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Old 31st December 2017, 3:50 PM   #1
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How To Get Approached By The Guy You Like

So you want to be approached by the guy you like but he's too shy? Well, if you want to be approached by men, you must first think from the perspective of a man.

So let's just say you're a single guy wanting to meet girls and you see a woman somewhere out in public and you think she's cute and you want to talk to her. The reason why most men arne't going to make that approach is because of several reasons. They don't know what to say, they're afraid of coming off as a creep, they're afraid she will say no, and the woman isn't even giving any signals she wants to be approached.

And contrary to popular belief, most guys don't like getting rejected. It's a blow to their ego, a blow to their self-esteem. And for many guys when they get rejected, they pretend they're not phased by it because by reacting negatively to rejection, we are taught it's a sign of weakness and desperation.

So by knowing all of this, what can you do to encourage guys to approach you? Start giving off signals that you want to be approached. Here's several ways.


First off, learn to smile. Smiling is a sign of friendliness, but it's also a subtle way of saying, hey I want to be talked to!

Another way is to use proximity. If you like a guy and want to be approached, then stand by him, sit by him, do anything to get close to him.
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Old 31st December 2017, 4:14 PM   #2
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How to get approached by the guy you like.....

Well, I'll pull an anecdote from fishing the San Simeon pier over the holiday...... me, being the old-fashioned friendly guy I tend to look strangers in the eye and say hello....

Get your head out of your phone
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Old 31st December 2017, 4:32 PM   #3
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I agree smiling and looking approachable is important for women IF they are interested. And most will smile at guys they are halfway attracted to who look friendly and outgoing.
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Old 31st December 2017, 4:37 PM   #4
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And contrary to popular belief, most guys don't like getting rejected.
I don't think this is a "popular belief."

But, I agree, smiling and appearing approachable are good tactics for any favorable interaction you'd like to have with members of the human race!
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I didn't know it was a popular belief that men like being rejected
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Old 31st December 2017, 5:33 PM   #6
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Better yet, say Hello to him.
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Old 1st January 2018, 6:23 AM   #7
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Proximity and Start a conversation. Thats all that matters with both genders.

I think that sometimes we put too much thought to this. Thats what I do for the most part. I start a conversation and the woman will either be into it or not. If she is not. I drop my interaction like a hot potato.
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Old 5th February 2018, 9:45 PM   #8
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Proximity and Start a conversation. Thats all that matters with both genders.

I think that sometimes we put too much thought to this. Thats what I do for the most part. I start a conversation and the woman will either be into it or not. If she is not. I drop my interaction like a hot potato.
I find this soooo annoying - it's so rude to abruptly drop a convo with a woman because she doesn't hit all the checkboxes on your list. Be a human and end the convo gracefully. You've then both behaved decently, and moved on from a woman who isn't right for you.

Granted, I only get hit up by desperate/lonely dudes looking for easy sex, but treating me like a warm hole and not a person gets them nowhere. I've worked with the public for years and I can tell you that it is possible to convince most people of things they disbelieved or disagreed with, or at least convince them to consider alternatives to their viewpoint.

Translated to dating/sex, that means that in the process of having a human to human convo (with a proper beginning, middle, and end) with a woman, you never know what could happen. Maybe she starts to see something in you she didn't before. Maybe she's not into you personally, but is willing to stay in touch and knows people, etc.

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Old 5th February 2018, 10:13 PM   #9
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So you want to be approached by the guy you like but he's too shy? Well, if you want to be approached by men, you must first think from the perspective of a man.

So let's just say you're a single guy wanting to meet girls and you see a woman somewhere out in public and you think she's cute and you want to talk to her. The reason why most men arne't going to make that approach is because of several reasons. They don't know what to say, they're afraid of coming off as a creep, they're afraid she will say no, and the woman isn't even giving any signals she wants to be approached.

And contrary to popular belief, most guys don't like getting rejected. It's a blow to their ego, a blow to their self-esteem. And for many guys when they get rejected, they pretend they're not phased by it because by reacting negatively to rejection, we are taught it's a sign of weakness and desperation.

So by knowing all of this, what can you do to encourage guys to approach you? Start giving off signals that you want to be approached. Here's several ways.


First off, learn to smile. Smiling is a sign of friendliness, but it's also a subtle way of saying, hey I want to be talked to!

Another way is to use proximity. If you like a guy and want to be approached, then stand by him, sit by him, do anything to get close to him.
Thanks for the tips.
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So you want to be approached by the guy you like but he's too shy? Well, if you want to be approached by men, you must first think from the perspective of a man.

