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Old 11th January 2018, 8:42 PM   #31
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Most of the guys I've been on dates with have looked pretty basic. Maybe you're only going for the top 10% of girls[/QUOTE]

looked being the operative word
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Old 11th January 2018, 8:43 PM   #32
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Their personalities were pretty basic too but I thought would be too mean to say. I mean they were just typical people. They weren't charismatic Greek Gods. I try to date within my league
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Old 11th January 2018, 8:45 PM   #33
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I'm curious, define basic
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Old 11th January 2018, 8:48 PM   #34
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Are you sure, Guitarguy7? Are you saying all the basic guys I encountered on there are wasting their time? Why would someone do that? If it's garnering 0 results, why not just stick to IRL? What could be worse than zero.

Most of the guys I've been on dates with have looked pretty basic.



I get what you're trying to say, I mean anybody can have success with finding someone online but it's going to be harder the less attractive you are, I think that's well known it's just knowing when to leave and to take a break.

It's just that with my personal experience with Tinder, it's mostly about looks. I often see profiles of girls with no bio or a bio that says nothing about them and I don't like that. I want to get to know a girl and see what she's like. I like girls who have personality but it's hard to see that through Tinder.
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Old 11th January 2018, 9:43 PM   #35
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I get what you're trying to say, I mean anybody can have success with finding someone online but it's going to be harder the less attractive you are, I think that's well known it's just knowing when to leave and to take a break.

It's just that with my personal experience with Tinder, it's mostly about looks. I often see profiles of girls with no bio or a bio that says nothing about them and I don't like that. I want to get to know a girl and see what she's like. I like girls who have personality but it's hard to see that through Tinder.
I almost prefer when they don’t have a profile because most of the time they are a turn off to me. I can’t count the plethora of profiles that include:

1) Travel! Get your passport ready!
2) Love to laugh
3) Like spontaneous adventure
4) Dirty martinis (I don’t know what makes a drink dirty nor do I care as I don’t drink)
5) Looking for my “partner in crime”
6) Know the difference between they’re, their, and there
7) “Big Fan” of the Oxford comma - honestly, I’d rather here about your menstrual cycles than your grammar snobbery.
8) ”Love exploring everything this great city are has to offer”
9) Tacos! - Seriously? WTF?
10) And lets not forget....”NO HOOKUPS!”

It’s the same tired profile again, and again, and again.

Perhaps it’s NYC? Perhaps I need a break lol.
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Old 12th January 2018, 3:52 AM   #36
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My search is for white women between 30 and 40 never married, no kids, no smoking, no tattoos. I thought maybe bumble would have more people in that range.
I think you also forgot to mention, attractive. Basically, you're looking for a unicorn on a dating website. Also, that website requires the woman to initiate, so you have even less of a chance, unless you really stand out, because the woman has to go out of their way to put in the effort.
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Old 12th January 2018, 3:56 AM   #37
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I almost prefer when they don’t have a profile because most of the time they are a turn off to me. I can’t count the plethora of profiles that include:

1) Travel! Get your passport ready!
2) Love to laugh
3) Like spontaneous adventure
4) Dirty martinis (I don’t know what makes a drink dirty nor do I care as I don’t drink)
5) Looking for my “partner in crime”
6) Know the difference between they’re, their, and there
7) “Big Fan” of the Oxford comma - honestly, I’d rather here about your menstrual cycles than your grammar snobbery.
8) ”Love exploring everything this great city are has to offer”
9) Tacos! - Seriously? WTF?
10) And lets not forget....”NO HOOKUPS!”

It’s the same tired profile again, and again, and again.

Perhaps it’s NYC? Perhaps I need a break lol.
Yes, I've noticed that as well. The cliche "must make me laugh" is an automatic left swipe for me. In other words, the man must be a court jester? A person must learn to laugh at themselves, not require a man to play the fool for their amusement.
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Old 12th January 2018, 8:21 AM   #38
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Tinder/Bumble is mostly about the pictures. I’ve been using photofeeler to get some feeback. Sometimes we can be pretty terrible at picking good pictures of ourselves. I believe pictures are only an approximation or what we look like in real life - keep that in mind when swiping. There is something to be said about a beautiful transition from smile to laughter that simply no picture can capture.

For men, those apps can be brutal. Approximately girls swipe yes on 15 percent of guys, and guys swipe yes 45 % or times. This means that the best looking men will get a lot of attention while the average looking men (ie. most of us) won’t get that many hits. Luckily looks are somewhat subjective, so hope is not lost. Average looking girls won’t have much trouble getting hits with average looking guys; this means that the competition is real. (The other side of this “problem” is that many girls will wind up chasing the best looking guys whom are less interested in LTR)

On bumble, girls have to write first. In my experience this means that the majority will simply write “hi”: which means that You are responsible for starting an actual conversation.

Bad: “Hey, what’s up”/ “Hey, how are you”
Better: “[Name]! I like that picture from Grand Canyon . Where you at the southern rim?” It’s not a very flirty opener but it starts a conversation and shows that you are paying attention to her profile.

I think the most common mistakes are a) boring (generic conversation) and b) waiting to long to ask for a date.
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Old 12th January 2018, 8:46 AM   #39
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Tinder/Bumble is mostly about the pictures. I’ve been using photofeeler to get some feeback. Sometimes we can be pretty terrible at picking good pictures of ourselves. I believe pictures are only an approximation or what we look like in real life - keep that in mind when swiping. There is something to be said about a beautiful transition from smile to laughter that simply no picture can capture.

