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Old 7th January 2018, 8:20 PM   #16
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Chill. There is no such thing as the perfect profile. You need things that show you are a responsible adult but also hooks -- like the waffles, tennis, hiking & skiing -- that make somebody who shares those interests want to talk to you. You also need those hooks in there to weed out people who don't share your interests. I don't ski & I hate Disney so I wouldn't match with you but that's part of the process, weeding out the people who automatically don't work.
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Old 9th January 2018, 4:29 PM   #17
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Is this basic length good for sites like match and eharmony?

What I have now is 3 paragraphs and I generally see only shorter descriptions on women's profiles.
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Old 9th January 2018, 4:42 PM   #18
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I think in general, men need longer profiles that women do.

What do you really value?
Focus on that and find a way to say it without just listing it out.
Communicate it in a way that someone can imagine/visualize it.

For example, if you like silly humour, rather than stating that you're silly, say you do a decent Schwarzenegger impression.
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Old 9th January 2018, 4:54 PM   #19
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Is this basic length good for sites like match and eharmony?

What I have now is 3 paragraphs and I generally see only shorter descriptions on women's profiles.
Thought this was a Tinder profile. It is much too short for dating sites(no just swipe apps) my opinion those are much lengthier.
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Old 9th January 2018, 5:21 PM   #20
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Woow! Thatís a very long description. Which dating app do you use? 😅😅
Iím a woman and I have only 2 lines on my profile:

Early morning workout🏋️*♀️
Staring at people 👀

Work like a champ!
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Old 9th January 2018, 8:09 PM   #21
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Woow! Thatís a very long description. Which dating app do you use? 😅😅
Iím a woman and I have only 2 lines on my profile:

Early morning workout🏋️*♀️
Staring at people 👀

Work like a champ!
Itís because youíre a woman. You could say you are an axe murderer and it would not reduce your hits by much.

OP - How about ďYou. Me. WafflesĒ
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Old 9th January 2018, 8:11 PM   #22
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Supportive son, grandson, and brother.
That's about right- for a graveyard headstone but not a dating profile.

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Old 11th January 2018, 7:48 PM   #23
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Tips for dating on bumble?

I tried a paid website and only just didn't get anywhere near as many matches as I was expecting and from those only got a few responses and only met a handful in person and didn't get anywhere with them.

My search is for white women between 30 and 40 never married, no kids, no smoking, no tattoos. I thought maybe bumble would have more people in that range.

I signed up for Facebook with my real first name and fake last and created a new email just for this. I've heard when you first sign up you tend to get more interest, so I want to make sure I have everything right to start.

How long a profile description and how many pictures? Any other tips?
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Old 11th January 2018, 7:58 PM   #24
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Be attractive, don't be unattractive are the main two tips I have. I think the profile you had in the original post of your last thread is OK length, but no longer than that. The whole concept of dating apps is to make it brisk, so don't worry too much about the writing and just make sure you get down the main points down.

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Old 11th January 2018, 8:07 PM   #25
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your profile should be commensurate with how good looking you are
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Old 11th January 2018, 8:10 PM   #26
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Be attractive, don't be unattractive are the main two I tips I have. I think the profile you had in the original post of your last thread is OK length, but no longer than that. The whole concept of dating apps is to make it brisk, so don't worry too much about the writing and just make sure you get down the main points down.
Exactly this.

Donít get excited when you get matches. Most will let them expire. I used to use my free daily extend but I donít even bother (though I dated one girl who required it I found out later - went along with her entitlement so it did score me some P for a few months). Especially when they matched you - they know they have to send a message. A lot of time wasters on bumble.

The remainder will send you a ďHiĒ and then the convo will fade - if they even respond again. This has happened a lot to me.

The ones who are interested usually make it obvious. Those are the ones to focus on. But dates will have mixed success after meeting in person.

Your best bet is good pics. Iíve had many women say Iím much better looking in person which means I need better pics (but too lazy at this point).

That said I have done fairly well and havenít been dry for long (good or bad).

And bumble will front load the most swiped profiles so youíll see the attractiveness decline the more you swipe.
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Old 11th January 2018, 8:24 PM   #27
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Step 1: Be in the reincarnation of a Greek God

that is all...
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Old 11th January 2018, 8:33 PM   #28
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Sites like Tinder and Bumble are very superficial. On sites like Tinder and Bumble, It's 95% looks. Your bio doesn't matter all that much, your personality or interests don't really matter too much. That's why you should treat it solely as a hookup app, anything more than that is simply a bonus.

Basically the closer you are to what your society defines as the physical ideal, the more successful you will likely be. In America's case, that's going to be a 6 ft tall good looking white guy who isn't too fat or too skinny.

If you're short (under 5 ft 7), don't even bother... You're wasting your time.

If you're fat, don't even bother... You're wasting your time.

If you're not attractive, don't even bother... You're wasting your time.

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Old 11th January 2018, 8:36 PM   #29
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Sites like Tinder and Bumble are very superficial. On sites like Tinder and Bumble, It's 95% looks. Your bio doesn't matter all that much, your personality or interests don't really matter too much. That's why you should treat it solely as a hookup app, anything more than that is simply a bonus.

Basically the closer you are to what your society defines as the physical ideal, the more successful you will likely be. In America's case, that's going to be a 6 ft tall good looking white guy who isn't too fat or too skinny.

If you're short (under 5 ft 7), don't even bother... You're wasting your time.

If you're fat, don't even bother... You're wasting your time.

If you're not attractive, don't even bother... You're wasting your time.
lot of gray area in there
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Old 11th January 2018, 8:38 PM   #30
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Are you sure, Guitarguy7? Are you saying all the basic guys I encountered on there are wasting their time? Why would someone do that? If it's garnering 0 results, why not just stick to IRL? What could be worse than zero.

Most of the guys I've been on dates with have looked pretty basic. Maybe you're only going for the top 10% of girls or something.

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