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Old 27th October 2017, 8:02 AM   #76
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I'm kind of the same way, but then there's no telling when I will find someone attractive. For me, it's more about who they are. I'm with you on celebs. For me, most actors are too plain vanilla mainstream for me and I only find a couple attractive. Don't worry about that.
Not sure what people see in celebs half the time to be honest.
That is the perfect way to describe it.
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Old 17th December 2017, 9:26 PM   #77
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With the year coming to an end

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Old 22nd December 2017, 4:27 PM   #78
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don't worry about it l've never been attracted to many women either, mine are rare.

l dunno what the thing is for celebs either, l've rarely had any interest in any of them in that way.
Though l do love hearing about all the money they make haha, l can dream right.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 4:55 PM   #79
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Hi Crunchy, I identify. I'm almost never attracted to anyone either, and I'm at the other end of life to you.

For me, attraction is an intellectual thing. If I click with someone's mind, then I can build an attraction. George Cloony, Jonny Depp etc, nothing. Never knew what others saw in them.

But really, in my entire life, there have been 4 or 5 men I have been attracted to. I had relationships with 2 of them. You're not alone in this.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 5:46 PM   #80
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Same. Not attracted to most. Celebrities donít do it for me, either.

Iím attracted to intellect and personality, but apparently that isnít around much in the area in which I live.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 6:07 PM   #81
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Me too. I only get attracted when I know the person and there is a connection.
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Old 23rd December 2017, 8:26 PM   #82
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I'm envious of those that can be attracted based on looks alone. Must make things so much easier.
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Old 29th December 2017, 2:46 PM   #83
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I'm envious of those that can be attracted based on looks alone. Must make things so much easier.
I am attracted to looks and personality. Not just looks alone. Even then I do still have a physical type. Someone can be smart and fun to talk to but physically need to be attracted to them to be in a relationship.
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Old 29th December 2017, 10:07 PM   #84
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So many ladies around here that don't care about looks. It's a wonder any of those good lookin dudes can even get dates.

I'm gonna have to change up the advice I give guys around here. Forget going to the gym, losing weight, or any of that other physical nonsense. Evidently, the ladies don't care about that stuff. You struggling guys, you need to just read more books, maybe pick up a Rubik's Cube, stuff like that. See how that works out for y'all.
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Old 29th December 2017, 10:24 PM   #85
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So many ladies around here that don't care about looks. It's a wonder any of those good lookin dudes can even get dates.

I'm gonna have to change up the advice I give guys around here. Forget going to the gym, losing weight, or any of that other physical nonsense. Evidently, the ladies don't care about that stuff. You struggling guys, you need to just read more books, maybe pick up a Rubik's Cube, stuff like that. See how that works out for y'all.
Smartass. Methinks the ladies doth protest too strongly their disinterest in the physical appearance of such gentlemen as myself and perhaps you as well.
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Old 29th December 2017, 11:07 PM   #86
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Smartass. Methinks the ladies doth protest too strongly their disinterest in the physical appearance of such gentlemen as myself and perhaps you as well.
Not me, friend. I am about as average looking as a guy can be. I get dates because I know how, not because most ladies think I am hot.
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Old 30th December 2017, 2:43 AM   #87
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So many ladies around here that don't care about looks. It's a wonder any of those good lookin dudes can even get dates.

I'm gonna have to change up the advice I give guys around here. Forget going to the gym, losing weight, or any of that other physical nonsense. Evidently, the ladies don't care about that stuff. You struggling guys, you need to just read more books, maybe pick up a Rubik's Cube, stuff like that. See how that works out for y'all.
I'd say I care but I am in the minority lol

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Old 30th December 2017, 8:17 AM   #88
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I'd say I care but I am in the minority lol
Why in the minority? Because you care? Because you'd SAY so? Both?
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Old 31st December 2017, 6:40 PM   #89
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I'd say I care but I am in the minority lol
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Why in the minority? Because you care? Because you'd SAY so? Both?
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So many ladies around here that don't care about looks. It's a wonder any of those good lookin dudes can even get dates.

I'm gonna have to change up the advice I give guys around here. Forget going to the gym, losing weight, or any of that other physical nonsense. Evidently, the ladies don't care about that stuff. You struggling guys, you need to just read more books, maybe pick up a Rubik's Cube, stuff like that. See how that works out for y'all.
Well alot of advice from women on the thread seem to be like they don’t care for looks so I’d think that I’m in the minority
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Old 31st December 2017, 9:28 PM   #90
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Have you tried dating guys outside of your taste? You might feel it is a waste of time, and at first it may be, but you might eventually be surprised by someone outside of your type who charms you.

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