Finding friends & partners when one works from home

[sensualspirit]

Hi all,

 

I'm new to the MB.

 

Just thought I'd start a thread.

 

I was all gung ho when I first came across the Internet back in 1998. Since I'm a visionary, I thought it was THE answer to me finding like minded people.

 

At first when living in Toronto I only sought out people within my own city, but eventually I expanded to world wide since for me the person was way more important than the location (although I wanted to get away from the cold).

 

Since I'm not your "typical" human, I thought the Internet would bring like minded people to me, but really it hasn't.

 

At first when I didn't care about relationships & was only having sex, it was easy, but eventually that became tired, boring & it started to take a tole on me spiritually, so I stopped.

 

Once I started looking for long term relationships, it became a lot harder to find like minded people since I'd say 80-90% of all people online (not just men) are seeking casual sex.

 

Finally after years of relying upon Internet dating sites I finally stopped, realizing that everyone I came into contact with was either so insecure I couldn't deal with them, or they were just playing games.

 

So, I swore off of internet dating even though my profiles are still live & active.

 

Now all I get are nasty individuals who have nothing better to do with their time than message me to call me names, or people who write to me a couple of times & then disappear.

 

I'm not complaining, it's just become clearer to me since being online that many humans are very dysfunctional. That's one of the reasons I can't deal with them, I look for people who are more secure with themselves, they have worked on themselves spiritually & emotionally (same thing sort of) & they wish to grow to become better at living, not stay stuck in their dysfunction.

 

I'm not saying I'm perfect, far from it, but I'm certainly not an insecure person who runs away either.

 

In fact I'm all about respect, open communication (even if it's uncomfortable) & being honest. I owe that to whomever I come into contact with for them & for myself.

 

It's hard because I don't work outside my home so I don't meet people that way, & since I moved to the Windsor area, there's been even less of a choice of like minded people although Toronto was nasty, so it's pretty much the same over there.

 

I wonder if others have the same sort of issues & if yes, how they have solved them.

 

I plan to move from here soon, the pollution & terrible water have taken a tole on my health, so I'm still open to relocation, & I am investigating BC, although it is very expensive out there.

 

Thanks for listening & hope everyone is having a great weekend!

 

 

Michelle