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Old 18th February 2018, 5:45 PM   #121
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Why do you think you're not attracted to most men?

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I feel like some of the female posters here...well, sometimes people give answers that are politically correct. Having dated attractive men (sometimes semi pro or pro athletes), I can tell you first hand women do care about looks.
Or maybe they actually meant what they said because not every single women thinks exactly the same or prioritizes the same things.
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Old 18th February 2018, 6:41 PM   #122
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Well, anyways op, we are going through something similar. I've tried to date men I wasn't attracted to, and they'd get sexual very quickly. That heightens the temptation for me to go with the more attractive guy.
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Old 27th February 2018, 2:48 PM   #123
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Why do you think you're not attracted to most men?

If you're not attracted to most men strictly on a physical level, that's normal. Most men aren't the physical type to elicit raw sexual responses. Straight men also have higher bmis than gay men.

I feel like some of the female posters here...well, sometimes people give answers that are politically correct. Having dated attractive men (sometimes semi pro or pro athletes), I can tell you first hand women do care about looks.

Back in the day things moved more slowly as far as sex. Nowadays things turn sexual very quickly.

You'll have to figure out on your own tolerances as far as sex. Are you willing to date that guy who is less attractive but might be nice?
Yes, strictly on a physical level. In terms of personality, if I like you as a person that doesn't mean that I want to have sex with them.

What separates the line of "close friends" vs. "more than friends"? Being physically attracted to the other person.

I find that your post rings very true and I feel that same way.

To answer your last question, yes maybe I could. But I am not attracted to him, I feel like our sex life would suffer a lot. I think it would honestly lead to dead bedroom. It would also probably hurt that person's self esteem if I didn't want to be intimate with them like they deserve in a loving relationship.
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Old 11th July 2018, 10:41 AM   #124
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Old 21st July 2018, 10:34 AM   #125
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You're young. I dated my first boyfriend at 23! Hehe :P

I personally was a late bloomer. Only recently, at 26, have I started finding more guys attractive. Before, it was so very very rare! Don't rush yourself! Just meet new people and don't push yourself into physical relations if you don't find yourself attracted.
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Old 31st July 2018, 9:22 AM   #126
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Old 5th August 2018, 10:52 AM   #127
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I answered you before to your initial question but you completely ignored my response, so I will try again.

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I wonder just how much time is supposed to pass until I feel "moved on" or if that is something that will never happen.
As much time until you fall in love with someone new.

I think it works like that for some people.
I always have a certain type (the person I am dating at a time), and then when it's over, I tend to find men attractive who looks similar or have similar features/mannerisms. It's normal.
Often, I then, when I least expect it, meet someone and fall for them and all of a sudden realize I have a new type.... old type will be completely irrelevant then. Jup.

I never got over a guy whilst being single post-break up. I only got over them once I fell in love anew. That can happen after 3 months, it can also happen after 2 years. To me, I only start new when I fall in love again.

That being said, I am completely DEMI-SEXUAL. I can only be sexually attracted to a person if I already am falling for them.
That's why i never fantasize about hot dudes or celebrities. I am not sexually attracted to anyone but my partner.
That's really just how it is for some people.

Personally, I like it that way. I know what I want and there is no confusion.
You should be happy to be a, mostly, demi-sexual person!

Good luck!
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