Biscous Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 ...to short texting? I don't get it. I approached these two women at a social event / fundraiser this weekend. My friend got them to go to a gay club with us to meet some of our friends. We actually had a blast. The girl I was into was actually very shy and reserved upon meeting her, but I spent a bit of time talking to her and she opened up to me. She went from not talking as much and not dancing to dancing, playfully touching me (pushing me to do something, making jokes, etc and laughing more. I walked her to her car but her friend wanted to go eat. She offered to drive us to the place to eat so I was OK. I spent time talking to her outside alone and we talked a bit and seemed to connect. It got a bit weird about 30 min into eating because another guy invited her to go to this bar but he was extremely forward. She had no interest in him other than a friend. I kinda zoned out of the conversation and she briefly apologized for it all. I texted her later that I had a great time and we should spend some time together going hiking. She said 'Sounds good. Goodnight'. I know she was very tired so I get that it was a bit short. I texted her this afternoon about her trip today to New Orleans and told her that her mom and her should hit up Cafe Du Monde. She replies "Will do". It is utterly confusing that I thought we made a connection or at least there was some level of interest to very brief messages. Some girls are naturally introverted and that's her. I've had some girls that showed me minimum interest that I didn't know were into me until the last minute. Her friend seemed to really like me but I think I made the right choice in going after the girl I was more attracted to. What are your thoughts on this guys? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Biscous Posted July 19, 2015 Author Share Posted July 19, 2015 Also BTW both of us are 31 and 30 respectively so it's not like we are young so any sort of game playing should be out the window at this age Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 You just met this girl and you already invited her to new Orleans and to meet your mother? Anyways, call her and see how she sounds when you talk her. 3 probabilities She's doesn't write long ass text messages and she's still interested. Whatever chemistry you created faded away when you weren't together. She's hesitant cause you're coming on too strong. You'll have an idea by the tone in her voice when you talk to her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Biscous Posted July 19, 2015 Author Share Posted July 19, 2015 You just met this girl and you already invited her to new Orleans and to meet your mother? Anyways, call her and see how she sounds when you talk her. 3 probabilities She's doesn't write long ass text messages and she's still interested. Whatever chemistry you created faded away when you weren't together. She's hesitant cause you're coming on too strong. You'll have an idea by the tone in her voice when you talk to her. No I didn't invite her. She told me last night that her and her mom are going on a trip to New Orleans Sunday - Tuesday. My mistake. LOL no I wouldn't come on that strong haha. So #3 isn't right. I am thinking that it is either #1 or #2. Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 No I didn't invite her. She told me last night that her and her mom are going on a trip to New Orleans Sunday - Tuesday. My mistake. LOL no I wouldn't come on that strong haha. So #3 isn't right. I am thinking that it is either #1 or #2. My bad misread that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Biscous Posted July 19, 2015 Author Share Posted July 19, 2015 My bad misread that. I wish I could just read minds man. Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 I wish I could just read minds man. Call her up dude. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Biscous Posted July 19, 2015 Author Share Posted July 19, 2015 Call her up dude. She's w/ her mom traveling to NO so I will call her up in a few days. Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 Don't go cold on her. I say keep texting and maybe ask her if she's taken any pics at the french quarter or wherever it is she went . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 Texting is a pain in theass, that's why. It's a bad form of communication, often misunderstood because of its brevity and no inflection possible. Call her. Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 Hmmm... I will talk to and flirt with a rock. Seriously, if anyone starts talking to me and is engaging in any way, I'm off. I won't shut up and might even give the impression that I'm interested, when I might very well not be. Then when the guy texts... I'm a bit short, as I don't really want to lead him on... Not saying this is necessarily what has happened with this girl, but it is a distinct possibility. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Biscous Posted July 19, 2015 Author Share Posted July 19, 2015 Hmmm... I will talk to and flirt with a rock. Seriously, if anyone starts talking to me and is engaging in any way, I'm off. I won't shut up and might even give the impression that I'm interested, when I might very well not be. Then when the guy texts... I'm a bit short, as I don't really want to lead him on... Not saying this is necessarily what has happened with this girl, but it is a distinct possibility. I get taking things show vs giving off huge signals because frankly some people like to build friendship and trust first before a relationship. Interest is not always immediate. I was just being a fun guy overall and actually was genuinely having fun. I don't think I came off as needy or anything like that. I just like interest ha..it's my ego plus I was digging her. Link to post Share on other sites
nouedis Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 I mean that was a little too much for someone to take in all at once, you know? Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Did you explain to her that you're straight? or, maybe she was just hungry. Did she say, ah now I'm satiated? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Biscous Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 Did you explain to her that you're straight? or, maybe she was just hungry. Did she say, ah now I'm satiated? LOL nah her friend was hungry not so much her. She knows I'm straight. I'm just overthinking. Link to post Share on other sites
Jacob_Duluoz Posted July 23, 2015 Share Posted July 23, 2015 Honestly, you should insist on full sentences in all textual communications from the get go. You can also make it a game by mimicking her brevity. You: Friday? Her: What? You: You know? Her: Confused. You: C'mon now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Biscous Posted July 23, 2015 Author Share Posted July 23, 2015 Honestly, you should insist on full sentences in all textual communications from the get go. You can also make it a game by mimicking her brevity. You: Friday? Her: What? You: You know? Her: Confused. You: C'mon now. Haha. Yeah I may try that. She was getting back from NO when I last texted her but I tried to ask an open ended question but it seems as though she gave me a short answer. A short sentence. She did text immediately so she could have been preoccupied. Oh well, her friend is actually more talkative to me. I was texting her last night. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted July 23, 2015 Share Posted July 23, 2015 Also BTW both of us are 31 and 30 respectively so it's not like we are young so any sort of game playing should be out the window at this age Age doesn't determine when game playing ceases unfortunately. However, maybe she isn't a big texter? Not everyone is into texting so she might simply be not into it. Or the other possibility is that she's not romantically interested in you. Link to post Share on other sites
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