where I live, we have a joke about someone who's looking for the "ideal" partner they've created in their heads.

There was this girl. She was a 9 or 10, she had many good traits and men were all over her, starting from her teens. Every man chased her, gave her gifts, showered her with attention and affection, but she didn't like any of them and never gave them a chance. She was looking for a guy who was perfect in every aspect. Then, time passes on and she hits 35, alone, and not as pretty as she used to be. She has a conversation with her mom. Her mom asks if she has anyone in her life. She says no, and asks her mom "Do you remember that I was always looking for a Prince Charming?". Her mom nods. She tells her mom "Forget the Prince Charming, now I could even settle for his horse".

Don't be like her
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Old 28th January 2018, 8:20 AM   #47
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Old 1st February 2018, 11:46 AM   #48
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Ideal type A.

Single/Widowed/Divorced, Late 30's./Childless, lives 30 minutes away from me in another part of town. Playful/flirtatious with me/Hippy like dress wise. Affectionate towards me, flexible and does the legwork to put us together romantically.

Ideal type B. Single/Widowed/Divorced. Has one kid. If Separated. She is going straight to Divorce. No murkiness with that at all. Bascially same as Type A.

More and more as I look at the patterns of my life and others. I think a lot of us here are over working our love lives and putting ourselves out there too much, in the sense we are asking out people that we don't qualify as much.

For me specifically. I have had a better time, when the woman came towards me, than vice versa. I don't know why that is.
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Old 2nd February 2018, 11:31 PM   #49
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l'm more the know it when l see it type.
l mean there are just things , things l like and when she's standing in front of me l know it.
Been lucky enough to have two great loves so it's not unrealistic , it might be for the remainder of life now though , who knows, l'm hoping not though as l'm really a partner perseon.
The first would've been a life time , ex w , but things, life , got tough for quite a stint and unfortunately that stuff can really take it's toll on a couple.

l'm finding now though these days being out there again , some one mentioned mental illness and yeah , def' a no no and it's proving quite a challenge to l've gotta say.
Both now since l was divorced , just haven't been right , stable , something wrong or l'd have been married again by now to the first one for sure.
Do ya wanna spend the rest of your days wrestling with her head though , no matter how in love you are going crazy yourself is only gonna turn it all into ugly in the end , damn.
Will l love the saner one less if she comes along , hope not but yeah, probably, there's always a price perfect doesn't exist as dad always said.

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Old 10th February 2018, 9:57 AM   #50
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Around 6ft tall, shaved head, beautiful strong nose, trim with broad shoulders. Warm hands with skin that is a little bit rough, intelligent, practical, considerate, well dressed. A warm contained presence. Someone who makes me laugh and laughs his heart out when no one else does. Someone whose voice seems to change when it's the two of us... Im getting carried away and I should stop now.

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