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Hi there!

 

First post, and I am out of my league on this one!

 

I have a tiny crush on a girl. We're both actors in the same city. She came in to audition for a role I was reading for three weeks ago.

 

I saw her again for a play I auditioned for (which I don't think I got) and she was reading for.

 

I like her, only know her name, and never really got a chance to ask her for her phone number, face book, or any of that other contact stuff.

 

I don't want to just find her on face book and ask her out, it's kinda creepy. Plus, she's part of a popular web series so she might even be getting nerds asking her out frequently by such means.

 

In what way can I meet her one on one and get in a situation that is more personable and can thus achieve a connection?

 

Thanks!

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Dear whooboy

 

Being that you are both actors is there a common place in your city that actors hang out to relax? When will be the next time that you will get to see her? If you are unsure whether you will bump into her again then it should be okay for you to use fb to send her a message. I don't think it will come off as creepy if you say, "hi my name is <insert name> and we met at <this audition>. I'm sorry about contacting you via fb because I wasn't sure whether I would see you again or not. I think that you are really great and I was wondering if you would have a coffee with me sometime. It would be awesome to have a chat with you. Have a nice day. signed <your name>. Just keep it short and simple. If she replies then great if she doesn't then just accept it for what it is and move on.

 

If you are happy to wait until you do bump into her next time then it should be okay for you to just go over to her and introduce yourself. Just say "Hi, I think I saw you at another audition, my name is <your name> and then start talking. You will know soon enough if there is anything there. Sometimes the simplest way is the best way.

 

All the best - Bud.

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Yeah, like the guy above said, it depends on how likely it is for you to run into her by chance again. If you think the odds are good, you might want to wait for the next in-person encounter to try to strike up more of a banter.

 

But if you think you'll never get that opportunity, the only choice you have is to go out on a limb and cold-contact her via social media. It's definitely awkward, but if you handle it the right way it doesn't have to be creepy or weird.

 

If you do that maybe make fun of yourself a little, like "I wish there was a better way to contact you than Facebook, but ..."

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If you can't run into her again, then don't wait any longer and go ahead and FB her and just remind her exactly which guy you were, and just start a conversation. If she seems agreeable to just talking back and forth, then ask her out. She could have a bf or anything, of course.

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Dear whooboy

 

Being that you are both actors is there a common place in your city that actors hang out to relax? When will be the next time that you will get to see her? If you are unsure whether you will bump into her again then it should be okay for you to use fb to send her a message. I don't think it will come off as creepy if you say, "hi my name is <insert name> and we met at <this audition>. I'm sorry about contacting you via fb because I wasn't sure whether I would see you again or not. I think that you are really great and I was wondering if you would have a coffee with me sometime. It would be awesome to have a chat with you. Have a nice day. signed <your name>. Just keep it short and simple. If she replies then great if she doesn't then just accept it for what it is and move on.

 

If you are happy to wait until you do bump into her next time then it should be okay for you to just go over to her and introduce yourself. Just say "Hi, I think I saw you at another audition, my name is <your name> and then start talking. You will know soon enough if there is anything there. Sometimes the simplest way is the best way.

 

All the best - Bud.

 

Hmm I guess it isn't so bad. From my experience though, most women aren't interested in me when I'm being direct. By seeking her out on FB and making that kind of message, I am basically saying "I WANT YOU GO OUT WITH ME PLEASE".

 

To which most of the time the response has been, "sorry, not interested".

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