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This site includes a wide age range but not many 50 and above I have noticed. married or single. I am in my Sixties and single but have a very active interest in sex, love, relationships. And a high libido. I wonder how many others are out there especially in U.S. but everyone can answer. Women my age are usually not interested in sex of any kind. They talk about being friends. ( have tried online dating sites--ugh.)

Do senior men have any "bait"?

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Plenty of sexually active younger women like older guys and by younger I mean pre-menopausal, so 40's-50's. If one is obviously stable and secure they might even consider a relationship with one. If you're comfortable with transitory interactions and are used to them I see plenty of opportunities.

 

TBH, I'd probably still be like you if not for getting married. That period taught me how out of touch I was with modern relationship dynamics and how little I want to be part of that. That and losing the drive for reproducing the genes with age subtracts one formerly good guy from your competition. Instead I now do my own thing and listen to friends your age talk about the trials and tribulations of their marriages and nod knowingly and with great empathy.

 

There are only a few guys here your age and mine who regularly post. This isn't exactly an old guy's discussion forum and old guys, in general, don't discuss their stuff publicly, or at all. We tend to do it over beers with friends. The guys who are out there and energized in their later years are out doing that. Myself, I try to keep the spam down so you all can talk about what you want. Best wishes for good health!

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I am 52 and I still have a strong sex drive but I'm not currently dating because I don't feel I have much to offer in terms of a romantic relationship at this point time. Menopause hit me like a freight train a little over a year ago. Between the mood swings, hot flashes, constant exhaustion from lack of sleep, I simply have no energy for new relationships. I'm working hard at learning to manage my life in this new phase and hope that in the near future I will be able to join the dating world again. I desire sex and don't want my sex life to be over. I know a number of women in their mid to late fifties who have managed to get their menopausal symptoms behind them and now they are happily dating and having sex. I hope to get there too but for now it just seems like good manners for me to not date, lol.

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I'm female, going on 56. At 50, I snagged myself a 45 year old buck. 'Tis the best time of my life.

 

There's hope, hang in there!

 

(Menopause doesn't always have deleterious effects, if you get my drift).

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You are not doing it right... LOL.

 

You just have to find the right woman. I am 53, and I have had young women, women my age and women older than me.

 

I am in a great relationship with a woman that is 60, and beautiful in every way. She is past menopause, and granted I had to bring her along slowly the first few times. But she picked it right up.

 

And granted, she really did not understand what good sex was all about before she met me, but good god she learns fast.

 

Frankly, I have created a bit of a monster. But that is a good problem to have. But this weekend she wore me out, my **** was actually hurting and sore when she left on Sunday.

 

And not to brag too much, but wearing me out sexually takes quite a bit of doing. I have had women 20 years younger than me not be able to do that.

 

So, yeah she learns quick. She has and interesting phrase that she used this weekend. She refers to "effortless orgasms". I never knew that orgasms required much effort for women, at least from my experience. But she assures me that they used to require effort for her.

 

So it depends on the woman... Just keep looking.

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Bet you'll get a bunch of pm's! :)

 

Come on now... (if that was meant for me.)

 

I am currently, and really hoping to remain a one woman man.

 

This one is really special... and yes RC I am in love again.

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I'm 54 and feel 21, and look mid 40's. Financially independent, gainfully employed, (ie: not looking for a meal ticket), good looking, slim, and I cannot find a partner for the life of me. They're either boring old fuddy-duddies or immature jerks.....I really like the company of some men but am not physically attracted to them, I often note they want slim and attractive in a woman, and feminine, but they'll be packing a beer gut, or they'll smell like an ashtray, or they're a toilet mouth, or they overdo it with the smut jokes, (NOT a gentleman).....maybe I just expect too much. I think most women are interested in sexual relationships no matter what their age, but they're more interested in the friendship side of things, you have to build that first before you start expecting the physical stuff.

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Hey Myword....60 is *sexy*!! :) We've survived enough to where not much rattles us. (we're also the one's with the cash :D)

 

I'm hoping to find a woman myself. But she'd need to enjoy frequent trips in our private plane with leisurely yachting in S. Florida.

 

Sensitive, yet strong presences and (mostly) gentlemanly behaviors surely haven't fallen from vogue....

 

<sigh> Hang in there fellow traveler....

 

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I'm 54 and feel 21, and look mid 40's. Financially independent, gainfully employed, (ie: not looking for a meal ticket), good looking, slim, and I cannot find a partner for the life of me. They're either boring old fuddy-duddies or immature jerks.....I really like the company of some men but am not physically attracted to them, I often note they want slim and attractive in a woman, and feminine, but they'll be packing a beer gut, or they'll smell like an ashtray, or they're a toilet mouth, or they overdo it with the smut jokes, (NOT a gentleman).....maybe I just expect too much. I think most women are interested in sexual relationships no matter what their age, but they're more interested in the friendship side of things, you have to build that first before you start expecting the physical stuff.

