Brady_to_Moss Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 It seems as if people only talk with or date people they know. I have never seen a random conversation between two people that has lead to more. Maybe becasue i am at college and everyone has their groups but it just doesnt seem like the right thing to do. It seems like 99% of the people now a days will just brush you off. Does locations have anything to do with it? I am from Mass and most people up here in the NE are very snobby and think they are the ****. I know the south is pretty friendly. If i were to walk up to a girl i have seen for the first time in my life, and ask her for her number, that seems like such a werid thing. What girls really want random guys trying to pick them up? Link to post Share on other sites
windows Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 chances are, thats mass media affecting how you think dating works. depending on your area, maybe dating is like that but also the chances are dating has different mechanics. figure out the mechanics of where you're at. oh and if a random would pick up a girl? depending on the environment, she could be very flattered or pass you off for a creep. Make sure you're not in a situation where you are the latter. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 I have seen this before.. but it's rather unusual.. People don't scream at the top of their lungs when they ask someone they don't know for a date.. it's very subtle.. and usually done in a way that no one will notice.. Link to post Share on other sites
endorphins Posted April 28, 2009 Share Posted April 28, 2009 dont let this affect anything, keep on trying.. though you will learn most people over your way are negative, cynical and paranoid.. Link to post Share on other sites
thegoodlife Posted April 30, 2009 Share Posted April 30, 2009 I notice this too actually. My mom and I have talked about this numerous times and she always says how things aren't 'like the used to be back in her day'. Everyone that I know that is dating, is dating someone from our group of friends. No one is really open to outsiders, or goes on dates with randoms. I can understand feeling like you want to know a person before you start dating, but your soulmate most likely isn't in your close knit group of friends (though I know many people who believe that, but they haven't experienced being with anyone else from the "outside" world). I prefer not to date friends or coworkers, so I'm one of the few in the pack that have actually walked up to a stranger and asked for their number. Link to post Share on other sites
rob_asaad Posted April 30, 2009 Share Posted April 30, 2009 I feel ya on this. But the truth is, it is what it is. Most guys don't have the confidence to talk to a random girl; most girls don't have the interest to talk to a random guy. Join a fraternity or student organization on campus. It's a great way of meeting people. I know a lot of guys that have hooked up with their current girlfriends that way. Link to post Share on other sites
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