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I've been motivated, goal orientated, ambitious and all that for a very long time. After a lot of hard work, effort, I realise that all I do and have accomplished does not really mean anything. What is it to gain the world, but have no one to give and receive love and effection too.

 

I think I'm the perfect guy. I'm honest, kind, stable, not too ugly, and even athletic and all that. Now the harsh reality sets in that I have no luck with woman. As of late all my friends get married and that kind of thing where I am left cold in the dust. When I meet some one that I may be interested in something usually goes wrong, or she rejects me or I mess it up or something to that effect. Can't understand it. It sucks... bummer!

 

At least I still have one thing left, the desire to find some one to love and care for. Just sucks a whole lot to be lonely. The idea of having a desire to find the right one is probably a good thing. Now I need to figure out what to do to find that some one - seems like one daunting task...

 

So, I'll become really careless and not worry when rejected when I ask woman out. I don't handle rejection well, but who does. Sooner or later some one will give me a chance so that I can get to know her and she me - and then maybe we have a whole lot in common - so much so that it could lead too something great. It may be take a couple of tries and I will probably need a couple of chances from a couple of woman.

 

So this is my resolve, to find some one with whom I can have a happy lasting relationship with and kick loneliness in it's behind.

 

Lately the only thing I think makes sense in life is to give and receive love and have loved ones in your life. I think it would be better to be dead than get old alone.

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i don't think that you need to be married (or have an SO) in your life to have love. you can love people in many different (and very fulfilling) ways. you love your friends and your family and the people you serve. and you love your pets. can't forget the pets.

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Goldmund2004

I know you are lonely--it sucks. Loneliness is stressful... you spend hours and hours with your own thoughts and no one to tell them to, you have lots of energy but no one to help you find ways to channel it, you get horny, and on and on. The worst part of it is that deep down you end up tiring yourself thinking ONLY of yourself...

 

Originally posted by lydiamarie

i don't think that you need to be married (or have an SO) in your life to have love. you can love people in many different (and very fulfilling) ways. you love your friends and your family and the people you serve. and you love your pets. can't forget the pets.

 

This is excellent. The best way to beat loneliness is not to try and find a girlfriend or a wife, since I was married once and was alone a lot of the time. The best way is to find things to do to get outside yourself--volunteer, go out alone, get comfortable in your own skin. Don't weigh your worth to yourself or to society by whether you have a girlfriend you can parade around at the company Christmas party. Instead contribute something, do things you enjoy doing...and you might just accidentally bump into someone...

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