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Ladies who do OLD, how do you select?

In Search Of... Having a hard time forming friendships or finding companions, lovers, or associates? Is someone pursuing an unwelcome relationship with you? Talk about your experiences here.

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Old 30th January 2018, 2:39 AM   #31
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I don't do old, but if I will.

I will choose based on

His looks

What he wears

Does he look trash or not.

You know, his political and religious things are also a factor

Like I can tolerate a conservative if he was an atheist

I like someone who I can argue with all the time.

Sadly, there was only one person like that.

We used to fight and argue all the time
Fun times, never coming back again.

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Old 30th January 2018, 7:33 AM   #32
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Originally Posted by Noproblem View Post
Sadly, there was only one person like that.
I will answer your OPINION with my own opinions

There is never ONLY ONE
Maybe there is ONLY ONE you have met so far in this life
There IS ONLY ONE who can be the NEXT ONE
There is ONLY ONE who was or will be the LAST ONE

Personally, I'm still searching with the hope that my next one will be my last one. So far the search itself has been both enlightening and enjoyable.
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Old 30th January 2018, 11:14 AM   #33
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One thing to add to this, many guys have done the back and forth thing many times only to have the conversation die by her not responding. It makes you put in less effort because you feel it's gonna fail anyway.

I remember when I first started I put in a lot of effort (eharmony) and went back and forth with long messages only to have them flake.

Now I'm so jaded I put in minimal effort and ask them out within 2-3 messages. If a woman is interested she will meet. If she's not she won't. I switched to bumble and stopped reading profiles.

I've saved myself days of back and forth with this approach.
Yep, that was how it was for me, i started out on OKcupid writing well crafted messages after reading 10 a4 sides of bio and finished up on Tinder just looking at the first couple of pictures and asking the girl on a date within a few messages. Some you win some you lose,

Its another contrast between the experience that men and women have on OLD that women can afford to bounce between suitors looking for that perfect 10 message long chain where you discuss your favourite gerbil breeds. The exact opposite is true of guys, we need to move quickly because we can and will be replaced with ease.
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Old 3rd February 2018, 6:34 PM   #34
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I check his educational qualification and job status.
Next I see if I find his profile description interesting.
Then if I find him attractive.

And I only respond to those who message me.

I don't message anyone.
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