 

MsJayne, not to ruffle feathers.

 

On the friendship thing... before sex. The deal is that at our age for a man with any experience, and women as well, sexual compatibility is paramount. We can be friends later.

 

In this latest example for me, I went to see a friend of mine play, I am also a mild mannered rock star, and I was off that weekend.

 

So am at this place digging my buddies band and I notice her, no one was dancing so she was kind of dancing by herself. I went to the restroom and when I came back I grabbed her and danced with her. She felt great to hold BTW.

 

So I need a another drink, swing by her table, and say "Come visit".

 

Come to find out she tends to be bitchy with men and she said, "I don't know where you live", kind of snarky. So that irritated me so I gave her the look, and said, "girl come sit down and visit". Of course she comes over and she was toast from that moment, I had already won.

 

So, long story longer, she said something about a 90 day rule... I literally laughed my a** off, and told her I have never heard of such a thing. Then I told her she could give me a call in 90 days.

 

So later that night, after I made love to her the first time, I asked her how she was feeling about that 90 day rule, again LMAO.

 

Point is, yeah that 90 day rule was never going to happen, and if you got a guy at this age that goes for that, he is a puss. You really don't want him

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Age 50, have been in menopause for 6 years. Yes, it did a number on my sex drive.

 

If (heaven forbid) I found myself single again, I probably wouldn't bother with another partner. Mind you, I am a full time carer to my son who has special needs, so I don't imagine I'd be high on the list for any guy.

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I noticed that men in their 60s want women in their early 40s but these are usually not interested. I know a lot of older women interested in a relationship but maybe older women are not that interested in casual sex.

 

I'm 45 and I also don't (didn't) do casual sex but I didn't tell men I've dated that information. I just didn't go home with anyone and that was that. When I dated , between 41-42, I only dated men in their 40s. My now husband was among the oldest I've dated , he is 7 years older. I wouldn't have dated someone over 52 at that time.

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I noticed that men in their 60s want women in their early 40s but these are usually not interested. I know a lot of older women interested in a relationship but maybe older women are not that interested in casual sex.

 

I'm 45 and I also don't (didn't) do casual sex but I didn't tell men I've dated that information. I just didn't go home with anyone and that was that. When I dated , between 41-42, I only dated men in their 40s. My now husband was among the oldest I've dated , he is 7 years older. I wouldn't have dated someone over 52 at that time.

 

I wouldn't date someone 10+ years older, either. I also don't see how things would work out between a woman in her early 40s (not even middle aged) and an elderly man in his 60s.

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I wouldn't date someone 10+ years older, either.

I also don't see how things would work out between a woman in her early 40s (not even middle aged) and an elderly man in his 60s.

There seems to be an assumption that once past a certain age, age does not matter, someone wrote on here recently that a 60 year old woman dating an 80-90 yo man would be fine as they were both "elderly" anyway.

It doesn't tend to work like that though, and I guess few men would suggest a 60 yo man marry an 80-90 yo woman as "age doesn't matter"... Hmm.

 

People tend not to mould into an amorphous mass as they age, if she won't date 10 years older men in her twenties she is not going to want to date 10 years older men in her 30s, or 40s or her 50s or at any age really.

People in general tend to feel most comfortable within their own peer group, they tend to speak the same "language".

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54 here (55 next month) engaged to a woman who is 58. Married for 25 years. Happy for ten of that, then miserable for 15. Finally realized I didn't need to stay in a marriage for appearances sake. Divorce final just this past July. I am learning SO MUCH from my new love!

 

So.....love, sex, relationship. Yes, all possible past 50!

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Bet you'll get a bunch of pm's! :)

 

:) No, Blues. I meant it for Myword! Sounds as if he is a great catch and looking for someone.

 

Blues, I am so happy for you! Have noticed all of your posts about your new love, or maybe she's your love you've had for awhile, not sure how to classify. But, anyway, it's great that you're happily in love and I would never want you to mess that up in any way!

 

(I meant to quote your post, Blues, not sure how I quoted my own instead!" :confused:

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You are not doing it right... LOL.

 

You just have to find the right woman. I am 53, and I have had young women, women my age and women older than me.

 

I am in a great relationship with a woman that is 60, and beautiful in every way. She is past menopause, and granted I had to bring her along slowly the first few times. But she picked it right up.

 

And granted, she really did not understand what good sex was all about before she met me, but good god she learns fast.

 

Frankly, I have created a bit of a monster. But that is a good problem to have. But this weekend she wore me out, my **** was actually hurting and sore when she left on Sunday.

