Sw3etdev1L Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 I thought we had a great date, and he didn't call me .. One week, he got online in facebook, not even a hello to me. ¿what kind of a man does that??? I don't like that attitude. I think it's immature. You go out in a date for a day... you cannot even say hi?. wtf? I mean... maybe he is not gonna go out again with me ever, but at least you can have the decency to act as a friend. If he would have said hi on facebook and not even call.. act as ig he was taking me as something X out of his life... then, I would have understand.. But it is so ugly, that we had a blast during a day... and he didn't have the guts to say hi, In a facebook??? wtf?... I don't know... I guess, one date or one day of going out with someone is not that important.. You go out, have fun, eat, talk, chat.... if you want to hang out more you hang out more, and if you don't you don't... I guess you cannot tell in one day if you really had a blast or not with a person because.. the first day you go out with someone is... just one day in which you guys haven't known each other, you might just say if you like each other physically... you need time to decide if you really wanna hang out or not.... A hello in a facebook is not going to kill you, not even if you don't want to go out with that person again.. Be polite, and not say "did you miss me if you KNOW you are not going to call"... " what are you playing?" come one!... stupid phone call rules, stupid immature boys. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 But he doesn't owe you anything after one date. If he didn't call, you only owe it to yourself to move forward and forget about him. If someone doesn't do right by your standards- you are in charge of moving forward from that, not him. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 That's a shame and it feels rotten when guys do that. It could be he was distracted by someone else on Facebook or, like me, doesn't understand how it works, but then I guess that doesn't really help. Truthfully, if he was interested, he'd have been in touch fairly quickly. No interaction at all is usually bad news. I did actually meet someone once who told me (seriously) that if he had a date with a girl and he didn't think it would work, he didn't call her. He said she'd know he wasn't interested because of that. I did point out that she might not know but be wondering, but he laughed this off. I wouldn't recommend dating him! If you are not sure about someone or feel they are not right for you, then it is very easy to just drift and not respond until, well, an embarassing amount of time has elapsed. Perhaps best to just move on. It's no reflection on you. It just means you are not right for each other, especially considering he has no manners. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sw3etdev1L Posted August 25, 2010 Author Share Posted August 25, 2010 we had interaction on thursday.. " have you missed me??... talked a little ", but I had to go somewhere else.. sent him a message saturday of I missed you he didn't reply.. now he is in vacation somewhere.. I feel as if he'd be playing around with my head. Or maybe it is me making up ideas about him.. and truth is maybe he is not interested and is just doing his thang Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted August 25, 2010 Share Posted August 25, 2010 In my experience, when a guy has been truly interested, he hasn't been able to go more than a day without some sort of contact - by text, email or phone, but usually wanting to meet or phone. I'm old now, lol, and I've learned through bitter experience that if I end up wondering if he's going to call and there are gaps of two-three days in between calls, he's not that interested. I know some guys think they have to follow rules about not contacting girls for three days after a date and so on. If he's young, he might be doing this, but ignoring your texts is not polite. It implies he's not that interested or he's occupied with someone else or something else. When I've dated guys in the past who've been keen and have had to go away somewhere, they've told me they are going away, they've contacted me just before they go to say goodbye, they've asked me to stay in touch with them and they've even sent texts or phoned while away just to maintain contact. If you don't feel this is happening, then put it down to experience and be patient. Someone will come along who wants to do all these things and then you'll be wondering if he isn't being too clingy! Link to post Share on other sites
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