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Eddy Street

Some of you might remember I started a thread called "the perfect online dating profile photo", or something along those lines, a while ago. In this thread I voiced my doubts about my current avatar (which is also my main OLD profile photo) and a lot of you said the photo is fine. Well, tonight I have strong evidence to support my original hypothesis. The last 2.5 weeks on OLD for me have been downright dismal, and tonight I know the problem has been my photo all along.

 

On "match" they have something called "top spot", where you pay something like 3 dollars to have your profile in the top search results for 1 hour. I tried it (although I should have used the money to buy a healthy salad) and for one full hour a grand total of 687 women saw my profile in their search results. Out of these 687 women, only 6 actually viewed my profile. Out of these 6, three "liked my photo". BUT... the three who liked my photo are all obese, the wrong race and a good fraction of a decade older than me.

 

So upon seeing my photo a grand total of 681 women made the decision to not view my profile. I repulsed them. My success rate is less dismal. Strange, I actually think I look rather handsome in the photo. Like I said before, it's one of my best recent photos. I just don't get it.

 

I GIVE UP ON OLD. Tomorrow, I go to an old fashioned bar.

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The wrong race? Yikes! You're gunna get some flack for that buddy!

 

As for your photo, it's ok, but it's nothing super exciting.

Do other guys have more adventurous photos? Or more natural ones where they've been caught laughing or something? They're the kind of things we want to see.

 

Personal opinion.. Take it or leave it :)

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The wrong race? Yikes! You're gunna get some flack for that buddy!

 

As for your photo, it's ok, but it's nothing super exciting.

Do other guys have more adventurous photos? Or more natural ones where they've been caught laughing or something? They're the kind of things we want to see.

 

Personal opinion.. Take it or leave it :)

 

The only difference I noticed between me and the other guys there is that they have less hair. Their photos aren't particularly exciting either. So you think my photo looks staged and that's what turns them away?

 

About the race thing, I mean no offense, it's just that I state my preferences clearly in my profile and I keep getting likes form people who don't fit my preferences.

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Perhaps add at least your upper body. I remember reading an article about the most effective pics for men...some of the tips included not smiling and not looking directly at the camera.

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Perhaps add at least your upper body. I remember reading an article about the most effective pics for men...some of the tips included not smiling and not looking directly at the camera.

 

Why don't you add your upper body Hokie?

It's been a while....

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Perhaps add at least your upper body. I remember reading an article about the most effective pics for men...some of the tips included not smiling and not looking directly at the camera.

 

Okay, I guess I can try that. Maybe I should also research body language. Perhaps I should shave for my next photo, I look a bit like a Russian burglar with those smile lines and 3 o'clock shadow.

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For some guys, it's really hard to get a good photo.

 

I have that problem.

 

Every single photo I have of me is terrible. Needless to say I don't do very well on OLD and Tinder.

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Long hair is a positive but you look a little like a mad scientist in that picture. The hair could use a comb. It looks messy. And messy is one thing women don't like.

 

(Hey, I've been there too. I just got a short hair cut so I wouldn't have to deal with it as much. I couldn't walk from the car into a store without it messing itself up. :mad:)

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Long hair is a positive but you look a little like a mad scientist in that picture. The hair could use a comb. It looks messy. And messy is one thing women don't like.

 

(Hey, I've been there too. I just got a short hair cut so I wouldn't have to deal with it as much. I couldn't walk from the car into a store without it messing itself up. :mad:)

 

But that's the thing, I am a mad scientist. :cool:

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You looked pretty good in that photo with your ex somedude. I'd just cut her out and add it to your profile if I were you. You could always leave in part of her arm or something to let them know it was a hot chick you cut out too.

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You looked pretty good in that photo with your ex somedude. I'd just cut her out and add it to your profile if I were you. You could always leave in part of her arm or something to let them know it was a hot chick you cut out too.

 

Heh thank you :)

 

Yeah the pictures I have with us together are the rare times where I have an actual honest smile. That or being next to her just made me look hotter :laugh:

 

I'd totally crop her out and use those photos but I had mad scientist hair back in those days.

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Why don't you add your upper body Hokie?

It's been a while....

 

I've got a private album... :laugh:

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So upon seeing my photo a grand total of 681 women made the decision to not view my profile. I repulsed them. My success rate is less dismal. Strange, I actually think I look rather handsome in the photo. Like I said before, it's one of my best recent photos. I just don't get it.

 

I can see why. And it IS the particular photo, not your face. I'm a photographer and I've proven many times that the photo is not the person and visa versa. I have a before/after of a young woman who came to get a good business-like photo, and the result was an transformative. So quit thinking in terms of whether or not you identify with the image and use a photo that optimizes your potential. The only thing you can't change is your bone structure, but even that can be optimized by the right angle.

