I wouldn't date me

[Mjm1014]

I'm trying to figure out if there is any solution to this and am looking for some guidance...I'm approaching 30 (male), and securing and even locking in a relationship is quite a challenge as I get older. Most of it is due to my career, so I'm not sure if there is any solution :/

 

So since high school I've had to move roughly 5 times between college and my career (I'm a pilot). Because I've had to move so much, I never really had a chance to build any strong friendships (I have one friend to this day), and every relationship I've ever been in fell apart because I would have to move, or because the person I was dating at the time thought I was gone too much (usually gone 15-18 days a month traveling). Because of the frequent moving, being around family is non existent besides the holidays also.

 

I did a lot of reflection yesterday, and feel that this career has been extremely isolating, and has ruined every relationship I've ever had. I'm at the point where I have no one to hang out with, hardly anyone to talk to, all I do is go to the gym then come home to sit on the couch on my off time, or drink because I'm so bored. I want to jump into dating so bad but again, I have to move...for the 6th time. Luckily this next move will be back to my hometown where my family is but have zero friends there, and even then I have to spend 6 months in another city for training before I move back. Even if I do decide to date again, I have nothing exciting to talk about besides the TV show I just watched or the jet I flew, while they have their friends and family to talk about. I guess I feel like I have no substance anymore, and have let myself become extremely boring. They may as well go date a pet rock lol.

 

Sorry for the vent post. Anyone else in a demanding occupation that kills any sort of chance at dating someone or making friends? Just trying to sort myself out because I don't like feeling so lame.

[TheTraveler]

I'm trying to figure out if there is any solution to this and am looking for some guidance...I'm approaching 30 (male), and securing and even locking in a relationship is quite a challenge as I get older. Most of it is due to my career, so I'm not sure if there is any solution :/

 

So since high school I've had to move roughly 5 times between college and my career (I'm a pilot). Because I've had to move so much, I never really had a chance to build any strong friendships (I have one friend to this day), and every relationship I've ever been in fell apart because I would have to move, or because the person I was dating at the time thought I was gone too much (usually gone 15-18 days a month traveling). Because of the frequent moving, being around family is non existent besides the holidays also.

 

I did a lot of reflection yesterday, and feel that this career has been extremely isolating, and has ruined every relationship I've ever had. I'm at the point where I have no one to hang out with, hardly anyone to talk to, all I do is go to the gym then come home to sit on the couch on my off time, or drink because I'm so bored. I want to jump into dating so bad but again, I have to move...for the 6th time. Luckily this next move will be back to my hometown where my family is but have zero friends there, and even then I have to spend 6 months in another city for training before I move back. Even if I do decide to date again, I have nothing exciting to talk about besides the TV show I just watched or the jet I flew, while they have their friends and family to talk about. I guess I feel like I have no substance anymore, and have let myself become extremely boring. They may as well go date a pet rock lol.

 

Sorry for the vent post. Anyone else in a demanding occupation that kills any sort of chance at dating someone or making friends? Just trying to sort myself out because I don't like feeling so lame.

 

Sounds like you need a wingman. I'm a guy, come pick me up in the jet. And we shall cruise the streets.

[preraph]

Sounds like you need to fly commercial and date flight attendants! I went from retail which was great socially to not retail where I mostly met people passing through, and it was fun in its own way, but I missed the more developed local friendships.