irc333 Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 I don't know if you've ever been to social events where you'd come across people that are wall flowers or deliberately attempt to not to get to know new people. Case in point with the Meetup events. There'd be situations where a woman would come with another woman to an event, but never chat with other....only with the friend she came with. Those who would try to approach her, esp. men , she would quickly dismiss or at the very least, be mildy cordial or polite, but her body language would indeed indicate she's not interested in engaging in conversation with you. He/she is usually the tag-a-long. Though, the person that brought her is highly sociable...and usually a regular of the event and knows most of the people. I'm not sure why people participate in this behavior. I mean if you're going to make it a point to come to a social event, why be a snob? I did pose this question to a friend once, and he/she said that chances are they were really there with her friend(s)...to be in their company only. Basically, they were there only for them. Usually you never see them again either. Not sure if you've experienced this...though some might gather to think, unless you're some kind of hot hunk, she would otherwise engage you? Link to post Share on other sites
iris219 Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 Some woman don't want to give men the wrong idea by being too friendly. You said she was cordial. What's wrong with that? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 Some time I would go because I set goals for myself -- 1 new social event per week. I'd go but my heart wasn't in it that day. Other people are just shy or socially awkward. In my younger years if a boy talked to me I was convinced he was setting me up for some very cruel public humiliation. (I never said my fear was rational) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 Sometimes people don't really want to go but a friend pushes them. Sometimes they realise too late that they hate meeting lots of strangers simultaneously. Sometimes they realise too late that the particular meetup event is full of freaks. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 If she's with a friend, chances are that friend who wanted to attend the meetup begged her to come with her so she wouldn't feel awkward. So that's the one you talk to, not the one who came as a favor and doesn't want to be there. Link to post Share on other sites
iris219 Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 Sometimes they realise too late that the particular meetup event is full of freaks. I went to a meetup once with a friend who I was visiting in another town and it was full of the most bizarre people we had ever met. We tried to be nice, but it was painful. It was all women, so it wasn't like anyone was hitting on us. They were just a strange group of people. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted June 18, 2014 Author Share Posted June 18, 2014 Define strange. Thats left up to interpretation I went to a meetup once with a friend who I was visiting in another town and it was full of the most bizarre people we had ever met. We tried to be nice, but it was painful. It was all women, so it wasn't like anyone was hitting on us. They were just a strange group of people. Link to post Share on other sites
Glinda.Good Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 They have their own reasons for going. NOYB. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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