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sent her my full name so she could google it. See that I'm who I say I am. (I'm all over the internet.....business name....pictures.....home address....facebook....pages of information and pictures and pictures of my family and pretty much the history of my life....that match my profile....so she's comfortable).

 

She asks me to take her out. We meet. I have to ask her name...because.....she's never given it to me. "No name on first date" LOL

 

I"m thinking "OK....do I get up and walk out now or sit here and see this through?" I didn't want to be rude....and you never know what's going on with others....so....I stayed and we talked. But....how close can you get to someone who doesn't even want you to know their name? Anyway.....so we talk BS for an hour....nodding and smiling....faking it... and I wish her a merry Christmas and head home.

 

Things went just fine.....if one likes talking to a complete stranger for an hour.

 

As I sit here....5 hours later.....it dawns on me ....she never thanked me for supper. LOL

 

Dating...it's great to be back "in the game".....It's also one reason why a lot people stay in relationships longer than they should.

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sent her my full name so she could google it. See that I'm who I say I am. (I'm all over the internet.....business name....pictures.....home address....facebook....pages of information and pictures and pictures of my family and pretty much the history of my life....that match my profile....so she's comfortable).

 

She asks me to take her out. We meet. I have to ask her name...because.....she's never given it to me. "No name on first date" LOL

 

I"m thinking "OK....do I get up and walk out now or sit here and see this through?" I didn't want to be rude....and you never know what's going on with others....so....I stayed and we talked. But....how close can you get to someone who doesn't even want you to know their name? Anyway.....so we talk BS for an hour....nodding and smiling....faking it... and I wish her a merry Christmas and head home.

 

Things went just fine.....if one likes talking to a complete stranger for an hour.

 

As I sit here....5 hours later.....it dawns on me ....she never thanked me for supper. LOL

 

Dating...it's great to be back "in the game".....It's also one reason why a lot people stay in relationships longer than they should.

 

Yea dating sucks. But you can prevent things like this from happening by upping your standards.

 

First, don’t do dinner on a first date from online unless you’ve built up rapport via phone. A drink is easier, cheaper, and quicker if it’s gong nowhere.

 

Second, don’t go out with a woman who won’t even share her name. She doesn’t like you enough to take a risk (and that’s just nuts). Women who are really interested in you will be happy to give you their number. Some are freaked out by it but will be eager to meet. Though I’ve found the high interest women aren’t afraid because they like you.

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I also wouldn't go on a date with someone who refused to give me a name.....that's just weird!

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It feels because you not used to date anymore, you didn't see the red flags.

 

Not giving a first name, not even after a 5 hour date? Next.

 

Don't get discouraged though. But filter better next time.

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sent her my full name so she could google it. See that I'm who I say I am. (I'm all over the internet.....business name....pictures.....home address....facebook....pages of information and pictures and pictures of my family and pretty much the history of my life....that match my profile....so she's comfortable).

 

She asks me to take her out. We meet. I have to ask her name...because.....she's never given it to me. "No name on first date" LOL

 

I"m thinking "OK....do I get up and walk out now or sit here and see this through?" I didn't want to be rude....and you never know what's going on with others....so....I stayed and we talked. But....how close can you get to someone who doesn't even want you to know their name? Anyway.....so we talk BS for an hour....nodding and smiling....faking it... and I wish her a merry Christmas and head home.

 

Things went just fine.....if one likes talking to a complete stranger for an hour.

 

As I sit here....5 hours later.....it dawns on me ....she never thanked me for supper. LOL

 

Dating...it's great to be back "in the game".....It's also one reason why a lot people stay in relationships longer than they should.

 

Wait WHAT. How did you meet if you didn't even get her first name yet? I sure as h-e-double-hockeysticks wouldn't have gone on a date with someone who wouldn't give me their name beforehand, let alone ON the actual date. What a creep!

 

 

Not thanking you could have been something she simply forgot, but me being me, sounds like she doesn't have great manners. No name and no thanks? NEXT.

