irc333 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Lately, I've been reading COUNTLESS complaints in women's dating profiles about women having to tell men "Please treat me with respect, I'm not a piece of meat" To "If you're here for a booty call, please do NOT EMAIL ME!" Thing is, is this REALLY going to stop men who are just aiming at "The booty call" to STOP them from emailing them? NOPE! Why? Because I am aware that there are some men out there that will tell a woman that they are looking for a serious relationship, then once they get laid...they go *poof*. So I really don't see the point in putting that in a profile, yes? Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Maybe you should tell them to stop making such requests. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Nobody likes to be told what to do, especially men. I'm SO glad I didn't read women's profiles.....most me are less wordy and pretentious LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 There seems to be more point in those profiles than making a post just to complain about them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted February 9, 2014 Author Share Posted February 9, 2014 Also, if you see a lot of "ranting" in a profile, is this a turn off or do you try to start your initial email to the woman that you're "not one of THOSE guys?" Link to post Share on other sites
jcrew11 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Also, if you see a lot of "ranting" in a profile, is this a turn off or do you try to start your initial email to the woman that you're "not one of THOSE guys?" It probably comes down to how good-looking the profile photos are. If she is really hot, I don't think most guys would care about whatever she writes in the profile, even if she sounds crazy, some guys will see it as an interesting challenge. I don't think that the guy has to prove "he is not one of those guys" - because it just makes him look wimpy, pleading, and weak. I think he just needs to put more effort into wooing her with romantic messages. Instead of the "hey wassup, let's hookup" message. No matter what a girl writes in her profile, a girl will always respect a strong masculine guy, instead of a weak, pleading, unsure loser. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Most people will stop doing something when they no longer benefit from it. Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 I wouldn't respond to such profiles if I was a man. But then I'm not a man ...... On the other hand, if I saw men's profiles saying "no gold-diggers" or "genuine women only", I wouldn't respond either. Profiles should be upbeat and interesting IMO. Negative profiles would turn me off pretty quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 If i saw a profile of a woman that actually said 'pls treat me with respect', i would immediately assume she has a history of meeting men who have not treated her with respect ... in which case i would walk around that profile, because it's probably something in her ppl-picker too. Sorta like going on the 1st date when she mentions that all past bf's have been douchebags who haven't treated her well ... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted February 9, 2014 Author Share Posted February 9, 2014 If i saw a profile of a woman that actually said 'pls treat me with respect', i would immediately assume she has a history of meeting men who have not treated her with respect ... in which case i would walk around that profile, because it's probably something in her ppl-picker too. Sorta like going on the 1st date when she mentions that all past bf's have been douchebags who haven't treated her well ... I have to say, and I'm not exaggerating, but I'd have to guess about 80% of female dating profiles have the same, broken record going on in it in regards to stating to keep "booty call men" from emailing them, but chances are they are still dating the "booty call men". It's kind of an irony, she only says that she doesn't want such men, but tends to date them anyways. It's a psychosis that's quite mind blowing There is no need to state the obvious. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 It probably comes down to how good-looking the profile photos are. If she is really hot, I don't think most guys would care about whatever she writes in the profile, even if she sounds crazy, some guys will see it as an interesting challenge. I don't think that the guy has to prove "he is not one of those guys" - because it just makes him look wimpy, pleading, and weak. I think he just needs to put more effort into wooing her with romantic messages. Instead of the "hey wassup, let's hookup" message. No matter what a girl writes in her profile, a girl will always respect a strong masculine guy, instead of a weak, pleading, unsure loser. True story: I personally know someone who did this, on purpose, and there was no doubt she was 'hot', and was often referred to that way here. Her results? I saw them personally, meaning the actual responses, in person, when I spent time with her. Voluminous. During that period, she dated a number of men out of those responses. During that period, my phone often rang in the middle of the night, one night , most poignantly, while she was parked in front of her exH's house, I believe it was on New Year's, and she was telling me she was going to kill herself. I could hear her exH in the background and I knew his voice as I had met him so accepted the dynamic as authentic. Everything isn't always as it seems, either the profile or the person. Words to the wise. That's one example of dozens to hundred's from carhill's annals of life experience.. Good luck OP; I know you seem to analyze this stuff to death. Better that than being dead or diseased/abused/neglected/used. It's a tough world out there. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Also, if you see a lot of "ranting" in a profile, is this a turn off or do you try to start your initial email to the woman that you're "not one of THOSE guys?" From a woman's perspective, any man who makes any kind of complaint in their dating profile, doesn't get a look-in with me. Those women are silly. Guys aren't going to read a wall of texts about their likes and dislikes. Women need to put up some cute photos, a few eye-catching lines, and that's it. Guys are the ones that need to write an in-depth profile (no ranting or complaints), because that's what women are assessing him on. If girls did their profiles like those guys who send a shirtless photo, and men wrote profiles like women, OLD would be more successful for all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted February 9, 2014 Author Share Posted February 9, 2014 I know you seem to analyze this stuff to death. Better that than being dead or diseased/abused/neglected/used. It's a tough world out there Wow, spot on, carhill...you know what, even though I'm over 40, I should be thankful for not having the miserable life or having gotten caught up in the drama or even domestic disputes like some people have. I recall a good friend of mine, was living with his girlfriend. They had 2 kids together and apparently she was attempting to get violent with him in their living room. WHat he did was just attempt to restrain her by holding her wrists...apparently by doing that , bruises were left on her wrists and she called the cops. They showed up at his place and she said he abused her and had the "marks' to prove it. Well, he had to take a ride downtown as a result...there's some RULE in this state where if the cops are called out for a domestic dispute they HAVE To take someone downtown. Of course, he kind of got a slap on the wrist, he was just told he had to take anger management classes. I had to laugh, because he's the most passive guy I know. LOL 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted February 9, 2014 Author Share Posted February 9, 2014 From a woman's perspective, any man who makes any kind of complaint in their dating profile, doesn't get a look-in with me. Those women are silly. Guys aren't going to read a wall of texts about their likes and dislikes. Women need to put up some cute photos, a few eye-catching lines, and that's it. Guys are the ones that need to write an in-depth profile (no ranting or complaints), because that's what women are assessing him on. If girls did their profiles like those guys who send a shirtless photo, and men wrote profiles like women, OLD would be more successful for all. Yeah and pretty women can get away with rants in their profiles and they'll still have tons of emails waiting for them in their inbox. If women see even an ounce of complaints in their profile, they're outta there. I actually saw a woman's profile where she SPECIFICALLY stated that if she sees any mention in her correspondence with a guy she's talking to about "How women have been terrible to them online" she is taking off. Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 Yeah and pretty women can get away with rants in their profiles and they'll still have tons of emails waiting for them in their inbox. If women see even an ounce of complaints in their profile, they're outta there. I actually saw a woman's profile where she SPECIFICALLY stated that if she sees any mention in her correspondence with a guy she's talking to about "How women have been terrible to them online" she is taking off. I agree with that, but I would not put such things in my profile, I'd just move on. Would you trash-talk your current boss to a potential future boss in a job interview? I think the same applies here. People want to date other people with a bit of hope. Cynicism has no place in an online dating profile. Have a criteria, but keep it to yourself and give people the benefit of the doubt. Those pretty girls get emails because the overwhelming majority of guys don't read a profile, they look at the picture. Hence, why girls need to write very little in their internet profile, just put up some good pics and your profile is basically done. Link to post Share on other sites
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