 

And not to brag too much, but wearing me out sexually takes quite a bit of doing. I have had women 20 years younger than me not be able to do that.

 

So, yeah she learns quick. She has and interesting phrase that she used this weekend. She refers to "effortless orgasms". I never knew that orgasms required much effort for women, at least from my experience. But she assures me that they used to require effort for her.

 

So it depends on the woman... Just keep looking.

 

You STUD you!

 

I am 60 and like Anika menopause hit me hard at 52. The hot flashes, dryness, mood swings; but I was lucky I did not gain weight. Now that it is over sex is on my mind most of the time and the wetness is back in full force. This is a wonderful time in my marriage. So hang in there menopausal women there is a very bright light at the end of the tunnel.

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I am 60 and like Anika menopause hit me hard at 52. The hot flashes, dryness, mood swings; but I was lucky I did not gain weight. Now that it is over sex is on my mind most of the time and the wetness is back in full force. This is a wonderful time in my marriage. So hang in there menopausal women there is a very bright light at the end of the tunnel.

 

Same thing for new girl friend. I have known a few women of all ages and she is as wet as a 20 YO. Constantly...

 

And I was going to comment on that. NGF is not the only woman that age that I have been with, and all of them have gotten their mojo back after menopause. I think the important part of that word is PAUSE, because from what I have seen, it is indeed a "pause".

 

And LWP, she is the newest GF. I have gone through a few. But I am thinking I will be able to keep this one. She does not seem crazy at all. I don't do crazy, even a little bit. That is the reason I had to cut most of them loose...

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You STUD you!

 

I am 60 and like Anika menopause hit me hard at 52. The hot flashes, dryness, mood swings; but I was lucky I did not gain weight. Now that it is over sex is on my mind most of the time and the wetness is back in full force. This is a wonderful time in my marriage. So hang in there menopausal women there is a very bright light at the end of the tunnel.

 

There's an end to this??? Yay

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I'm 54 and feel 21, and look mid 40's. Financially independent, gainfully employed, (ie: not looking for a meal ticket), good looking, slim, and I cannot find a partner for the life of me. They're either boring old fuddy-duddies or immature jerks.....I really like the company of some men but am not physically attracted to them, I often note they want slim and attractive in a woman, and feminine, but they'll be packing a beer gut, or they'll smell like an ashtray, or they're a toilet mouth, or they overdo it with the smut jokes, (NOT a gentleman).....maybe I just expect too much. I think most women are interested in sexual relationships no matter what their age, but they're more interested in the friendship side of things, you have to build that first before you start expecting the physical stuff.

 

I hear ya MsJayne,

 

I'm male, 57, and take care of myself. I work out, watch what I eat, don't drink and still manage to go out and have a good time. BUT, the majority of men I know around my age, including my friends, don't fit that bill. Many just don't seem to care about their appearance any more, especially the married ones. It's sad really. I do it for myself. I like to be able to bend over to tie my shoes. I like to be able to run or walk up a few flights of stairs and not be winded.

 

When I go to the gym, I am often the oldest guy there, and one of the few with gray hair.

 

For myself, I have no interest in younger women, meaning more than 7 or 8 years. I have a 50 year old GF and she suits me just fine. Any younger than that and I'm really not interested.

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This site includes a wide age range but not many 50 and above I have noticed. married or single. I am in my Sixties and single but have a very active interest in sex, love, relationships. And a high libido. I wonder how many others are out there especially in U.S. but everyone can answer. Women my age are usually not interested in sex of any kind. They talk about being friends. ( have tried online dating sites--ugh.)

Do senior men have any "bait"?

 

 

 

I'm early 60s but in a marvelous 18 year relationship with an 8-years-younger woman. We both have a very active interest in sex, love - and high libido to match. I hope to never be without her, but if I were, I'm confident I could find another good relationship with similar qualities. Some women my age do have high libidos - if I don't find one, I'd keep looking, multi-date, or date as young as would date me. My recent FWB was 27 years younger, so it's not just delusional thinking that I could find someone.

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I've never really known that about menopause, that it's really just a "pause."

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Wow. I simply can't wait for my 45th birthday!

 

On another note, I've never really known that about menopause, that it's really just a "pause."

 

:laugh:

 

Actually, there is an upside....Maybe it's just this particular locale, where a lot of women really do their best to look good, but I do think this is not as rare as it may seem..

 

Women in their 40's and 50's actually looking better than their 20 something daughters...yes...It's true...Especially the workout crew..I know of two women in their 50's that most 20 somethings would kill to have their bodies..

 

There is a logical explanation as well..

 

Like the rest of us, most women in these age groups grew up without technology for the most part....They are reaping the benefits of years of their youth, where they weren't just staring at a screen all day long...They are just better conditioned...:)

 

 

 

TFY

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