LookAtThisPOst Posted March 14, 2016 Share Posted March 14, 2016 (edited) <Moderation note: This meta-discussion began in another topic and, to preserve this content, we created a thread for it and moved the relevant posts. The first quote directs back to the original topic> Good to hear. I see from some of my own female friends (I am a guy) who are WAY to invested in OLD and they don't seem to have a social life outside of OLD. It is really bad when the thing they brag about is going out with 3 different guys in one weekend but they aren't "happy" at all . I haven't done OLD in ages and tend to meet girls in real life as it is much more natural to me. I go out and do things that I enjoy (volunteer, check out music/culture/etc) and if I meet someone I meet someone. I feel like the conenctions I make when I meet someone in real life is stronger as well as I don't have in the back of my head that they are going on three different dates that weekend. I feel like OLD can feel like a job interview sometimes. Sadly, I've seen women at Meetup (real LIFE events), browsing through their dating apps while at the event. Then talking to their female friend next to them about whatever interactions they've been having with these men online...WHEN... There are SINGLE MEN in front of them at the REAL LIFE meetups. LOL There looks to be an overlap between the two. Quite sad. Edited March 14, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Thread created and moved to ISO Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted March 14, 2016 Share Posted March 14, 2016 Not everybody can flirt in a group setting. Maybe these women were there for the activity, not to select mates. Sadly, I've seen women at Meetup (real LIFE events), browsing through their dating apps while at the event. Then talking to their female friend next to them about whatever interactions they've been having with these men online...WHEN... There are SINGLE MEN in front of them at the REAL LIFE meetups. LOL There looks to be an overlap between the two. Quite sad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 14, 2016 Share Posted March 14, 2016 Sadly, I've seen women at Meetup (real LIFE events), browsing through their dating apps while at the event. Then talking to their female friend next to them about whatever interactions they've been having with these men online...WHEN... There are SINGLE MEN in front of them at the REAL LIFE meetups. LOL There looks to be an overlap between the two. Quite sad. Why worry about what they are doing? Just talk to people that want to socialise with you. I talk to everyone at a meetup who wants a conversation (and isn't pushy for a date, occasionally happens). Not everyone treats meetups as date hang outs, that expectation is really annoying 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted March 14, 2016 Author Share Posted March 14, 2016 Why worry about what they are doing? Just talk to people that want to socialise with you. I talk to everyone at a meetup who wants a conversation (and isn't pushy for a date, occasionally happens). Not everyone treats meetups as date hang outs, that expectation is really annoying I think you're getting side track with my post. I was just pointing out the irony of that. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 14, 2016 Share Posted March 14, 2016 I think you're getting side track with my post. I was just pointing out the irony of that. And I'm pointing out that there is no irony. It's very annoying that some people assume others are out that evening because they are looking to date at that moment. the only annoying aspect of meetups is men who should probably stick to singles groups if they don't want to respect the fact that others are out to simply socialise or just be. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted March 14, 2016 Author Share Posted March 14, 2016 Not everyone treats meetups as date hang outs, that expectation is really annoying Well, that all depends on the Meetup. For instance, if it's a <name of city> Social Group...where it's geared towards only social activities which usually entails dinner groups, or "dinner and dancing" groups, etc. Sometimes there are "new member" events on a monthly basis to encourage newcomers that are constantly joining meetups...usually at bars, restaurants, happy hour discounts, etc. I've seen over 100 people RSVP for these events...most of these people are unattached. Of course, you'll have the occasional awkward couple show up, but that's few and far between. In fact, I've seen meetups fizzle after people started coupling up and getting married. lol. Also, once the organizer gets married...they wind up handing the group over to someone else, or say bye-bye to the Meetup. Where I live a VERY large percentage of people are unattached and chances are they are looking. Though, the more strongly niche'd Meetups geared towards a specific function, like hiking/camping, kayaking...book reading, etc. You'll still see single people in these groups, but its funny seeing a married person go hiking with us...and they'd talk about how their husband gives them grief about leaving him at home, lol. Even though the great outdoors ain't his thing. But I guess that's a whole different post altogether. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted March 14, 2016 Author Share Posted March 14, 2016 And I'm pointing out that there is no irony. It's very annoying that some people assume others are out that evening because they are looking to date at that moment. the only annoying aspect of meetups is men who should probably stick to singles groups if they don't want to respect the fact that others are out to simply socialise or just be. Where I live, the same people I know that have joined singles groups...are ALSO in the non-singles social groups as well. So it becomes moot. Maybe it's a geographic thing *shrug* I don't know. I know this one woman that joined a Speed Dating meetup...she also goes hiking with us at another Meetup. So her motives are obvious. I recall a dude on the hike that would spend time near her, trying to get to know her every break during the hike. lol. Can't fault a man for trying. Sorry if it's annoying for you, but that's how you and I came into existence...that's how biology and attraction works. Link to post Share on other sites
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