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Hey whatnot

Bizarre women, doesn't sound like your missing much with her eh.

Just wondering , why you told her and let her see all about you when you didn't even have her name.

 

The very first women l met on the date site wouldn't show me a pic. went on for two weeks, she wanted me to come meet her but still wouldn't show me a pic, or tell me her real name.

She said it was because of her job, dunno.

We got along very well though so l persisted until after two weeks she still wouldn't tell me her name or show me a pic yet we were talking for hours every night on the phone.

 

ln the end though l said l can't go on like this and l'm not going to meet someone that won't even show me a pic or tell me her name it's bs.

Broke it off there .

Maybe l should've gone , always wonder, we did get along really well.

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Hey whatnot

Bizarre women, doesn't sound like your missing much with her eh.

Just wondering , why you told her and let her see all about you when you didn't even have her name.

 

The very first women l met on the date site wouldn't show me a pic. went on for two weeks, she wanted me to come meet her but still wouldn't show me a pic, or tell me her real name.

She said it was because of her job, dunno.

We got along very well though so l persisted until after two weeks she still wouldn't tell me her name or show me a pic yet we were talking for hours every night on the phone.

 

ln the end though l said l can't go on like this and l'm not going to meet someone that won't even show me a pic or tell me her name it's bs.

Broke it off there .

Maybe l should've gone , always wonder, we did get along really well.

 

I think curiosity would have gotten the better of me at that point!

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l suppose she could've been a cop,small town ,cops might have to watch that sorta thing.

Wouldn't tell me exactly what she did either , again because of the job.

Did say it was working with the public.

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l'm just talking to a women now that is also very cagey and hold backish , yet she likes me a lot she says and l can see it .

l'd probably had dropped her by now but l really loved her page and pics and things about her.

 

Trying to persist until we meet .

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I think curiosity would have gotten the better of me at that point!

 

 

Yeah , tbh l regretted not going , she did seem like a damn nice lady.

She kept saying look we just meet for coffee if you don't like my looks then we say goodbye.

l spose she had a point.

Maybe there really was a good reason she couldn't say certain things,

 

l talked to her 4mths later but she'd started seeing someone. Always wondered if he got a name and a pic first.

l use to call her TT but after two weeks of having to call her that because she wouldn't give me her real name , it was starting to feel a bit ridiculous.

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l suppose she could've been a cop,small town ,cops might have to watch that sorta thing.

Wouldn't tell me exactly what she did either , again because of the job.

Did say it was working with the public.

I've seen several cops on Tinder and Bumble.. And one of my friends met and is dating a cop she found on Tinder too..

Who knows though

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sent her my full name so she could google it. See that I'm who I say I am. (I'm all over the internet.....business name....pictures.....home address....facebook....pages of information and pictures and pictures of my family and pretty much the history of my life....that match my profile....so she's comfortable).

 

She asks me to take her out. We meet. I have to ask her name...because.....she's never given it to me. "No name on first date" LOL

 

I"m thinking "OK....do I get up and walk out now or sit here and see this through?" I didn't want to be rude....and you never know what's going on with others....so....I stayed and we talked. But....how close can you get to someone who doesn't even want you to know their name? Anyway.....so we talk BS for an hour....nodding and smiling....faking it... and I wish her a merry Christmas and head home.

 

Things went just fine.....if one likes talking to a complete stranger for an hour.

 

As I sit here....5 hours later.....it dawns on me ....she never thanked me for supper. LOL

 

Dating...it's great to be back "in the game".....It's also one reason why a lot people stay in relationships longer than they should.

 

I have a feeling that you are talking about last name. I bet she gave you her first name but no last name and you’re upset. I can not blame her for this.

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I have a feeling that you are talking about last name. I bet she gave you her first name but no last name and you’re upset. I can not blame her for this.

 

That would certainly be very different lol. But there was no specification for us to go off.

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I have a feeling that you are talking about last name. I bet she gave you her first name but no last name and you’re upset. I can not blame her for this.

