Went On My First Ever Date Today

[Dark Horse]

So I met a girl on MeetMe who seemed cool, so I messaged her and we hit it off over text pretty quickly. We texted for about a week before deciding to meet up at the local cafeteria.

 

I was nervous as hell walking in, it's a long asss walk to the building where the food is located and all the way down i'm thinking, holy sht what if she thinks im ugly? what if she thinks i'm too short? What if she things im boring?

 

My body was trembling a little bit as we were talking as a result of nerves but I think I did a decent job of coming up with things to say. I tried to make a remark about something, tried to ask questions.

 

We talked for about an hour till she said her mom wants her back home, she said nice to meet you, we should hangout again some time.

 

She was pretty nice and pretty talkative too which is great because half of the time I have no idea what to say or say things super awkwardly. I just hope she liked me well enough to actually want to see me again and date. Apparently she has a lot of friends.

 

I don't know when I should get a second date with her, like i'm pretty new to this stuff. Any tips? How do I avoid the friendzone?

 

now i'm probably going to go to bed paranoid about whether she likes me again or not to want to hangout again!

 

 

look on the bright side! w00t I got a date. Considering 4 months ago, I was super depressed. Just go look at my old threads and realize how much of an accomplishment this actually is.

[CommittedToThis]

I just hope she liked me well enough to actually want to see me again and date.

 

she said nice to meet you, we should hangout again some time.

 

Hey DH, great job, congrats! You answered your own question, she definitely left the door open for you to contact her again, so plan a date and get busy!

 

"I got five dollars says you burn that woman down." Randle McMurphy, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest

[Imajerk17]

Nice to hear man!

 

She sounds interested. As a general point though, I wouldn't tie your self-worth as to whether she wants to hang out again or not. Rejection i.e., no second date happens to us all. If you keep putting yourself out there, more dates will happen for you.

 

I'd text her today (or tomorrow am if it is late where you are) and let her know you had a good time. Any ideas as to what you'll do next--I trust you figured out some mutual interests from what you talked about on the first date.

Edited December 21, 2016 by Imajerk17

[NVO]

Good for you Dark Horse!

 

I don't know when I should get a second date with her, like i'm pretty new to this stuff. Any tips? How do I avoid the friendzone?

 

The second date? ASAP. Or at least try to make plans. And you avoid the friendzone by making your interest known to her. Tease, flirt and touch. So pick a date where you know you'll be able to touch her a few times.

 

And keep texting to a minimal, or at least her minimal. If she texts you a lot, just text her back. But if her answers shorten with every message you send, take a step back.

 

But the most important thing: just enjoy and be yourself. Don't get clingy because you finally managed to land a date. If she likes you, she likes you. If she doesn't, let her walk.

[Dark Horse]

Well it turns out she didn't like me back, she pretty much ghosted me on snapchat when previously we would be texting each other all day, even when she was working she would find ways to respond. She hasn't responded in two days after I texted her saying how was your day? She opened my message up but ultimately did not reply which most likely means she doesn't like me. My theory is that at first she liked me because we seemed to click through text, but once we met face to face there was something about me that made her realize I could never be boyfriend material.

 

My guess is for why she's ghosted me is because she doesn't see me as compatible with her or i'm just not her type in what she considers attractive. Even though we have similar interests in video games and being a nerd and have a similar sense of humor, she's more of a country girl. Her idea of fun is probably going hunting and fishing, i'm not a country guy whatsoever.

 

Also, I took a look at some of her exes and they all were rugged looking country guys with beards. This gives me a sense of not only what she finds attractive in men but also what she's looking for in a future guy and since i'm a short scrawny guy who tries to dress nice and isn't country at all, I don't fit the mold of what she finds attractive. Also, the people she hangs out with are also the same way.

 

Kinda sucks trying to date in a small town in Iowa where it seems like a lot of women like country guys since they're country themselves. It really limits my dating options quite a bit. I live in a part of the United States where my sense of lifestyle doesn't fit in with the norm.

 

 

It sucks, but ultimately it happens. I'm just happy that I got to go on my first date though, after nearly two fuuking years of online dating and getting ghosted a sht ton!

 

I mean frick yeah! First ever date! Hopefully my next first date won't take two another additional two years.

Edited December 22, 2016 by Dark Horse

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Hey, you've been on Loveshack long enough to know that nearly everyone on here who is online dating strikes out a gazillion times before something goes right, so do not be discouraged, and bravo for getting yourself out on a date!

[RecentChange]

Well I like your attitude!

 

I have to say, having lived in both a very small town, and vibrant urban areas - it can be hard to find a match in those little pools.

 

Do you like it there? Do you plan to stay?