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Mysterio

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At age 43 and looking at my experiences. I don't think meeting someone is that cut and dry.

 

I almost think that having a Rship from scratch and it being cut and dry is an anomaly. I think that 80% of us are going to have ups and downs and multiple partners.

 

My Parents were born in the 40's. I think that they to me had it more cut and dry in terms of meeting and dating. I see so many people on dating sites/on our board and other boards that its getting to the point, where we are actually making ourselves sad by keeping on this hunt for love.

 

How many older people do we actually know that never tried and remained single because of it. I know none. I think that it will all fall into place.

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At age 43 and looking at my experiences. I don't think meeting someone is that cut and dry.

 

I almost think that having a Rship from scratch and it being cut and dry is an anomaly. I think that 80% of us are going to have ups and downs and multiple partners.

 

My Parents were born in the 40's. I think that they to me had it more cut and dry in terms of meeting and dating. I see so many people on dating sites/on our board and other boards that its getting to the point, where we are actually making ourselves sad by keeping on this hunt for love.

 

How many older people do we actually know that never tried and remained single because of it. I know none. I think that it will all fall into place.

 

Some people have the potential to be with multiple people who are attractive and have high value without really putting in too much effort. And by multiple people, I mean two or more want them at the same time.

 

There are some others who have really never had anybody attracted to them in their whole lives.

 

I am literally thinking of people I know who fall into both camps as I am writing this.

 

Life is not fatalistic. It is very, very chaotic and inequitable.

 

If you fall in the unfortunate camp and want love, you'll have to fight for it some.

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For myself. I resent that I have to fight for love. When I see others on here. In terms of the men that are basically kids, beat themselves up for what.

 

I remember when I was their age. All I cared about was getting out of school and getting some sort of education. Desiring women on a romantic level really did not hit me until about 24.

 

My search has resulted in futile attempts to satisfy my Ego. The best relationships for me have sprouted when I was not trying. Asking this girl and that girl never ended up with anything that I would revisit for kicks. Some of my choices when I look back at it. I just shake my head. Not because these women were horrible. Its just that when I look on deeper inspection. Other than they look physically appealing to me. There really is no major pull beyond that.

 

I have my own theory of whats going to happen with me interns of a long term relationship.

 

All the women that I go for. They are not attracted to me in a romantic way. So when I go for them. It does not work. I am not doing anything wrong.

 

The women that are attracted to me will basically show up and let me know. Its that cut and dry for me personally. When I look at my other male friends. Thats the way it was for them. None of them played the major role and were activley trying to woo their wives.

 

Thats why it bothers me when I see men younger than myself beating themselves up over having to make it work with a woman.

 

I look at people as music. Some music you are drawn to. Some you are not. Thats the way it is with women/men. I actually think that for the most part. Once again what we are going through is the normal growing pains of life. Somethings come easier for other. Working and staying employed/harmony with Friends and Family is easy to me. Dating and being in a romantic relationship with a woman has always been tough.

 

So far the romantic relationships I have had since 1989 are the following.

 

1989-PM/1990-TK/1995-CS/1997-DS/2000-TM/2003-NF-JO/2006-JO/2012-DD/2013-AK.

 

10 women in 25 yrs so far. I count these women as they were women where there was physical affection. The other years I did try with other women. Yet there was not PA between us for the most part.

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