MarcoInaros Posted August 25, 2014 Share Posted August 25, 2014 (edited) I was hoping someone would be able to look at my profile on Match.com and give me an honest critique and constructive criticism... I created my profile last month and have been trying to refine it. I get quite a few looks now, but not that many bites or responses to my e-mails. I am trying to find ways to make it better. Sorry for taking up valuable forum space for this, I didn't see where else to put it Edited August 25, 2014 by lostjeff Link to post Share on other sites
TheyCallMeOx Posted August 25, 2014 Share Posted August 25, 2014 I used to have a Match.com profile. I didn't like it. The problem with critiquing someone's profile is that you potentially sacrifice authenticity. In order for a woman to be interested in you, she's gotta be interested in your profile. If you present me with information about yourself and I create your profile for you, all she's really doing is becoming interested in some man that has your personality, and my style of presenting information. Essentially, she's interested in a person who doesn't exist because the dude is a mixture of you and I. I can write a hilarious "about me" for you which would attract some women, but my style of comedy may be different than yours. When she spends her time reading something, she's going to make assumptions on your personality. If she becomes interested in it, she makes inaccurate assumptions (because she's really reading content created by a different personality), and develops expectations of a "first date." You may land a first date if I critique it, but it's probably more likely to end up not going the way you wanted because she had a totally different impression of who you are. If you critiqued my profile, provided I had one, you'd probably change things that suits your belief on what women are looking for in profiles, and things of that nature. I may land a first date, but if my profile has a different style of writing, she's going to perceive me as a different person. The only advice I can really give you is that...you're basically advertising yourself. You have to ask yourself "why would a woman date you?" You present your best qualities and justifications on why a woman should give you a chance, and write something until you're satisfied with the way you've explained who you are and why you're worth it. I've had very long self-summaries. Length doesn't really matter. It's always good to include some of your humor into it. Of course, always pick your best picture as a profile picture, and don't try to hide anything. I don't make a lot of money, so I don't pretend to make 100,000 dollars a year. Yeah, I will attract more visitors, but it's not being authentic. You have to keep in mind that there's ways you can increase the amount of visitors and whatnot, but the point isn't to get more women approaching you; the point is to get rid of all the bullsh*t women and get approached by the women that are more compatible for you. I certainly don't want to waste my time texting numerous women, which I've done before, only to realize that they've got some of my deal-breakers, or I've got some of deal-breakers. Work smarter, not harder. You may not get many bites, but when you do...they're probably half decent. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mirages Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 Hmm, I wanted to PM you, but I guess this forum does not offer that? I'd give it a look-see, but as OX stated, the most genuine approach is to only do minor advice, you have to be the source of the design. Link to post Share on other sites
WesternWizard Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 I tried match.com once, but it was just like all the rest... no lady friend to show for it. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 Hmm, I wanted to PM you, but I guess this forum does not offer that? I'd give it a look-see, but as OX stated, the most genuine approach is to only do minor advice, you have to be the source of the design. You have to become an established member to have PM privileges. That's earned either thru time or number of posts, or a combination of the two, I believe. I did OLD for about eight years. Some good dates, a couple of short relationships, but it did not result in your marriage I'm in now. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted August 27, 2014 Share Posted August 27, 2014 i was on match for a long time. got some nice dates from it, but nothing long-term. mostly people are interested in the pictures so focus on those more than the content. Link to post Share on other sites
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