LADIES, would you date a young lad with loose skin post weight-loss?

[MrGrey1003]

Okay, so for a long, long time now, I’ve been longing to find a girl I can have a relationship with. In fact, I’ve never even gotten close to being intimate with a girl, which, considering that I’m 21-years-old, my hopes of finding a mere essence of love is starting to run a little thin.

 

Throughout most of my late childhood, I was drastically obese (you can only imagine was school was like for me). My tipping point, though, was at 300 pounds when I was 15-years-old with the height of around 5’7 (I’m 5’9 - 5’10 now). So what did I do? I decided to lose weight! And by the time I was 16 and was finally done losing all the weight I could lose, my scale gave a reading of 160. To this day, I’m proud of what I have accomplished, but unfortunately, my “scars” still remain, and there seems to be no way of getting rid of them without the aid of surgery, which is something I cannot afford at the moment.

 

Despite what this post has implied, I am someone who does have confidence in certain aspects, and I would also like to think that I’m someone who is rather intelligent whilst being someone who has great integrity and is an overall grand person with a good, honest heart with a distinct personality. Plus, besides the overall body, I’d like to think that I’m not a bad looking young lad either. In fact, people have often refereed to me as “handsome” in the past =). Oh, and I also dress pretty nicely as well.

 

So given everything that I’ve said, my question to you is this: would you date a young man who possessed the qualities I have even though his body looked like this (Pictures without a shirt):

 

 

And please, please, please be honest with me. If you say no, then that’s completely fine. I’m a big boy, so I can take whatever comments are thrown at me; however, the only thing I ask of you all to provide me with your unbiased, utmost honesty.

 

Thank you all =)!

Edited September 19, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[LoveIsMyReligion]

It's not attractive - that being said get it fixed otherwise you're personality will reflect your lack of confidence because of it.

[MissTrudy]

My honest opinion: it's not that bad. I would be a bit disappointed, but it wouldn't stop me from seeing you. You obviously care about your health to make such a drastic change in your lifestyle to loose weight, and that is more attractive to me than any loose skin you might have.

 

On an unrelated note, do you do any body building or muscle toning exercises, to see if that helps some with the loose skin? I know it won't fix everything but it might help some, although it looks like you already have some nice muscle tone in your pecs. Congrats on the weight loss though, you should be proud of that accomplishment. You obviously have a lot of determination and drive.

[MrGrey1003]

It's not attractive - that being said get it fixed otherwise you're personality will reflect your lack of confidence because of it.

 

When you say "get it fixed," what would be your suggestions? Surgery? As much as I would love to get surgery to fix my predicament, and believe I have pursued it, I cannot afford to pay for such surgery, for insurance deems it as a luxury, and not a necessity.

 

Since that option might not even be available until years upon years from now, what could be my other options to shed the excess skin?

 

Anyway, thanks for your feedback.

[bluesgirl]

Wow congrats on losing that extra weight! I can only imagine how hard that was and seriously pat yourself on the back for that! Honestly that wouldn't bother me at all. I think once you find a girl you connect with on a deep level she will look past it and see what dedication you have. No one is perfect and I would suggest after a few dates with a girl being open about how you lost so much weight that way she is aware that you might have excess skin. That would be my only suggestion. Again, congrats!

[todreaminblue]

surgery for extra skin is expensive......and i think its called an apronectamy...in saying that....congrats ...

 

yay for you losing the weight....if you find the right young woman.....you wont need to have surgery......because she will respect how much you have done and want to be with you regardless of a few cm of extra skin.....thats one thing that is rather sad is that people who lose quite a bit of weight instead of feeling confident and elated with what they have done have a reminder of how big they used to be by the stretched skin left behind ...i go through this too when i lose weight...you are a young man however so ....with exercise and time i would say that toning is possible for you ....dont give up ....may just take a little more time and specific exercises to tone problem places......as far as finding a young woman who will date you and have a relationship with...the right women would stay...the wrong one.....would walk away..best wishes......deb.....

[Toodaloo]

Its not that bad. I have seen far worse.

 

Drink lots of water and keep up the toning excersises and that will help a bit with time...

