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Old 22nd January 2018, 2:53 PM   #16
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A lot of sense!
Just curious are Scorpios & Leos somehow matching better than others? Esp. late July Leos and late October Scorpios?

Thinking more on my 'type' ... I just need a drama-driven but yet composed guy if I can put it that way...Someone who is highly energetic and in the same time can buffer a bit my chaos, which is frankly abysmal...
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Old 22nd January 2018, 4:11 PM   #17
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I'd be lying if I sat here and pretended I knew anything about astrology. But I do know 2 leo/scorpio couplings and their relationships were intense. Crazy intense...a little bit too much so for their own good.

On the topic of types though, I think one thing I really like is a cynic with good grammar/punctuation skills.
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Old 22nd January 2018, 5:18 PM   #18
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The only expectation I've had of a partner is that they be a good person who takes care of themselves. Everything else was negotiable. I think it's why I always had reasonable success in dating.

I know so many people who've broken so many dating rules (myself included) but ended up with a great relationship. They wouldn't have what they do if the were sticklers for doing things properly.
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Old 22nd January 2018, 6:08 PM   #19
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Yeah. I dated him so I know he exists, looks wise at least.
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Old 22nd January 2018, 6:48 PM   #20
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One thing I noticed about people and their ideal type, something I am guilty of as well, is that their ideal is mostly a patchwork of traits from all of their exes. They want someone to look like one ex, be sweet like another, buy them things like this ex, and have sex like that one. Put them all together and you have an unrealistic standard for dating that no one can meet.
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Old 22nd January 2018, 7:08 PM   #21
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I have never fantasized about an "ideal type".

I am really not one for day dreaming, or spending a lot of time contemplating "what ifs". I don't really spend much time "stuck in my head" if that makes any sense.

Instead I try to be HERE and now, and present.

I could say I have an "ideal build" but then remember fantastic partners that were nothing like that.

Think of an "ideal personality" but in reality I get a long with a large variety and may be surprised by who I really click with.

I could have an "ideal style" - but that has really changed as I have met different people throughout my life.

While I don't have an "ideal" I know pretty quickly who I am, and am not attracted to. And just as important, who I would be compatible with.

Its the individual that matters, not what categories they may fit in.
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Old 22nd January 2018, 10:15 PM   #22
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Now when someone tells me that he's born within July 24-31, I'm conditioned to get a crush on him
No_Go, I must introduce you to my brother and my twin sons to set off your conditioning .
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Old 23rd January 2018, 12:46 AM   #23
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Just curious are Scorpios & Leos somehow matching better than others? Esp. late July Leos and late October Scorpios?

Thinking more on my 'type' ... I just need a drama-driven but yet composed guy if I can put it that way...Someone who is highly energetic and in the same time can buffer a bit my chaos, which is frankly abysmal...
Maybe Scorpio women and Leo men?

I'm a Leo woman and cannot stand Scorpio men. They're so obsessed with secrets and hiding/protecting themselves they don't communicate clearly. Blech. I used to actively hate Scorpio ladies when I was a kid, but now I know some are okay, after careful vetting and strong boundaries.

Anyway. My type definitely doesn't exist. Calm, practical, open minded men with stellar conversation skills can have any woman they want. Unfortunately, they don't want fat, eccentric, black women.

On the flip side, I appear to be the ideal type for low income immigrants looking for easy casual sex with a woman they'd never in a million years call their girlfriend because black women are not partner material. I always wonder if this approach works on anyone, but have never been brave enough to ask. I'm afraid they'll say that it does indeed.

(And for those asking why I'm bringing race into it: these men tell me they approach me because I'm black, and also consider me not relationship material because I'm black.)
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Old 23rd January 2018, 1:05 AM   #24
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I have an ideal type ....a guy with old school values preferrably with the same faith as me.........someone who can inspire and motivate me to be the best person i can be.....and i him...the only thing is ....me looking for an ideal type they may not look at me.... ..i am an ex hooker with five kids born out of wedlock.....which i would be honest about from the very beginning....making me ...not their ideal......classed as not marriage material.....i want a guy who wants forever with me.....and it would be a cool change for a guy to understand that people can change their hearts.....that circumstances are not living people.....but situations peoples have lived...

as far as my ideal goes...ill live in hope.....and i will keep growing with faith...because what i want in a guy is a heartfelt desire true and right to want and need in a man...that one day...my ideal will stumble over me or me over him and give me a chance...i believe...that if your desires are true and right to have......they will happen..my ideal man...is true....and exists...and yep cant wait..actually i have been and can wait...lol.....i have waited too long to stop.....waiting.......deb.....
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Old 23rd January 2018, 2:25 AM   #25
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I like men who are highly intelligent, kind, and have a sense of humor. One that can laugh at jokes even if he's not funny. For some reason, nearly all of the men I've liked have been born in late January to February.

The last decade the men I've been most attracted to had blondish/brownish hair and blue eyes. I think because if you like one person really intensely that happened to have a certain look, then you notice it more in other people around you after that. I don't actually care about whether a guy has those physical traits and the opposite (dark hair, dark eyes, etc.) was my type growing up.
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Old 23rd January 2018, 8:57 AM   #26
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shoplocal, yea I suppose that may make a difference.
These were all Leo man/scorpio woman.
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Yeah. I dated him so I know he exists, looks wise at least.
Im curious if your ideal type looks like that Youtuber guy you post a lot
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Old 23rd January 2018, 9:24 AM   #27
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shoplocal, yea I suppose that may make a difference.
These were all Leo man/scorpio woman.

Im curious if your ideal type looks like that Youtuber guy you post a lot
Haha cookies. Yeah he is basically what I consider to be my type physically lol.
But I post that video cuz I think it’s hella motivational for young to late 20 year olds that want to get their life together. Having the cute actor there is just a bonus for all the ladies that stumbled accross the video.

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Old 23rd January 2018, 9:48 AM   #28
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I'd be lying if I sat here and pretended I knew anything about astrology. But I do know 2 leo/scorpio couplings and their relationships were intense. Crazy intense...a little bit too much so for their own good.

On the topic of types though, I think one thing I really like is a cynic with good grammar/punctuation skills.
lol.....now i know you must hate me......deb
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Old 23rd January 2018, 9:54 AM   #29
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hahaha no way. Only in my men. I <3 your posts. So much positivity

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