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Old 21st January 2018, 11:59 AM   #1
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Is our Ideal type real

In the serach for love and compananionship. I wonder if our expectations are real?

All I really want is a woman in her late 30's that is childless and wants us to connect romantically. We are on the same page most of the time. I am what she wants and vice versa for the most part.

I want the warm/sweet/affectionate type. Flexable and we enjoy the same social activities. Like Music/Movies/Resturants for talking about the world around us.

We both dress up and are well groomed/fit for each other.

So what about you. When it happens. Do you have a ideal type.
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Old 21st January 2018, 12:31 PM   #2
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In another thread I mentioned I'm flexible but mental illness is out. I think that's something that can be reality.

As example, the lady across the way who always was greeting me when I was out working was a prospect before her kid shot her car and she later ran over his foot after chatting with me at her car. Something just doesn't seem right there. Then two shiny sheriff's vehicles showed up one day and it's been quiet ever since. However, I will apply some lenience because the lady in question relocated from Southern California.

TBH, when I was watching all that go down I started getting flashbacks to the UCC shooting and the family dynamics behind it.
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Old 21st January 2018, 12:42 PM   #3
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One has to be careful now a days. What I don't get with me is that when I make a friend. Its of high quality. When I pursue a romantic prospect. There is always an obsticle in the way. Be the woman is married and I find out, or something else. With me. No woman is going to find an obstcle towards me.

Unless they want to get with me and want kids right away. I don't want kids off the hop to borderline no kids at all, but then again. If we gel. I could make it happen.
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Old 21st January 2018, 12:50 PM   #4
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Don't get me wrong....when younger I had all the typical mating lists that are often posted on LS. At this time of life, lists, just thinking about them, nah, too much energy expended on something I've little interest in so, rather, go with the flow. If it don't flow, let it go. Like I did in the example. When reality presents itself, accept it.
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Old 21st January 2018, 1:09 PM   #5
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Don't get me wrong....when younger I had all the typical mating lists that are often posted on LS. At this time of life, lists, just thinking about them, nah, too much energy expended on something I've little interest in so, rather, go with the flow. If it don't flow, let it go. Like I did in the example. When reality presents itself, accept it.
Agreed, I had relationships with women where I wasn't all that impressed when I first met them. But if somebody makes you happy, really happy, don't over-analyze and question it.
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Old 21st January 2018, 2:29 PM   #6
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I don't really have an ideal typeanymore. No ideal personality, look, or age or anything. I don't care if they are an introvert or extrovert or any of that. I have been on dates with guys that are so different but I find them too equally attractive in different ways to have an ideal type

I used to have an ideal type when I was stuck on my ex. Even before him, before I had a relationship I would have a ideal in my head of a 'perfect' man but I think that was just because I never dated and was stuck in my fantasies. I
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Old 21st January 2018, 4:15 PM   #7
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In another thread I mentioned I'm flexible but mental illness is out. I think that's something that can be reality.

As example, the lady across the way who always was greeting me when I was out working was a prospect before her kid shot her car and she later ran over his foot after chatting with me at her car. Something just doesn't seem right there. Then two shiny sheriff's vehicles showed up one day and it's been quiet ever since. However, I will apply some lenience because the lady in question relocated from Southern California.

TBH, when I was watching all that go down I started getting flashbacks to the UCC shooting and the family dynamics behind it.
You dodged that bullet. I'm laughing so hard.
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Old 21st January 2018, 4:23 PM   #8
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I always had a type. But my type was more about music subculture. Pretty much someone had to be involved in that because it was my main thing.

Then the question is, is your ideal person really out there? Not for everyone. If they are, you may never meet them. I have a guy I held up on a pedestal since I was very young. He is close to my ideal (not a musician but a really good artist/designer, so still in the creative spectrum). He was ideal to look at too. I loved how he did obvious romantic gestures (hand kissing mainly). (P.S. every guy I met after that said never to trust a handkisser and called him things that rhyme with banker.) But I liked it. Also liked dancing with him. Loved how he dressed (first time I saw him on the hippie street in my hometown, he had a leather flag jacket one -- but usually he wore black on black.) I loved how adventurous he was.

25 years later, we had a couple of dates long distance. It was then I realized he was somewhat like me in that neither of us were going to be good at domesticity, as in coupled up and cooperating and doing daily chores together. We even talked about it. He was an explorer. I wasn't that so much, but I understood why he'd give everything up for it if necessary.

He also had trouble with getting real close and intimate. It scared him. He kept some things inside. He ran if he thought you cared too much.

So was he my ideal man? Not quite, because I'd have liked it if he could stay put at least long enough to have the ultimate romantic affair. But neither am I my ideal self, so there you go.
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Old 22nd January 2018, 10:06 AM   #9
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I was a little skeptical when I started talking to Timshel that she was actually who she said she was, simply because it was like my absolute ideal woman walked out of my dreams and into reality. But there she was on our first meeting, strolling through the door exactly as she said looking so scorchingly sexy. I still get an instant woodie anytime the memory pops into my head. And the conversation was just as sizzling. Still is.

I don't think you're ever going to meet every expectation though Mysterio. I never though I'd be living in the city I'm in but I actually enjoy it now. I know she wasn't expecting to be with someone who has to wake up so early for work but it happens and you compromise and deal with it. The key to any good relationship.
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Old 22nd January 2018, 10:45 AM   #10
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You dodged that bullet. I'm laughing so hard.
Literally, since I heard the bullet impact the vehicle and the report at the same time due to proximity. I'm used to gunfire since we shoot target at our places but it's usually away, like shooting into the mountain aka safe gun handling.

Topically, when I see young guys on the forum going through their lists and attempting to formulate an equation for mating success I'll often suggest to them to think less and feel more. Listen to their instincts and go with the flow. Women aren't a math problem and past performance is no guarantee of future success. Humans are constantly changing and IMO that's healthy.

I hope she likes rain
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Old 22nd January 2018, 12:29 PM   #11
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What? Now this is a perfect example of compromise for the better, ie..ideal,lol.
I am an early riser, since I have had children my body clock remains early to bed/early to rise. No problem.
If the alarm clock goes off decibel fire at 5:00 am and the person rolls over and goes back to sleep for two hours....well.

To the OP, I would say relax. If you hit it off with a person and things flow along, you'll know if you should hang around or move along. No person is perfect to the point that they won't irritate you once in awhile.

The key is to be with someone you love and respect and someone who loves and respects you. If you have this, all else will sift itself out.

Love the rain.
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Old 22nd January 2018, 1:54 PM   #12
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Yeah it is very real, although compromising somewhat is not wrong.

For me it has to do with energy/demeanor way more than looks or anything else tangible. A certain melancholic at time, hyperactive at time vibe, as weird as it sounds turns me on like nothing else on earth.

Fun fact: I have a cluster of crushes that have been born within the same week (last week of July). Now when someone tells me that he's born within July 24-31, I'm conditioned to get a crush on him
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I can't stand Leos!!! xD. It's an Aquarius thing. Love/hate! May I ask what you are ?
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I can't stand Leos!!! xD. It's an Aquarius thing. Love/hate! May I ask what you are ?
Scorpio. Does it make sense?
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Old 22nd January 2018, 2:46 PM   #15
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A lot of sense!
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