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Old 22nd December 2017, 6:29 PM   #61
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Might unlock mine for awhile , bit of fun , see what comes in.

l've had a lot from all over the world too
FWIW, I'm looking for an LTR. So I'm on the 'plain vanilla' sites like Plenty of Fish and OKCupid. If I wanted sex, I've seen plenty of ads for OLD sites that focus on 'hookups'. I also have a buddy who speaks highly of seekingarrangement and has emailed photos of the 'attractive (VERY) young (but legal) women' he has 'met' there.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 10:58 PM   #62
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Yeah l'm only interested in a long term R too.
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Old 24th December 2017, 12:19 PM   #63
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I suppose the most daunting reason why I wouldn't look too seriously in a "Younger" women, would be that I feel that she will be wooed away by the younger dudes in due time..
Thus, I wouldn't normally be inclined to get into any relationship, to only be hurt (In time) by her leaving, or worse cheating.
Older women, tend to be more stable, and have a more serious outlook at commitment.






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Old 24th December 2017, 12:55 PM   #64
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I suppose the most daunting reason why I wouldn't look too seriously in a "Younger" women, would be that I feel that she will be wooed away by the younger dudes in due time..
Thus, I wouldn't normally be inclined to get into any relationship, to only be hurt (In time) by her leaving, or worse cheating.
Older women, tend to be more stable, and have a more serious outlook at commitment.
Without generalizing about older women, but definitely generalizing (in a bit) about men .... The OP is a younger woman, an active LS poster, and usually presents herself as sexually polyamorous (am I Politically Correct enough? ). 'We' men behave on continuums including from looking for sequential sex partners to looking for a permanent relationship with one sex partner (in some cases not even expecting sex in that relationship). My generalization is that the older 'we' get, the more likely it is that we will drift to the seeking relationship end of that spectrum. That may be true for women as well. Let the ladies speak for themselves. To paraphrase the quote, an older man may not message a younger woman on OLD because of the assumption that she is relatively more interested in sex than an LTR AND that he doesn't expect any relationship with her to be likely to last.

Practical disclaimer: I search OLD 52 or 53 and up. I feel free to Message women as young as late 40's to say 'you're attractive and I think you'll easily find a guy interested in dating you'. I'm don't message 'too much younger women' asking if they'd like to meet me with a practical floor of 57. I don't see many women below 50 in my searches because most of the OLD sites I'm on will only include women in search result sets if they are open to dating a man whose age is the same as the searcher's.
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Old 28th December 2017, 7:50 PM   #65
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Without generalizing about older women, but definitely generalizing (in a bit) about men .... The OP is a younger woman, an active LS poster, and usually presents herself as sexually polyamorous (am I Politically Correct enough? ). 'We' men behave on continuums including from looking for sequential sex partners to looking for a permanent relationship with one sex partner (in some cases not even expecting sex in that relationship). My generalization is that the older 'we' get, the more likely it is that we will drift to the seeking relationship end of that spectrum. That may be true for women as well. Let the ladies speak for themselves. To paraphrase the quote, an older man may not message a younger woman on OLD because of the assumption that she is relatively more interested in sex than an LTR AND that he doesn't expect any relationship with her to be likely to last.

Practical disclaimer: I search OLD 52 or 53 and up. I feel free to Message women as young as late 40's to say 'you're attractive and I think you'll easily find a guy interested in dating you'. I'm don't message 'too much younger women' asking if they'd like to meet me with a practical floor of 57. I don't see many women below 50 in my searches because most of the OLD sites I'm on will only include women in search result sets if they are open to dating a man whose age is the same as the searcher's.
huh? I don't even have sex?!

I did have my age parameters messed up and when I changed that I had more matches with older men. I guess what you say makes sense though.

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Old 28th December 2017, 10:57 PM   #66
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Cookies, My bad. I apologize. I must have been thinking of someone else.
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