 

For what its worth most guys start to look like this when they hit 50-60 anyway so you got there quicker... its not "bad".

 

Your attitude is fantastic though. Any girl who lets this get in the way is mad.

[PegNosePete]

So given everything that I’ve said, my question to you is this: would you date a young man who possessed the qualities I have even though his body looked like this (Pictures without a shirt)

Unless you're planning to reveal those parts then how would they know? I mean unless you're having a date at the beach or a swimming pool you would look just like any other dude with your shirt on, right? So "dating" should not be a problem. Only when the clothes come off would it be revealed, and by that time, you have hopefully built some rapport, attraction and explained about your issue. And anyone who dumps you at that point because you're not "hot enough" - well you're better off without them anyway. So, don't worry about it. Your lack of body confidence is probably ruining your chances a lot more than your actual body.

[longjohn]

Congratulations on the weight loss. It takes a lot of determination and discipline to accomplish such a task. I'm sure your confidence has increased greatly. Take things one step at a time, your still young. You can get the loose skin issue resolved and your confidence will take a further boost. It's true some ladies won't see the skin as an issue, to be honest some will. Unfortunately people men and women can be shallow at times. Don't let it knock you back.

[HeartbrokenNewbie]

I dont think its as bad as you think it is, yes you have some loose skin but its not terrible you are very young too so you will have a lot of elasticity in your skin. I agree that some muscle toning will improve this.. give it a go x

 

My ex had fluctuating weight and he had a bit of an over hang and it didnt bother me really x

[Emilia]

When you say "get it fixed," what would be your suggestions? Surgery? As much as I would love to get surgery to fix my predicament, and believe I have pursued it, I cannot afford to pay for such surgery, for insurance deems it as a luxury, and not a necessity.

 

Since that option might not even be available until years upon years from now, what could be my other options to shed the excess skin?

 

Anyway, thanks for your feedback.

It's not bad OP, I think you would get great results if you got into weightlifting. Would get you firm, strong and muscular.

[preraph]

I think the best thing you should do is try to build out some of that skin with muscle building. I do sympathize. When I lose weight, I can't stand how my face looks. But I'm old. I feel bad about you because you're young. But it's not the end of the world. I would try to build muscle to pull out part of that skin and also probably try using some skin products and then I'd be working two jobs to get money and tuck some of it with a plastic surgeon.

[MrGrey1003]

Anyway, here they are again:

 

http://oi59.tinypic.com/24fd7af.jpg

 

http://oi59.tinypic.com/297w9s.jpg

 

http://oi60.tinypic.com/10xt5vo.jpg

 

 

 

Thanks, everyone, for the feedback; I certainly do appreciate it.

 

Moreover, I've done a couple of toning exercises and some muscle building in in the past, but that was years ago; however, I do currently run around 12.8 miles a week to stay "in shape."

 

I'll look into finding some proper toning exercises to see if it helps my chest (that's the area that concerns me the absolute most) as well as my stomach, but I fear it won't get the kind of results I would deem as ideal. Then again, ever since I started running, my legs have gotten pretty tone in comparison to how they looked before, so you never know!

Edited September 19, 2014 by MrGrey1003

[preraph]

I'm not sure muscle building is going to help the chest area, but I do think it will help tone the rest and isn't that noticeable. I think you ought to go see a plastic surgeon and find out how much to just reduce the breasts. Since it's not like you're adding implants, I doubt it would cost as much as when women get implants, which i think is about $10K. You might find someone who could do it a lot cheaper if you really look around and ask. But you'd have to work and pay it off, but yes they sometimes will finance that stuff. But if you think about it, even taking a second job where you work weekends for one year is worth about $8000 even if you're only making $8 an hour, so it's not that out of the question to be able to afford it.

 

They routinely completely move the shape of the breast around for women and there are even muscles above they can shorten to pull them up and they can easily move the nipple once loose skin is removed and put it in the right spot.

[guest569]

I'm not sure what your qualities are but why not. Congrats!

 

I think getting some pecs will help full it out? Worth a try before going for the surgical option. Good luck!