h3braica Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 I feel so low and need someone to cheer me up . Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 We definitely have some friendly, caring people and some good friendships filled with respect and affection here. Want to let me know what's going on? Link to post Share on other sites
Author h3braica Posted February 17, 2014 Author Share Posted February 17, 2014 been a year since the BU, manage to keep myself busy for a year, I studied and landed a job in a yacht club as a chef. Thought I forget the past but I thought wrong. it's haunting me over and over again. The memories were still there and the pain won't go away. I am crying every night again feeling lost and empty. I don't miss the person I just want the pain to go away. The pain is killing me. It is as if the BU happened yeterday. It's a 10 yr LDR by the way. what am I suppose to do? haven't dated since then. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted February 20, 2014 Share Posted February 20, 2014 Stay busy with hobbies, chores, friends, work, school... Link to post Share on other sites
SYLLPalmer Posted February 20, 2014 Share Posted February 20, 2014 (edited) Having endured the cycle of play, rewind, replay on a relationship for well over ten years post break up I can offer you this hindsight knowledge. Loss of this kind is profound and your mind refuses to accept it. But you have to redirect your thinking. Consider the scenario where a man with great potential looses his leg in a motorcycle accident. Life as he wanted it is now forever altered. Making the most out of life as things are not as we want them to be largely dictates where we end up. So when you want (and it is a delicious urge) to regress into a pining session consider the man who has lost his leg. To have the best possible outcome to a tragic accident requires minimizing the time "wasted" wishing that it wasn't so. You have mourned but now you must move on. One day this person will be a shadow of a fond memory for you. Knowing this is a guaranteed endpoint your best possible outcome becomes probable the moment you let go. And you let go over and over and over until it stops playing in your head. And it will stop playing in your head. Peace. Edited February 20, 2014 by SYLLPalmer 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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