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i met this girl at my school and we have been walking home together for a few weeks now. we really just started getting to know one another and now i have feelings towerd her but i cant really tell if she has any for me or not.

 

we have only a few things in common other than that we are complete opposites. The thing is we can talk all the way home and all the way to school in the morning, but when we try to hang out together like when my or her friends are around we dont talk to eachother at all

 

how can i find out if she likes me? and what should i do when we are around other people?

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I don't know how old you are so it's difficult to answer your questions.

 

My first response is that you are basically situational friends...you get along with each other nicely because you both share the goal of getting to and from school. Other than that you have little in common. That's not really a good basis for anything more than some nice walks.

 

Also, a couple of weeks of walking back and forth to school is hardly enough time for anybody to develop serious feelings. Healthy feelings are usually built over time during which two people date and learn lots about each other by experiencing different situations together. Life is about lots more than walking back and forth to school.

 

The fact that there is no interaction between the two of you when you hang out together, even if you make a good try, may either indicate that she is shy, she is afraid to show others she likes you, or she just isn't interested. Many people will be interested in somebody for a specific purpose...such as while at work or while walking to and from school...but otherwise have no interest when that isn't called for.

 

I would just have some patience and see if something develops over time. Just be cool and be nice to her.

 

It sounds like you're fairly young and if that's the case, she may just need more time to get comfortable being with you outside your walking regimen.

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If both of you are shy amongst a group of friends I would just ask her out. Make it something not too heavy and fun. Don't let her know you have too many feelings just yet. Just take it slow and steady.

 

If you are the shy one and she is naturally social, I don't like your chances at all. At school age social girls go for the social boys because they are very conscious of developing a self image based on the popularity of who they are with. If this is the case, I would develop something more over time with her. Don't ask her, just see if she asks you. If you hit her with any deep stuff right now she will bolt.

 

If she's the shy one, treat her very gently. Ask her to something that involves just the two of you for now, and do not under any circumstances try and show off how cool or social you are. She will feel very pressured.

 

Based on my school experiences (being the shy guy) this is pretty much how it went.

 

Oliver

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