Haven't been on a date in 4 years.

[DreamerGirl27]

When I was younger, I dated quit a bit. A bit means, like 7 different guys at the most and maybe 1 or 2 dates. I considered that a lot.

 

I haven't been on a date in 4 years. I'm 26, the last date I went on I was 22. I could have gone on 1 or 2 dates in the past 4 years, but I put my foot down and told them no. I wasn't attracted.

 

I basically have one guy that I talk to consistently and he just wants to be friends. I don't even have a guy I'm not interested in, interested in me. Nobody IMs me on facebook, even though I have about 10-12 people online all the time. If I IM them, they don't respond.

 

I have 3 really close girlfriends and 1 really close guy friend. so, that's 4 people that I talk to on a regular basis.

 

I literally have nobody. Especially romantically related.

 

Why? I don't mind being alone, but why? What am I doing wrong? Why would someone accept you on facebook and then ignore you when you IM them? Is it something wrong with them or something wrong with me?

 

Oh, and the guys that I generally find attractive, seem to be the worst at the ignoring you thing. They are usually guys in bands who are always on the road. I guess the fact that they all have girlfriends could have something to do with it. But, I only have one guy that I'm actually attracted to that talks to me. Even the guys I'm unattracted to, ignore me.

 

I don't know what to do. I'm mostly complaining that they ignore me on facebook, because that's what I like to do. I don't like to hang out too much, although I will, but I prefer to just talk to people and nobody wants to talk.

 

That's why I'm on here so much. I'd rather sit behind my computer screen and talk online and nobody wants to do that except my 4 closest friends. I would hang out with more poeple...but if they won't even start by talking to me first, I can't even get to the point of hanging out.

 

What am I doing wrong? I add people...they add me...I IM them...they ignore me. Why would you ignore someone if you were going to add them? Wouldn't the better idea be to just not add you?

 

I'm confused by my so called "friends".

 

These are all people I have met in real life at one point, too. People I used to hang out with on a regular basis. I have about 80ish people that I know in real life that I haven't seen in awhile, so I add them on facebook only to get ignored. It doesn't make any sense to me.

[Ross MwcFan]

Do you push religion onto them often?

 

If so that could be why.

[dreamingoftigers]

I think that the book Taming Your Outer Child has all of the answers you need.

 

I am not kidding or being rude. Reading it myself in fact.

[DreamerGirl27]

Ross, I don't push anything on anyone in real life. In fact, religion is a topic that doesn't get brought up ever by me. My friends simply know that I have played in the band at a couple church's in the past, but that was in the past. A few of them know I still attend occasionally, but that's about the extent of it. I don't need to do anything else. I am more open with it on here because this is a very worldly board and I am uncomfortable on it and I see a lot of negative posts, so I am just trying to encourage something positive in their life. It is up to them whether they take the advice or not.

[Mr.Raindrop]

Why? I don't mind being alone, but why? What am I doing wrong? Why would someone accept you on facebook and then ignore you when you IM them? Is it something wrong with them or something wrong with me?

 

Nothing is wrong with you, it's them. Facebook is a joke, people will add anyone as long as they at least remotely know you from somewhere. It's mostly a number game, to see who can acquire the most "friends" and seem to be the most popular among their peers.

 

I wouldn't worry so much about it! If you want to make friends, then do activities or join groups that would put you around like-minded people. I won't ream you about that though, seeing as how you're 26 and most likely would have done that by now if you wanted to.

 

Do you push religion onto them often?

 

If so that could be why.

 

Why are you so fixated on religion? I've seen a few of your posts just from browsing around here, and most of them involved it. Unless I overlooked something, I didn't even see her mention anything about religion in the original post?