For men, those apps can be brutal. Approximately girls swipe yes on 15 percent of guys, and guys swipe yes 45 % or times. This means that the best looking men will get a lot of attention while the average looking men (ie. most of us) won’t get that many hits. Luckily looks are somewhat subjective, so hope is not lost. Average looking girls won’t have much trouble getting hits with average looking guys; this means that the competition is real. (The other side of this “problem” is that many girls will wind up chasing the best looking guys whom are less interested in LTR)

On bumble, girls have to write first. In my experience this means that the majority will simply write “hi”: which means that You are responsible for starting an actual conversation.

Bad: “Hey, what’s up”/ “Hey, how are you”
Better: “[Name]! I like that picture from Grand Canyon . Where you at the southern rim?” It’s not a very flirty opener but it starts a conversation and shows that you are paying attention to her profile.

I think the most common mistakes are a) boring (generic conversation) and b) waiting to long to ask for a date.
All very true.

For me, the “Hi” opener is a huge turn off. Cookies said that a lot of girls are petrified to do more than that, but I’ve found that it is usually indicative of a lack of interest.

Sometimes I say “Hi” back when I’m annoyed or have mild interest. On a few I was interested in I tried a response like “Great pic of you...where was that taken” as they give you nothing to work with.

Those failed as well by lack of a response so I ultimately unmatched.

The ones who are interested often ask a question about you or one of your pics.
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Old 12th January 2018, 11:36 AM   #40
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I almost prefer when they don’t have a profile because most of the time they are a turn off to me. I can’t count the plethora of profiles that include:

1) Travel! Get your passport ready!
2) Love to laugh
3) Like spontaneous adventure
4) Dirty martinis (I don’t know what makes a drink dirty nor do I care as I don’t drink)
5) Looking for my “partner in crime”
6) Know the difference between they’re, their, and there
7) “Big Fan” of the Oxford comma - honestly, I’d rather here about your menstrual cycles than your grammar snobbery.
8) ”Love exploring everything this great city are has to offer”
9) Tacos! - Seriously? WTF?
10) And lets not forget....”NO HOOKUPS!”

It’s the same tired profile again, and again, and again.

Perhaps it’s NYC? Perhaps I need a break lol.

hahaha this is what guys have on their profiles too on the west coast. Also the word "adventure" is in every single profile hahaha I finally met someone worth my while who asked me nervously if we should delete profiles on NYE(we met on OKC) I was more than happy to!!
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Old 12th January 2018, 4:38 PM   #41
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I tried Eharmony for a year or so and probably went on around 10 actual dates, none of which went anywhere.

Then I tried match for 6 months and went on 3 actual dates. Had quite a few conversations or interests, but was never able to get to the stage where I meet them in person. Eharmony had a really low price so I signed up again for 3 months and there's basically no new women in the past year. As I said before I heard bumble had some more younger people so I thought that may work.

My pictures obviously didn't work too well with match or eharmony, so I'll try and find some new ones.

It's been over 5 years since I dated anyone seriously and I'd really like meet someone
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Old 12th January 2018, 6:10 PM   #42
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Question for the enlightened: Anyone have a guess the percentage of the time men swipe right on women? I hear 45%. Anyone think it's closer to 90% or would they need to be a little more discriminate because of the max daily swipes?
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Old 13th January 2018, 12:39 PM   #43
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Question for the enlightened: Anyone have a guess the percentage of the time men swipe right on women? I hear 45%. Anyone think it's closer to 90% or would they need to be a little more discriminate because of the max daily swipes?
What I don't understand with these dating sites is why I just get ignored so often. On match.com I've gotten a few messages from women that I wasn't interested in and I send them something letting them know they weren't what I was looking for, but they're perfect for a lot of guys and wishing them good luck. If I come across someone on the search I'm not interested in I close them out so I disappear from their search.

With these women I've messaged some message me back that I'm awesome, funny, or whatever and then never respond again and never close me or anything. Most never respond or even look at my profile. Very frustrating!
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Old 13th January 2018, 1:11 PM   #44
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What I don't understand with these dating sites is why I just get ignored so often. On match.com I've gotten a few messages from women that I wasn't interested in and I send them something letting them know they weren't what I was looking for, but they're perfect for a lot of guys and wishing them good luck. If I come across someone on the search I'm not interested in I close them out so I disappear from their search.

With these women I've messaged some message me back that I'm awesome, funny, or whatever and then never respond again and never close me or anything. Most never respond or even look at my profile. Very frustrating!
The harsh truth is that they probably found someone whom they are more interested in (ie. better pictures). That’s another reason why it’s good to try to plan a quick date just after a few back and forth messages. Until you’ve met in person you are jus another random match for them.
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Old 13th January 2018, 2:26 PM   #45
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The harsh truth is that they probably found someone whom they are more interested in (ie. better pictures). That’s another reason why it’s good to try to plan a quick date just after a few back and forth messages. Until you’ve met in person you are jus another random match for them.
To add, women have literally HUNDREDS of guys messaging them. Unless you are in the top 90% of looks they typically will go with a guy who they are more attracted to.
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