 

If this photo had height markings on the wall behind you it would look like a typical arrest photo. What to change... 3/4 angle, head tilted just a bit, good haircut, clean shave, a clean shirt with a nice collar that is the right color for you, interesting "short" lighting... I could go on. Go for a candid look, not deadpan looking into the camera having my picture taken look. I guarantee that you could turn those stats around with a great photo.

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I'm just one woman but I think you would look better if you combed your hair.

 

Between the casual t-shirt & the messy hair, your picture screams I don't care. The photo & the OLD profile are marketing tools. You're supposed to put your best foot forward. From that photo I'd think you can't be bothered & then I'd wonder what a p.i.t.a. it would be to get you to put on a nice suit to go to a wedding or a work function for me. I don't like fixer-up-projects, especially when they are men.

 

So comb your hair & see if that changes things. Us the current photo as one of the "others" in your profile so you don't come across as stuffy.

 

Going to a bar may also be a good idea maybe make it a meetup.com event

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I see no problems with the photograph. The Subject ( yourself) looks pleasant and carefree. Some seem to run the GQ look likeability...., but I find the natural look most appealing. Some folks have a desire to improve that which is already satisfactory. The Question is, How are you liking the pic?

 

As to statistics, variables can range too much to jump to the conclusion as stated.

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Between the casual t-shirt & the messy hair, your picture screams I don't care.

 

I thought exactly the same.

 

With a haircut and a nice shirt I think he would look very good looking.

(having said that I am in my forties very old.....but not fat nor of the wrong race! Lol!)

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I decided to e-mail a woman, who, according to the "top spot" thing, saw my profile in her search results. According to her, she did not see my profile at all in her search results. I guess it's a scam or something, if she was being honest and not just trying to make me feel better.

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I decided to e-mail a woman, who, according to the "top spot" thing, saw my profile in her search results. According to her, she did not see my profile at all in her search results. I guess it's a scam or something, if she was being honest and not just trying to make me feel better.

 

It's not a scam, I do it every night and the views increase exponentially. She probably just doesn't remember every one of the dozens of profiles she saw an hour ago. I know I probably wouldn't.

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It's not a scam, I do it every night and the views increase exponentially. She probably just doesn't remember every one of the dozens of profiles she saw an hour ago. I know I probably wouldn't.

 

I changed my profile pic, and I'm not exaggerating, I had a 2700% increase in views. Went from 0.5 views on average to 14 views today. And I actually got 1 reply, as well as an e-mail from another member. Not a reply, an actual e-mail.

 

It was the pic. Burned it. Good riddance.

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Some of you might remember I started a thread called "the perfect online dating profile photo", or something along those lines, a while ago. In this thread I voiced my doubts about my current avatar (which is also my main OLD profile photo) and a lot of you said the photo is fine. Well, tonight I have strong evidence to support my original hypothesis. The last 2.5 weeks on OLD for me have been downright dismal, and tonight I know the problem has been my photo all along.

 

On "match" they have something called "top spot", where you pay something like 3 dollars to have your profile in the top search results for 1 hour. I tried it (although I should have used the money to buy a healthy salad) and for one full hour a grand total of 687 women saw my profile in their search results. Out of these 687 women, only 6 actually viewed my profile. Out of these 6, three "liked my photo". BUT... the three who liked my photo are all obese, the wrong race and a good fraction of a decade older than me.

 

So upon seeing my photo a grand total of 681 women made the decision to not view my profile. I repulsed them. My success rate is less dismal. Strange, I actually think I look rather handsome in the photo. Like I said before, it's one of my best recent photos. I just don't get it.

 

I GIVE UP ON OLD. Tomorrow, I go to an old fashioned bar.

 

Would you be open to cutting your hair shorter? To be honest, you arent a bad looking guy. In my opinion, your hair is way too long in this photo. I may get yelled at for being honest, but I will be honest and say it is too long, and I do not like it.

 

I am going to take a wild guess here and assume you went to old fashioned bars and ended on online dating too.

 

The whole point of online dating is to be used as an addition to your life. You do not have to simply give up on all other avenues of finding women when you begin online dating. Keep ALL options open.

 

Above all else, keep your chin up, back straight and your heart open! :D

 

If it matters, I am a 30 year old white female.

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I changed my profile pic, and I'm not exaggerating, I had a 2700% increase in views. Went from 0.5 views on average to 14 views today. And I actually got 1 reply, as well as an e-mail from another member. Not a reply, an actual e-mail.

 

It was the pic. Burned it. Good riddance.

 

They may just think it is a new person. Lol. Views mean nothing to me, and I rely on messages with substance. I am really glad to hear you got an email from someone too! Eeeeeeeeek! That IS exciting news!

 

I wasted no time on people who viewed me but didn't message. They obviously stopped to look at my profile, didn't like what they saw, and never messaged, so they arent interested. Why would I waste precious energy? Put energy into the ones who engage, respond and especially the ones who reach out to you, and email you first!!! :)

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Another vote to cut your hair. WAY too long and unruly and I would not reply either - really just a physical turn-off. With a shorter haircut you could look great.

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