So let's just say you're a single guy wanting to meet girls and you see a woman somewhere out in public and you think she's cute and you want to talk to her. The reason why most men arne't going to make that approach is because of several reasons. They don't know what to say, they're afraid of coming off as a creep, they're afraid she will say no, and the woman isn't even giving any signals she wants to be approached.

And contrary to popular belief, most guys don't like getting rejected. It's a blow to their ego, a blow to their self-esteem. And for many guys when they get rejected, they pretend they're not phased by it because by reacting negatively to rejection, we are taught it's a sign of weakness and desperation.

So by knowing all of this, what can you do to encourage guys to approach you? Start giving off signals that you want to be approached. Here's several ways.


First off, learn to smile. Smiling is a sign of friendliness, but it's also a subtle way of saying, hey I want to be talked to!

Another way is to use proximity. If you like a guy and want to be approached, then stand by him, sit by him, do anything to get close to him.
what about eye contact??
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Maybe instead of telling women how to be more approachable, we men need to grow a pair. If they are too approachable it invites unwanted attention.

One example was don't be glued to your phone. Even if she is, it doesn't necessarily mean she isn't approachable. Maybe she's bored because no one will talk to her. I have successfully approached women who are glued to their phones using techniques like saying "what's so interesting?" as I walk by. You can tell by her reaction to that whether she is open to talking. If she isn't, go to wherever you were going and leave her alone. If she is, then introduce yourself. Simple. No cheesy pick up lines needed. Your goal should not be to pick her up. It is to have an interesting conversation. If a connection is formed then what happens after that is up to the two of you.
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I start a conversation and the woman will either be into it or not. If she is not. I drop my interaction like a hot potato.
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it's so rude to abruptly drop a convo with a woman because she doesn't hit all the checkboxes on your list.
I think you misread it. He's saying he drops the interaction if she is not [into it], not that he drops the interaction if she doesn't hit all the checkboxes.

If the girl is not interested in the conversation, then it's actually polite, rather than rude, to end it quickly (as long as not done in a rude manner).
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Old 9th February 2018, 10:38 PM   #13
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I think you misread it. He's saying he drops the interaction if she is not [into it], not that he drops the interaction if she doesn't hit all the checkboxes.

If the girl is not interested in the conversation, then it's actually polite, rather than rude, to end it quickly (as long as not done in a rude manner).
On second reading - I think you're right! My bad. The situation I described is annoying, but someone taking a hint and leaving definitely isn't.
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Old 11th February 2018, 2:41 PM   #14
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Good advice.

Now if only I could put Courage of an Elderly Man into a bottle and sell it to young men. I'd be rich!
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Old 27th February 2018, 12:25 AM   #15
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So you want to be approached by the guy you like but he's too shy? Well, if you want to be approached by men, you must first think from the perspective of a man.

So let's just say you're a single guy wanting to meet girls and you see a woman somewhere out in public and you think she's cute and you want to talk to her. The reason why most men arne't going to make that approach is because of several reasons. They don't know what to say, they're afraid of coming off as a creep, they're afraid she will say no, and the woman isn't even giving any signals she wants to be approached.

And contrary to popular belief, most guys don't like getting rejected. It's a blow to their ego, a blow to their self-esteem. And for many guys when they get rejected, they pretend they're not phased by it because by reacting negatively to rejection, we are taught it's a sign of weakness and desperation.

So by knowing all of this, what can you do to encourage guys to approach you? Start giving off signals that you want to be approached. Here's several ways.


First off, learn to smile. Smiling is a sign of friendliness, but it's also a subtle way of saying, hey I want to be talked to!

Another way is to use proximity. If you like a guy and want to be approached, then stand by him, sit by him, do anything to get close to him.
As a guy who has striked up conversation with women in the scenarios you described -

A lot of women do not give off any signs of interest, but are actually interested. I have confirmed this with several women that I was interested in.

Women who smile may not necessarily be into you either, but yes, it could be a sign also.

From experience, eye contact is king. Likewise, proximity is a very obvious sign too, but don't actively seek out those signs to give yourself an excuse to talk to her. In a way, it is similar to hanging out at a bar. Be they guy who can approach women without having to let the alcohol talk you into it. That's real confidence. Learn and remember what that feels like, and let it guide you.

I think the bottom line is that if you want to talk to a women, you should. Failure and rejection are sometimes self-imposed, and successfully attracting women requires inner confidence first, in an outcome-independent way where external validation by women are not necessary.

Yes, it would be nice for women to be more forward. Women in many European countries tend to be this way. But don't rely on a crutch like that. You have everything you need, just believe that you are enough, and the rest will follow.
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