irc333 Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 Hey, gentlemen, every seen women that make you write a certain "code word" in your initial email to them in order to get a response (or so they say)? LOL Example: "Write the word 'pickle' in your email to me, that way I KNOW You've read my profile" Only to not get a reply of course, regardless of what the say. I think I had written so many "code words" that I may have inadvertently deciphered something. LOL I think I may decide not to email those women considering that they're just going through a futile attempt to get you to jump through hoops or put you through work in order to even correspond with them, right fellas? Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 Thats unusual haven't come across that to be honest in my experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
Chalkdust89 Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 As a woman, I would much rather someone send me an initial message starting a conversation about my profile instead of just dropping a word that says he looked at it. I understand where these girls are coming from because when I did online dating, I was constantly annoyed by guys who would send me impersonal messages that made it obvious they didn't read anything I wrote (the worst, of course, being "hey"). Personally, I think the code word thing is a silly game, but I think you should say the code word and then continue with a real conversation, should you choose to play along. Link to post Share on other sites
kodakgirl Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 I saw a MAN do this before! He had like two or three on his profile and at least one more in questions. I guess it's possible it was tongue in cheek but it sure didn't seem like it ( plus I never knew it was a thing before, and I doubt most women would). Such a turn-off.... just seems so arrogant and pretentious. I definitely didn't write (and I maybe would have otherwise... so I guess it's good in a way, you get a warning they're that kind of person, haha) Link to post Share on other sites
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 Sketchy. Avoid those women. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
onemanband Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 lmao lol wtf yolo use words, code word=:crazy Link to post Share on other sites
erusaelptew Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 (edited) In my experience this is a filter that people use, but most people don't realize if you do what they ask, like sending them the "Keyword", you have just been put in the "Just Another Guy" category. It's the unique people that DON'T do what they ask that get the responses. If you can do that and be able to come up with something to talk about that is interesting for both of you, you should have no problem. Most dating sites have plenty of information on there profile to find SOMETHING to talk about. If you are talking about CL though, you are on your own. There is generally not enough information about the person on sites like CL to even be able to start a convo. Edited February 27, 2014 by erusaelptew Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 Hey, gentlemen, every seen women that make you write a certain "code word" in your initial email to them in order to get a response (or so they say)? LOL Example: "Write the word 'pickle' in your email to me, that way I KNOW You've read my profile" Only to not get a reply of course, regardless of what the say. I think I had written so many "code words" that I may have inadvertently deciphered something. LOL I think I may decide not to email those women considering that they're just going through a futile attempt to get you to jump through hoops or put you through work in order to even correspond with them, right fellas? HOW FUNNY!!! I was just mentioning to my roommate the other night that I am gonna do that to ensure that at the least I only respond to men who've read my profile lol! I was joking and didn't do it, but it's funny that people do this. I'm with her though. I am tempted myself as I KNOW that 9/10 men who message me don't read one word on my profile at all and its such a waste and so frustrating when some dude who has nothing in common with me and we're on 2 different wavelengths messages me. I don't have any "Dont's" on my profile but I do say what I'm looking for and essentially the type of man who should be messaging me and I'm like sir, if you read you'd know that is NOT you! But some read and cannot comprehend or don't care anyway and just are trying their luck. But can't say I haven't thought of it...I read ALL the profiles of men who message me or who I message and appreciate the same and am turned off by men who don't do that and just message me these mundane questions I've already answered on my profile instead of engaging me about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 If people are going to message you, they should take the trouble to actually read the profile first, otherwise it seems lazy and shallow in my opinion. a good profile is what makes me message anyway, the picture just gets my notice and the profile seals the deal. Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 In her defense, giving her the code word just lets her know that you read it. She still has to read your profile and like you for you to get a response. You passed the first round, that's it. It's not "give me the code word and I'll go out with you." I saw one that said "I'm a stickler for spelling and grammar so bare with me." I pointed out the irony in it and she said it was like that on purpose to see who reads the profile and who's relatively scrupulous. I have a little bit in my profile that briefly explains the type of messages I don't like to get, and girls still send them anyways. I don't use it as a code to discriminate but it at least shows you who's serious and who can read a few sentences and retain the information. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted February 27, 2014 Author Share Posted February 27, 2014 I've actually seen women write, "No one ever reads these things, they only care about the pictures...so ask me anything you'd like to know. On the good side, I recall a woman having VERY nicely done pictures....about 8 of them. HOW FUNNY!!! I was just mentioning to my roommate the other night that I am gonna do that to ensure that at the least I only respond to men who've read my profile lol! I was joking and didn't do it, but it's funny that people do this. I'm with her though. I am tempted myself as I KNOW that 9/10 men who message me don't read one word on my profile at all and its such a waste and so frustrating when some dude who has nothing in common with me and we're on 2 different wavelengths messages me. I don't have any "Dont's" on my profile but I do say what I'm looking for and essentially the type of man who should be messaging me and I'm like sir, if you read you'd know that is NOT you! But some read and cannot comprehend or don't care anyway and just are trying their luck. But can't say I haven't thought of it...I read ALL the profiles of men who message me or who I message and appreciate the same and am turned off by men who don't do that and just message me these mundane questions I've already answered on my profile instead of engaging me about it. Link to post Share on other sites
TheBladeRunner Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 I have seen this as well a few times and I don't respond/initiate first contact. I read the profile anyway and typically I find something in common and write something like "Oh, I see you are into golf too; what's your handicap". I think that's enough.......code words....sheese! Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted February 27, 2014 Share Posted February 27, 2014 Women don't want a guy who will do whatever they tell him. That's a good way to filter those out. Link to post Share on other sites
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