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Believe it or not, smokers lie in their profiles and say they are non-smokers. Reason I say this, because I recently saw this woman at work on POF, I know she smokes up a storm and listed herself as a non-smoker on the site.

 

I've actually known a few women in my area (in real life) that have done this. I wonder how often smokers lie about the fact they are non-smokers?

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Smokers are liars by nature. They'll lie about anything. And don't even get me started about female smokers.

 

You should assume every online profile you read has a certain number of lies in it. I guess an interesting question would be to ask what lies and half-truths are in your profile. And what omissions.

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Smokers are liars by nature. They'll lie about anything. And don't even get me started about female smokers.

 

Not true. You may have posted a lot on here but you sure seem to have a limited grasp of the diversity of human nature.

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todreaminblue

talked about this with a gf of mine the other day who said she can no longer small smoke on me which i am proud of.....she4 has been smoking for thirty plus years but now is one and half years clean said she can smell smoke in the car in front of her fi the windows are down on the road......she cant kiss a smoker it tastes like a dirty ash tray so she says and she has copped abuse when dating on old because she wont date a smoker......they have on their profiles non smoker....and when they kiss her she can taste it..so she says i cant date you adn cops abuse........you shouldnt lie about this you get found out...and it isnt right...deb

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WesternWizard

I think the slow but steady legalization of pot is going to change the nature of the question.

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bubbaganoosh

You got to be a complete idiot to make a claim of being a non smoker when in fact they are. I know this because I smoked and one day I knew that the day came when I had to break the habit and with some good strong will power, I did.

 

About two or three weeks later, I come home from work, open the door and smell cigarette smoke. My cigarette smoke from years of smoking. In the furniture and on the clothes in my closet.

 

I smell it on people passing by and maybe a smoker doesn't smell it but the non smokers sure as hell do so she's only fooling herself.

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What if they were a social smoker? ....only smoked 2-3 cigarettes when out drinking? ...and would totally stop doing that if they met a potential partner who disliked smoking?

 

Putting that you are a smoker on a dating profile pretty much rules you out to 90% of the market. No one wants to do that.

 

I think deep down, many smokers do want to quit but find it hard. Maybe they put that they are non-smokers because that's what they want to be.

 

I was a (occasional) smoker when my partner met me. He hated smoking. But he still liked me. I quit because I hated being a smoker and him not liking it was extra incentive to really stop for good.

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Cool! I'm a smoker and have no reason to lie to someone about it. Makes zero sense to me ! So I'm with ya that if its a displeasure, then keep a fair distance.

I have a sensitive case when a drinker comes up and breathes in my face, so I kindly step back enough to be more tolerable. Do I shun them? Nope! Do I make them feel like an outcast? Nope!

 

folks have vices....to what degree determines things...and how to handle it.

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I understand there's a stigma attached to smoking but if you're a chain smoker I don't see the point of lying as you'll be found out. It's pretty difficult to hide for most people who do it very often, one reason I couldn't be a habitual smoker is because I HATE that stale smoke smell that often permeates EVERYTHING!

 

I may smoke a cigarette socially a few times a year. I don't consider myself a smoker as I've never bought cigarettes, don't have to smoke neither do I smoke often but sometimes at a party or after a night out or if my smoking friends go for a smoke break I'll get the urge to smoke one socially. So I put non-smoker but if a man needed clarification I'd tell him I have smoked before and may once in a while smoke a cigarette but it's not habitual and certainly something I can pass on.

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Believe it or not, smokers lie in their profiles and say they are non-smokers.

 

I found one such smoker. Our first date was in a bar, and then when we walked to another bar she had to have a cigarette on the way. Her excuse? She's French.

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Disillusioned
It's news to you that some people lie in OLD....?

 

Well I guess that sure takes the wind out of MY sails... LOL!

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So far in life, dating back 30+ years, no surprises on the smoking front. In fact, I know of only one woman in real life who lies about her smoking, and that's to her dad.

 

Dated a fair amount through OLD, both here and abroad and still no surprises nor apparent liars regarding smoking.

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Dated a guy who said he was an "occasional smoker." Said he liked to have "one or two." He meant one or two packs!

 

With e-cigarettes like Vapage, more smokers should switch. I'd have no problem dating a "vaper." I learned a lot from listening to a medical show. Lots of misinformation about e-cigs is disseminated by tobacco companies who don't want the competition. Vaping is cheaper every month and safer than their coffin nails. It isn't the nicotine that is dangerous but the 400 other chemicals in cigarettes which Vapage doesn't have.

