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Old 8th January 2018, 12:46 AM   #1
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Ok, throwing it out there to the forum, what do YOU do?

I was googling the ever present question "where does one go to meet people"? I have posted my thoughts and feelings on a few things. I realize there are a lot of people out there who have their own opinions and whatnot, both on the forum and elsewhere, but I thought I would throw this out to the forum in case I never did before :

Where do YOU go to meet people? Is it all online? Outside of the internet, what do you do? Or is it all internet things? Tell me your answers as I am curious.
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Old 8th January 2018, 1:06 AM   #2
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I was googling the ever present question "where does one go to meet people"? I have posted my thoughts and feelings on a few things. I realize there are a lot of people out there who have their own opinions and whatnot, both on the forum and elsewhere, but I thought I would throw this out to the forum in case I never did before :

Where do YOU go to meet people? Is it all online? Outside of the internet, what do you do? Or is it all internet things? Tell me your answers as I am curious.
Technically speaking, I've met people through in all kinds of situations. It really depends on you being open to meeting them.

Classes? Clubs? Family / Friends BBQ's.

I know that sounds kind of weird, but in the end, you just have to be around people. I've heard stories of women dating their taxi drivers.

You never know when you'll cross paths with someone. The trick is to be open to it I guess.
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Old 8th January 2018, 1:23 AM   #3
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Funny that.
l felt like the beach yesterday, 30min drive from here but l just felt like it soooo, l went to the beach for the arvo,
laying round like a slob l look up and two girls are doodling about right in front of me.
One was a beautiful asian and the other equally but indian l think but the indian def' had things on her mind and stuck around for 15mins.
l smiled and stuff but as cute as she was l'm sorta seein someone right now sooo, had to go with my as cute as you are l'm really sorry but not right now look.

Probly if l was all lost and desperate all l'd get is sea gulls right

Point is , it's a strong belief of mine , do what you do yaknow, true to whatever you feel at the time , life.
l've had two great loves in my life and that's all l was doing both times.
But eh , that's me.

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Old 8th January 2018, 1:29 AM   #4
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Be really interesting hearing how others have found things in life and love.
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Old 8th January 2018, 1:57 AM   #5
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When I was in the nursing program at school one of the skills that we needed to learn was called wheelchair transfer. It’s about transferring a patient safely from bed to wheelchair and vice versa.it has a role playing aspect to it because you and your partner will pretend to be the patient then the nurse and you switch roles. I was looking for a partner and there she was, a young beautiful blonde girl. Honestly, there was no one else, because everyone is paired up. I asked her if she wants to practice wheelchair transfer and she said yes. Of course she was shy at first, I’m a stranger. But she got over that quickly because I’m not a creep. Let’s just say we were embracing each other before we even knew each other’s names. It also made me understand why movie actors fall in love with their leading ladies. If you’re embracing each other all day, you can’t help it. So yeah, take nursing.

No, she didn’t become my gf or anything. That program was super stressful.

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Old 8th January 2018, 3:19 AM   #6
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Currently Iím not really looking to meet people because Iím still getting over my ex but before I started dating her, I would meet people on the streets, in bars, parties, basically any place where I could have a conversation. Iíve never tried OLD. I also have a cousin whoís friends with a LOT of people and every time I hang out with him i inevitably meet some of them.

I think the best way to meet new people is to spend time with your most social friend who can introduce you to potential dates. I prefer this over trying to meet people at classes or the gym. Thereís always an element of awkwardness if you get rejected at a class and god forbid if you get rejected twice, youíll get labelled all kinds of nasty things.
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Old 8th January 2018, 3:26 AM   #7
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Meeting the opposite sex is easy because the attraction (and need) will bring people together. Meeting new people for friendship (same sex) is more difficult because it takes more effort.

When you move and you don't have any friends in a new city, you can start with people at work, neighbors, join a volunteer group etc. Then you have to invite people to do things, organize a party, etc. And they may flake on you.

By comparison, dating is so much easier. Woman sits at a bar and some man always comes up to talk to her. You go online, click around, and you have someone to have coffee with. But easy come, easy go.
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Old 8th January 2018, 3:38 AM   #8
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I meet people online exclusively these days. I don't know what else to do on a budget. But if I left the house more I would probably not be single because when I do get asked out, it's completely by chance during the most unlikely moments.. such as when I'm out doing errands with no make up on and wearing baggy sweat pants. Weird. Unfortunately, they're never anyone I'm interested in.

It is my dream to have someone offer to fix me up, but no one ever has... and when I have asked my friends to do so if they know anyone who is single, they usually clam up and act like I never said anything. An oddity I can't figure out which bothers me sometimes. But I digress...

Loneliness is an epidemic... there are people everywhere but meeting the right person at the right time is the trick.

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Old 8th January 2018, 3:47 AM   #9
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Technically speaking, I've met people through in all kinds of situations. It really depends on you being open to meeting them.

Classes? Clubs? Family / Friends BBQ's.

I know that sounds kind of weird, but in the end, you just have to be around people. I've heard stories of women dating their taxi drivers.

You never know when you'll cross paths with someone. The trick is to be open to it I guess.
Exactly this. I've met women that I've at least traded numbers with everywhere - from a restaurant to a hospital waiting room. Just be open and if someone catches your eye, no matter where it is, strike up a conversation and see what happens.
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Old 8th January 2018, 5:33 AM   #10
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lt always surprises me that nearly everyone in forums seem to do gym and l would've thought gyms would be a great place to meet people but no one ever seems too, weird.
Another weird thing is l've know a few of those friends people know dozens of people , always have someone around, but they've usually been single. dunno how that wokrs.

In younger days l always found parties were the best of the best and l love to party too so it was a win win.
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Old 8th January 2018, 8:31 AM   #11
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Mainly through online, though not dating sites. Forums related to hobbies etc. But I have also met a fair amount of people at concerts and festivals, as well as through work/university or other friends.
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Old 8th January 2018, 12:12 PM   #12
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Work, friends and their extended circle of friends. A recent and not so subtle introduction through a co-worker I hardly knew comes to mind. Very sweet, but unfortunately a few months too late.
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Old 8th January 2018, 2:44 PM   #13
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Through friends is the best way in my experience.
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Old 8th January 2018, 6:37 PM   #14
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The problem is that I NEVER EVER meet anyone unless it's through an online source. And they are ookie to begin with.
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Old 8th January 2018, 9:36 PM   #15
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House parties, free concerts, bar where bands are playing.
then there is the oddball grocery shopping or places I take my kids to have fun.
usually there is one or two women i catch looking at me.
At which point i meet their stare and wait until they look away then just approach and introduce myself.
I mean they were looking for a reason and i'm too old to care about rejection.
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