Angelc Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I met this guy through a site about over a year ago. After our first exchange of a few messages, he disappeared. Then after a few months he appeared again then disappeared. He appeared again but this time messaged properly and wanted to get to know me. I thought this time he was serious with communicating. He said he wants someone who will love him, grow old together, etc. He said he loved me after a couple of weeks and said he told his dad about me. We whatsapped mostly and video called about three, four times within 3 months. We never met, as he was abroad for work, which was supposed to last for a couple of weeks but went over a month. (He always seemed to be abroad for work since the first email exchange last year) He stopped replying completely to my messages before New Years. I sent him messages asking him whats wrong, etc.. but nothing. The last message I sent was asking him to block me, as I just want some kind of closure, but he won't even do that. He reads all my messages. Why did he give me hope of happiness then leave without a word? He even said once he's not like other people and he would tell me if he didn't want to speak to me rather than ignore me. I don't understand what happened.. why won't he block me? I've been told to block him.. but just want to know why he won't block me if he doesn't want to communicate.. I feel really hurt and lost Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 (edited) Stop acting childish. Who cares if he blocks you or not? You're using a childish excuse to stay connected to him, as though him blocking you is some kind of necessary step for you. It's not. Truth is, you never met, so the entire thing was a fantasy and nothing more. When you've never met, it's a fantasy. It served him until it didn't - and he disappeared. Don't fall for fools online who make claims about being in love with you and wanting a future with you when they've never even met you iin person. You don't need him to block you. YOU block him and be done with the fantasy. LEARN from this, and don't fall for this foolishness again. Edited January 18, 2016 by Lois_Griffin 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angelc Posted January 18, 2016 Author Share Posted January 18, 2016 Stop acting childish. Who cares if he blocks you or not? You're using a childish excuse to stay connected to him, as though him blocking you is some kind of necessary step for you. It's not. Truth is, you never met, so the entire thing was a fantasy and nothing more. When you've never met, it's a fantasy. It served him until it didn't - and he disappeared. Don't fall for fools online who make claims about being in love with you and wanting a future with you when they've never even met you iin person. You don't need him to block you. YOU block him and be done with the fantasy. LEARN from this, and don't fall for this foolishness again. You're right.. thanks for the message. I feel stupid for falling and believing someone I've never met. I don't know how it happened, I believed him and the whole thing to be real. I deleted him now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pondhawk Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 Good job for deleting him! Sounds to me like he's married or has a girlfriend and secretly playing the field. He's keeping his options open by replying, disappearing, reappearing, repeat. Even if he's not attached, this individual doesn't deserve your time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lemondrop21 Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Why is this in the Marriage & Life Partnerships forum?? You never actually met the guy, it seems like there might be a more appropriate forum. Also, agree with other posters, you shouldn't need him to block you. Blocking someone at the end of a relationship is not normal behavior - it indicates a seriously dysfunctional relationship where one or both parties need complete detachment in order to heal. Take it as a compliment that he doesn't see yours that way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Gosh! Over a year in, and you've never even met! Why would you call him your boyfriend? When he disappeared the first time, you should have moved on. Two weeks became a month has become a year plus of nary an actual date or In-person sighting of the guy. Yet you still hang on to this illusion through his erratic, unexplained silences and "travels." Sorry, but the whole story is just ridiculous, as is the excuse for continuing to engage and now pester him because he won't block you. Please think hard about: Why no alarm bells went off for you when the guy's behavior is one giant red flag.Why you would ever label this a relationship and continue to interact with him whenever he feels like it..."because he hasn't blocked you yet."Why you engage in an unrealistic fantasy instead of seeking a real relationship. Oftentimes people who engage in these types of virtual interactions are fearful of emotional intimacy, getting close to others, and the risk of getting emotionally hurt. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angelc Posted January 24, 2016 Author Share Posted January 24, 2016 Guess he made me believe we were in a relationship. At first he pushed it. He told me he loved me and asked if I felt the same then got upset because I wouldn't say it at first. Then I did and I started to believe I did although we never met in person. I know, it's crazy. I don't know what happened to me. But I truly believed him and a future. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 Possibly because he isn't emotionally invested and doesn't feel bad when he's reminded of you. You should block him. Link to post Share on other sites
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