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Old 15th February 2017, 6:50 PM   #16
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Male, 43. Relationships have ranged from 14 years younger to 3 years older, with the majority being +/- 3 years.
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Old 17th February 2017, 2:00 AM   #17
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ima 22 year old young whipper snapper. Anywhere from 18 to 25 although let's be honest, a 25 year old probably isn't going to like me.
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Old 17th February 2017, 1:23 PM   #18
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I'm 23, nearly 24. I'm currently dating someone who is 32 (but will be 33 before I am 24- so there will be 10 years gap for a few weeks!).

I don't really have a problem with it. Like I'm fairly mature for my age, always had a lot of older friends, he probably drinks and parties way more than me. I'm a qualified healthcare professional. I have job security etc.

I'd say it's only really a problem if you are emotionally on different pages. Like I'm a mature early twenties person, and he's probably a little behind where a typical 30 something is. (He was a student for a long time- did a degree before dentistry) and then he jokes that all military people are like teenagers anyway.

The only thing that bugs me with age gaps is financial situation. I have 30K of student debt, I've only been qualified a short time period so haven't been earning decent money for very long... and I just spent my savings on moving and changing jobs (9K pay decrease- but better job satisfaction, better lifestyle, and the chance to double my wage in the next 10-15 years)... he's on 4 times my current salary, owns a house etc... that always makes me feel kind of inferior.
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Old 17th February 2017, 1:40 PM   #19
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I have never felt comfortable going a few years either way.

Probably five-ish years or so either way has been my comfort zone - relatability, attraction, just the whole works.

FTR, my husband is almost four years younger than I am. He's near my max.
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Old 17th February 2017, 3:57 PM   #20
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I am a 33 year old woman. I will not under any circumstance date younger than me. Many reasons why. My age preference is no more than 10 years older. I prefer a man to be a couple years older than me, like around 5 years older. I would date someone born in the same year as I am, but no younger. Max age I will date is 43. My last serious bf was 11 years older than me and it was kind of too much.
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Old 17th February 2017, 4:42 PM   #21
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Male, 50. My age limits for a relationship are roughly 40 to 55. I might go a year or two outside that range for the right person.

For sex, that's a hard question. I met a 63 year old woman the other day that I would definitely do. I could easily see sleeping with someone in her mid 30s. Maybe even upper 20s if I were drinking (and she was game which is the real question) any younger than that and it would be too close to my daughter's age to be anything but icky.
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Old 18th February 2017, 9:50 AM   #22
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I'd consider a man from 45 to 58. (I'm late 40's)
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Old 18th February 2017, 2:11 PM   #23
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44 year old male here, about to turn 45 in a couple of weeks. My current girlfriend is 10 years younger than me, which causes some issues from time to time due to the financial place we are both currently in life. I've dated younger than that and it always ended in disaster. Usually my best relationships have been +/- 5 years no matter what age I was at the time.
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Old 18th February 2017, 3:57 PM   #24
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I'm 41. If I were single, I think I'd be comfortable dating someone within 5 years of my age. I'd give a few years either way for someone special.

When I was younger, I preferred dating men who were between 3 and 12 years my senior. When I started dating DH, who is a whopping 3 months younger than me, I actually wondered if he was too young, but I fell in love and it's worked out, lol.
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Old 18th February 2017, 7:16 PM   #25
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i'm 30, and i would date someone 20 to 45. Last bf was 50 though.
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Old 18th February 2017, 8:19 PM   #26
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I once saw a video on facebook of a 30 year old with a woman who was 91.

I'm 25, and my (current) girlfriend is 42.
Risk taker by day, dating coach by night.
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Old 18th February 2017, 9:00 PM   #27
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Female 34. I wouldn't date anyone younger than 39 but no older than 45.
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Old 19th February 2017, 10:01 PM   #28
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female 30, Id date 4 years younger and about 5 years older. Ideally id like to date someone within a 3 year age range, not significantly older or younger. Although I did have a fling with a 20 year old when I was about 26 which was fun, but definitely would not have lasted. I would consider dating someone 36+ if we clicked but that's not an ideal situation for me. Im also one of the few people that understand or acknowledge that men have a reproductive clock as far as risk factor goes after the age of 40 and I dont want to deal with that when Im ready to have kids, which wont be for awhile. Also, a lot of people subscribe to the idea that older men are automatically more mature and stable because theyre older, but after knowing, meeting and being friends with a lot of guys I see that that is not true at all.
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Old 20th February 2017, 1:04 AM   #29
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I'm in my early 30's. I could probably go mid-20s at the youngest if I was looking at long-term potential. The occasional 21 or 22-year-old might be an exception, depending on how much they've got figured out.

But for the most part, I can't really view girls that age or younger (basically, college-aged) as serious potential relationship material. And that's fine. People that age are allowed to be a bit naive or even dumb. They just aren't appealing to me past a superficial level.

However, I would probably feel hard pressed to go much older than say, 35ish, just because I do want to eventually have a family. I think, at that age, things could potentially feel pressure to be fast-tracked a bit, just because time is of the essence.

It's tough, though. Despite there being a lot of progress in social norms for my generation, it's still common to see a lot of women my age or younger getting increasingly nervous about being single. It's amusing, but also unsettling to me, when I hear a 20-year-old kind of fretting because their friends are getting engaged or settling down. It's like, whoa, lady, don't be so envious. Most of those relationships will be dead or on life support in a few years. But I digress.
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Old 20th February 2017, 1:07 AM   #30
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Also, as a guy, I marvel at the ability a lot of women have to engage in a serious LTR with a man who is noticeably older. I see some of the age-gap relationships out there and just can't envision linking up seriously with a woman who's 10 or 15 years older than me.
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