 

Why?

 

Scams work both ways. I had no way of knowing her partners in crime weren't going through my house while I was eating with her.

 

If I'd been more concerned with my well being rather than being nice to her I'd run outta there that moment to check on my place.

 

And you don't blame her.....interesting that you have no problems putting other human beings in that position.

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Hey whatnot

Bizarre women, doesn't sound like your missing much with her eh.

Just wondering , why you told her and let her see all about you when you didn't even have her name.

 

Maybe l should've gone , always wonder, we did get along really well.

 

I give people information about me because I want them to be comfortable. At the same time.....I don't ask for names....or any information on the internet. I don't like putting people in that position. I figure they'll tell me when they're comfortable.

 

I just assumed she forgot to give me her name before we met. It never occurred to me that anyone would meet someone.....and have them buy them dinner....without trusting the person enough....to give them their name. Who on earth is that insane? What I should have done was.....when she first told me "first name only".....I should have asked her more about that. Asked her if she's had problems in the past with giving out her name to someone she wanted to meet. it was a first......and a last.

 

And no.....you missed nothing by not meeting that woman that wouldn't tell you her real name. If they're really interested....they'll take the educated risk. It's kinda freeky eating with someone who won't tell ya who they are. Pretty much shuts down the whole point of it all. LOL

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Another possibility is......she's stepping out on her husband. And she was waiting to see if I was the kind of guy who'd be willing to play with a married woman. Once she saw I'm the kind of guy that would run from that....there was no reason for her...at that point....to get to know me further.

 

Seriously.....there's got to be more to it than fear. If one is *that* fearful....you don't go. No body's that crazy. Are they? lol

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Why?

 

Scams work both ways. I had no way of knowing her partners in crime weren't going through my house while I was eating with her.

 

If I'd been more concerned with my well being rather than being nice to her I'd run outta there that moment to check on my place.

 

And you don't blame her.....interesting that you have no problems putting other human beings in that position.

 

So? You’re obviously not as afraid as this young lady is.

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Another possibility is......she's stepping out on her husband. And she was waiting to see if I was the kind of guy who'd be willing to play with a married woman. Once she saw I'm the kind of guy that would run from that....there was no reason for her...at that point....to get to know me further.

 

Seriously.....there's got to be more to it than fear. If one is *that* fearful....you don't go. No body's that crazy. Are they? lol

 

Yes she could be married. There are married folks online playing around.

However....

 

Why don’t you try creating a profile of a woman or even a post on Craigslist as a woman as an experiment. See how many creeps and weirdos you get....

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Yes she could be married. There are married folks online playing around.

However....

 

Why don’t you try creating a profile of a woman or even a post on Craigslist as a woman as an experiment. See how many creeps and weirdos you get....

 

No. It bothers me, taking advantage of people for my own satisfaction. It bothers me...intentionally putting people in positions of vulnerability they do not expect to be put in. I don't want people to feel over exposed....as a result of my intentional deceit.

 

I'm afraid I cannot do what you suggest.

 

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Yes she could be married. There are married folks online playing around.

However....

 

Why don’t you try creating a profile of a woman or even a post on Craigslist as a woman as an experiment. See how many creeps and weirdos you get....

 

Hmmm. The OP already responded that he'd be uncomfortable doing this. So would I (another male and rather 'active' with OLD right now). BUT .... I think 'bad' experiences with OLD are useful to hear about. I haven't seen a thread specific to that topic. Anyone care to point me to one if there is one? If not, is there some 'enthusiasm' to start one up? Examples: Pop, have you gotten creeps and weirdos? The OPs tale of the no-name woman who didn't thank him for dinner is worse than any of mine (so far). I've been ignored and ghosted. One apparently very nice woman sent me two very interested sounding messages one day, begged off (in another message) the next day, and has NCed me since (plus some other system-specific weirdness). I plead guilty to ignoring women who have cold messaged me but in whom I have no interest.

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