ooglesnboogles Posted November 21, 2012 Share Posted November 21, 2012 Hi everybody. I was talking to a friend the other day and remembered a time when I asked out a girl who I had been friends with in class (college). She turned me down, but we still managed to be at ease with each other for the last month or two of the semester. I took a shot, she said she had a boyfriend, I let it go and moved on. I guess I really lucked out that I was able to still hang out with that girl, since she was a really valuable study partner (smart as heck!). Probably woulda failed the course otherwise. But it made me think Have you ever asked out someone you knew in a class? Specifically, someone you either partnered up with for studying, or chatted with before/after a lot, or something like that? If they turned you down, what happened afterwards? I guess it depends on the person and the situation, but I'm interested in reading other people's experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
Tiera D Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 i dont ask chicks in class unless its group outing,because rumor spreads when u get rejected or eventually breakup,all my exes are those that none among my buddies know personally.my 2 cents TD Link to post Share on other sites
Author ooglesnboogles Posted November 22, 2012 Author Share Posted November 22, 2012 Thanks for the input! I guess that might be a good idea; sounds like something I would do but unfortunately I don't meet too many people outside my classes. I'm not too worried about being rejected anymore though. Gotta start taking shots eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
daisydays33 Posted December 2, 2012 Share Posted December 2, 2012 I'm a girl and although I've never asked anyone out in class or had anyone ask me out, I wanted to share my bit. All the girls and I wished that guys would be more proactive in class about meeting girls and asking them out. It's a great place to expand your group of friends and classes are often big enough for things not to be awkward. I disagree that rumours would be spread. I know only a few people in each of my classes and most of my classes are so big that nobody knows each and every person personally. Even if someone wanted to spread rumours, they would have no where to spread them to. Hence, I feel like you should keep doing it. It doesn't hurt and girls will never hate a guy for asking them out unless they're perverted/creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 8, 2012 Author Share Posted December 8, 2012 Thanks for the reply daisydays! That's kinda how I feel. Especially at the college/university level, that's sort of how things get done. So far, I'm 0 for 2, but at least one of those was able to be cool about it. The girl I asked out most recently definitely acting differently. Too bad, cause I liked talking to her. But I think this situation is better than me still sitting here wondering "Would she have said yes?" Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted December 8, 2012 Share Posted December 8, 2012 I'm a girl and although I've never asked anyone out in class or had anyone ask me out, I wanted to share my bit. Good advice... are you hot? Thanks for the reply daisydays! That's kinda how I feel. Especially at the college/university level, that's sort of how things get done. So far, I'm 0 for 2, but at least one of those was able to be cool about it. The girl I asked out most recently definitely acting differently. Too bad, cause I liked talking to her. But I think this situation is better than me still sitting here wondering "Would she have said yes?" Class is a great place to ask people out. If you're respectful about it no reason they should get mad. I mean if you call them a bich and storm away after asking them out they might hold it against you. If you get some reputation of being the ask out guy in class that would be a pretty cool reputation to get. "look theres that bold guy who asks all those girls out." I think it would actually make girls like you more even if your reputation was being a creep. No downside, go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 8, 2012 Author Share Posted December 8, 2012 I doubt I'll be that guy, for a handful of reasons haha. Back to thought from my original post, has anyone asked out someone they knew in the class or had some relation to (waited outside together everyday cause you were both early, had two classes together, shared notes with, etc)? How did that pan out? Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted December 8, 2012 Share Posted December 8, 2012 I doubt I'll be that guy, for a handful of reasons haha. Back to thought from my original post, has anyone asked out someone they knew in the class or had some relation to (waited outside together everyday cause you were both early, had two classes together, shared notes with, etc)? How did that pan out? Sure I've asked out girls I had class with. It went fine even if they said no. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 8, 2012 Author Share Posted December 8, 2012 Ah, but did you know them at all? Or were they just in the same class? In my mind it always seems like it'd be easy enough to let a 'no' fade off and be cool about it, but in practical use it's not quite that simple. For instance, I shared some notes with a girl in a class. Hadn't really thought much of her before since she sat on the other side of the room and left directly after class, though she was usually somewhere near the classroom before class. For a couple of days I tried to strike up a bit of a conversation to get to know her a little; she seemed receptive. She was cute so I asked her out. Since then, she either comes right at class time or has her nose buried in a book. Which, as I said, is too bad because she was fun to chat with. Doesn't bother me too much because I wasn't entirely expecting a 'yes' when I asked her but still, ya know? Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 I've asked a few girls out who I had a class with and it was pretty much successful, even if it only lead to 1 date. The only one I almost failed at was I was about to ask this girl out from class, who we did study together in a group, she wasn't on facebook so I just assumed she was single. We were walking to the bus stop and she gets a call after the call she tells me that her boyfriend just called and got them tickets to some concert, I think Weezer. Close one as I was only a few minuets away from asking her out. Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 I've asked a few girls out who I had a class with and it was pretty much successful, even if it only lead to 1 date. The only one I almost failed at was I was about to ask this girl out from class, who we did study together in a group, she wasn't on facebook so I just assumed she was single. We were walking to the bus stop and she gets a call after the call she tells me that her boyfriend just called and got them tickets to some concert, I think Weezer. Close one as I was only a few minuets away from asking her out. If you asked her out she would have just told you she had a bf. No big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 10, 2012 Author Share Posted December 10, 2012 If you asked her out she would have just told you she had a bf. No big deal. It's still awkward though... Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 It's still awkward though... Buying condoms can be awkward to, but returning them is probably more awkward. Lots of things are awkward. Stop worrying about that and just be yourself. Some awkwardness is good for a person. It builds character or something like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 If you asked her out she would have just told you she had a bf. No big deal. True, but it would have been a tad awkward for a day or two, especially given I was a freshman in college and didn't have nearly the confidence and the oh well approach that I have now Buying condoms can be awkward to, but returning them is probably more awkward. Lots of things are awkward. Stop worrying about that and just be yourself. Some awkwardness is good for a person. It builds character or something like that. Who the hell returns condoms?!?! They last a long time and at worst, just throw them out if they expire. Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 Who the hell returns condoms?!?! They last a long time and at worst, just throw them out if they expire. Some one who has decided they are never going to use them because it's to awkward to talk to girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Some one who has decided they are never going to use them because it's to awkward to talk to girls. But I'd imagine they'd be too awkward to either A) buy them or B) return them if they did buy them Link to post Share on other sites
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 11, 2012 Author Share Posted December 11, 2012 I don't think I've ever heard of someone returning a box of condoms. Either they bought a really big box and want their 40 bucks back for Magic The Gathering cards, or they're really really cheap... Hell, save em for the zombie apocalypse. They're good for putting over the end of the gun (the weapon, not the ... well, I guess good for both) to stop water from getting in there, or for protecting bananas as you bum rush your way through zombies... Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 But I'd imagine they'd be too awkward to either A) buy them or B) return them if they did buy them I don't think I've ever heard of someone returning a box of condoms. Either they bought a really big box and want their 40 bucks back for Magic The Gathering cards, or they're really really cheap... Hell, save em for the zombie apocalypse. They're good for putting over the end of the gun (the weapon, not the ... well, I guess good for both) to stop water from getting in there, or for protecting bananas as you bum rush your way through zombies... Yes, yes if you didn't catch on I was being funny. Maybe the picture tickled you a little. The point was stop being so scared of awkwardness and ask someone from your classes out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 11, 2012 Author Share Posted December 11, 2012 Yes, yes if you didn't catch on I was being funny. Maybe the picture tickled you a little. The point was stop being so scared of awkwardness and ask someone from your classes out. Once again, I maintain that someone needs to come up with a sarcasm font or symbol or something for sarcastic text Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 True, but it would have been a tad awkward for a day or two, especially given I was a freshman in college and didn't have nearly the confidence and the oh well approach that I have now Who the hell returns condoms?!?! They last a long time and at worst, just throw them out if they expire. I wish I returned the last box of condoms I bought. Granted it was only a three pack, but it's a sickening thought throwing out an unopened package because they expired. Those things last years which meant that it was years ago that I had a use for them Oh yeah, ask girls out in class. Don't wait till class is over and do it in Facebook. Only fools do that.... Link to post Share on other sites
Sadlife Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 It's funny because I'm a new member here and I registered to seek help about a certain problem very similar to yours.. So it's finals week for me and I haven't been able to concentrate because of a girl I met in class whom I actually was just hanging out with around 3 hours ago. This is the second time I've been alone with her, the first was last night. Though it may seem that something magical happened, nothing did. I Forgot to mention that im 21, shes 23 and she has a boy friend. I didnt really care much about that because id always try to think to myself that break ups happen often in college. Plus I don't even know the guy since he graduated a few years ago. Anyway, I've liked this girl for one whole semester now, sitting beside her in class every mwf.. I usually slack off and miss class but for some reason she makes me wake up every morning at 8am. I honestly did not miss a single class this semester because of her. It just wakes me up whenever I think about seeing her. But last night everything changed.. I was curious as to how strong her relationship with her current boyfriend is. So I asked about marriage. I asked her what age she wants to end up getting married. She then says "if he proposes in a year or 2.. I'd probably say yes" I never expected to feel what I felt at that moment. I was torn.. I Felt so stupid thinking that I actually had a chance. I've been trying to get over her since then but I just can't. It's affecting me so much right now at the worst possible time. This is all happening in the middle of my senior year finals. Adding to my stupidity I mentioned that we studied together again today. I don't know why I said yes. When I saw her today I felt the depression taking over. I honestly don't know what to do. You guys might tell me to move on but It's always hard for me to do that. I don't usually get attracted to many girls and vice versa. I apologize for venting on this post that was suppost to be a simple story. Its just because this problem is fresh to me and I just need someone to talk to.. How sad that my first post in this forum is making me look like a depressed hopeless guy. Anyway, that's it Link to post Share on other sites
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 11, 2012 Author Share Posted December 11, 2012 You specifically said you don't want to hear it but I'll bite the bullet and say it: Move on! She's got a boyfriend who she's willing to marry. You really want to be the guy who breaks that up? Link to post Share on other sites
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