Ashes_101 Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 (edited) Ok, I am a 20 year old guy. I have never had my first kiss or a girlfriend. I am generally well mannered but honestly lack the confidence to ask a girl out right now, though I can compliment and tend to be very introverted at times. Please tell me if this has to do with my looks or personality? [personally identifiable content redacted] It seems to me like no girl sees me as a boyfriend. Edited February 20, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 You're very skinny. You'd look better if you put some weight on in the form of muscle. Get thee to the gym. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashes_101 Posted February 20, 2016 Author Share Posted February 20, 2016 So you think women are not interested because of my looks? Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 So you think women are not interested because of my looks? I'm not saying that; I'm just saying what I think. You are skinny verging on emaciated. It's not a healthy look. Eat more, go to the gym. Take care. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashes_101 Posted February 20, 2016 Author Share Posted February 20, 2016 I would say I do have a good personality. I do much more than the average person to help those in need. Also, I have generally polite and girls have told me that, though I am indeed introverted, very much so at times. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 Don't worry you will fill out more in a couple of years. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
contel3 Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 I'm a woman and I think you're perfectly ok.... you're 20 lol. Plenty of time to find a girlfriend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 I would say I do have a good personality. I do much more than the average person to help those in need. Also, I have generally polite and girls have told me that, though I am indeed introverted, very much so at times. You are too nice.....you need to be more edgy dare devilish to get the ladies attention. You need to strengthen up physically and mentally. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 *I would say I do have a good personality. I do much more than the average person to help those in need. Also, I have generally polite and girls have told me that, though I am indeed introverted, very much so at times. *I'm sure thats the truth. You've got a nice face, too. Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 My apologies for not catching this sooner. I'll leave the comments on appearance up but please be aware that posting personal pictures here to get rated is disallowed and the response from the thread starter may be delayed. I'll get this cleaned up, retitled, and moved to the proper forum. Thanks for your responses and please continue. Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 I'm basically an introvert, but I'm also very sociable. As long as I get my personal time, I'm happy. Being an introvert doesn't mean that you can't go out and have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 (edited) I would say I do have a good personality. I do much more than the average person to help those in need. Also, I have generally polite and girls have told me that, though I am indeed introverted, very much so at times. Please don't believe that every woman thinks you need to be a 'jack@ss' to get them. [] Would you rather get action from shallow women or make this world a better place? IME, it takes years to become more confident in yourself and be confident with being the person you are, and it will probably take you years, but just know I know a number of women that would like you as you are. Edited February 20, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language and decency 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 (edited) Also, from the pics you're quite tall, so don't worry that much about being skinny. Did Bill Gates spend his 20s working out 2 hours a day so he could get pussy, or did he do what he wanted to do and what his calling was and make this world a better place? You have a good heart. Use it and don't be corrupted into throwing it away to please others. BTW, there's a bit of hyperbole in my post. There's nothing wrong with working out, but do it because that's what you want to do. Edited February 20, 2016 by JuneJulySeptember Link to post Share on other sites
AMJ Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 What's going on with these long fingers? Such a weird comment to make. Link to post Share on other sites
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 There are many guys on this site quite older than you who are still in your boat OP Link to post Share on other sites
Forevermore13 Posted February 21, 2016 Share Posted February 21, 2016 You don't have to passionately kiss someone, have sex with someone or be with someone by 20... Or at any age. Things happen in time, that time will come and I'm a firm believer that there is somebody for everyone out there. Also... Even if you think you don't look so great, I can promise you there are worse people out there who find genuine love. Stop stressing. X Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted February 21, 2016 Share Posted February 21, 2016 There are many guys on this site quite older than you who are still in your boat OP That unfortunately is the truth, I am one such person. My advice is do EVERYTHING you can to try and find success early in life and not sit at 31 with the same issue as you have now. From an age point of view you have lots of opportunities. Link to post Share on other sites
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted February 25, 2016 Share Posted February 25, 2016 That unfortunately is the truth, I am one such person. My advice is do EVERYTHING you can to try and find success early in life and not sit at 31 with the same issue as you have now. From an age point of view you have lots of opportunities. and lots of guys in Japan that are in this boat, a lot of Japanese guys in their 30's and 40's who have never had sex Link to post Share on other sites
Rumely Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 (edited) I was once sitting exactly where you are, except you're taller. You don't mention it, but my guess is you have some social anxiety also. Spend some time on YouTube watching videos on sodial anxiety and building self confidence. After watching them, go out and practice. Life is much more fun and you will be much more likely to meet someone when you are out of the house. Challenge yourself. Go to a crowded place. Go to a concert, bar, club, or party and just stay there or keep coming back until you are comfortable. Talk to the people around you. Doesn't have to be meaningful conversations, just talk. Watch the Corey Sky video on afirmations and eye contact. Being able to iniate and maintain eye coach is very important. Most of us introverts talk much too seriously. This does not evolk attraction in women. Women can speak and understand conversations that are much more random than your way of speaking. Don't agree with everything she says. When chatting with a woman, when she says something strange or different you bust her on it in a fun way. Don't correct her on everything she says that's wrong. If an outgoing lady is not hitting you on the arm every now and then or being mock mad at you, you are playing it too safe (boring). Make her believe you have some strange belief for a while then let her know your were joking. Learn to dance for a several reasons. First, gets you out of the house, second builds your social confidence, third women like to dance, and fourth it's something you can use all your life. Learn how body language works. How your own body language affects how you feel about yourself. Understand that confident body language actually makes you more confident. Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Learn and move on. Error on the side of a LITTLE too much physical contact. If it's too much she'll let you know and you should immediately pull back. Don't be afraid to give her a kiss. Not a big wet one If she ever says shut up and kiss me, you waited way too long. One piece of advice that is often given is don't worry about women, just work on your career and confidence will come. This is bad advice. The problem with this advice is that you can be very competent in school or career and still have no confidence when it comes to women. It is not an either/or proposition. Everything I went over above will also help with your career and it will make you much more attractive to women. Edited March 1, 2016 by Rumely Link to post Share on other sites
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