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Lernaean_Hydra

I'm a smoker and because I'm a smoker I was honest about it on OLD. If a guy had a problem with it I'd rather be upfront about it so he'd know not to waste his time (or mine) if it bothered him so much. I actually prefer dating smokers anyway.

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I can't even believe that smokers really lie about what they do. I mean that lie can't even hold for a decent amount of time. The smell is in their apartments/houses/cars, sometimes even stuck on their clothes. You can find cigarettes at any moment, and you can smell it on their breath.

 

What's there to lie about? As soon as you meet in person the deal's off.

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My ex lied to me about it. He didn't actually come out and tell me until 6 weeks in, and he was really good about not smelling like smoke or having it on his breath or anything..but he didn't realize that when he cooked for me on our second date, he left an empty pack right at the top of his garbage can. Dummy.

 

Even after he told me, he would never ever let me see him smoke. Not that I wanted to, but he was weird about it. If I happened to walk outside when he was smoking he would hide the cigarette. As if I didn't know what he was doing. Freak.

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WesternWizard

Well for the record... I've never even tried smoking and I don't plan to, HOWEVER I wouldn't refuse to date a female smoker on principle. I've never been much of a kissing person anyways... everyone in my family smoked except me and one of my mom's uncles, so I got used to being around it.

 

Plus, I grew up during a time when magazines ran lots of Virginia Slims ads with pics of tastefully dressed, gorgeous models... so yeah, to me, cigarettes will always be associated with femininity (cigars and pipes are for men IMO).

 

My beef with women who smoke is that most of them either don't know or don't care what the chemicals in tobacco smoke are doing to them... it's very different from the situation with alcohol. My family never learned until it was too late.

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Doesn't surprise me people would lie about that. I mean they lie about being athletic and thin only to show up 50 pounds heavier than their pics. They post pictures that disguise what they TRULY look like. You meet up and look at them like, who the heck are you?! So if people lie about what they look like smoking is no surprise.

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You know how you can tell these "non-smokers" are not playing with a full deck...one of their pics has them holding a smoldering cig. :laugh::laugh:

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I myself fall into that weird category of "smokes two or three cigarettes a month" and I do mean that. Always with drinking, and lately I've tried to switch to e-cigs.

 

I've always been unsure about how to classify my habit... it seems like too much to call myself a "smoker" but at the same time I'm sure it could break a deal for someone who was violently against it.

 

I usually call myself a non-smoker online but try to bring up the topic within the first couple of dates. I do think if someone I was dating had a big problem with it I'd have that extra incentive to stop.

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I don't know how common it is, but I did meet one guy who said he was an occasional smoker. I saw him for three hours and he lit up four times. I don't call that occasional. I felt he'd lied to me and have avoided him ever since. There is no point lying about smoking.

 

I guess there are others who are more tolerant than me. I could have a friend who smoked but would not want to kiss someone who smoked, so no dating. If someone is addicted, they are not fully aware of the impact on others or what they are doing themselves, e.g. how many times they are smoking, how they are picking arguments because it is getting close to their time to smoke. This is why I could not date a smoker.

 

As I said, I don't know how many people lie, but I think I would guess if I spent more than a couple of hours with a smoker who had lied. I would not date them again.

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I myself fall into that weird category of "smokes two or three cigarettes a month" and I do mean that. Always with drinking, and lately I've tried to switch to e-cigs.

 

I've always been unsure about how to classify my habit... it seems like too much to call myself a "smoker" but at the same time I'm sure it could break a deal for someone who was violently against it.

 

I usually call myself a non-smoker online but try to bring up the topic within the first couple of dates. I do think if someone I was dating had a big problem with it I'd have that extra incentive to stop.

 

If you continue to need to smoke then surely it's an addiction or compulsion? Saying you've tried to switch to e-cigs suggests you feel the need to smoke.

 

It would be fairer to say you were an occasional smoker than to pretend you never did.

 

If someone you started dating thought they were dating a non-smoker, they would be entitled to have a problem with it when they found out that was not the case. As a non-smoker myself who has seen a beloved relative seriously decline with COPD and who still cannot stop smoking, I would simply not want to get involved with anyone who needed to smoke at all. It would be awful to be with someone who is getting bad-tempered and blaming you for them having to give up something they 'enjoyed' and normally had the freedom to do. Why would anyone willingly get into that situation?

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